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have you pierced your daughters ears?

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Justposting · 22/04/2018 20:45

Still awaiting baby girls arrival, probably far to early to be thinking about this. Have you pierced your daughters ears? if so at what age do you feel it is appropriate, my sister did her baby at just a few months old. I have a friend who thinks it’s not fair on the child unless they are old enough to ask for it themselves, I am currently in two minds,
What are your thoughts?

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MonicaGellerHyphenBing · 22/04/2018 21:00

No! No no no. Sorry but I think it's awful to pierce a baby's ears when they have no choice in the matter. I know in some cultures it's perfectly normal but it's just not for me.

My DD is still young but she certainly won't be having her ears pierced until she is older and actually wants to have it done (and only if I deem her mature enough to look after the piercing). My niece is 11 and has absolutely no interest in having hers pierced, in fact she is quite horrified at the idea.

SenoritaViva · 22/04/2018 21:01

I'm considering it as DD has asked. She's going to secondary school in Sept. think I'll do it as a well done for SATS thing plus she can get used to them over the summer holidays.

Would never do a baby, no consent.

Parkrunner25 · 22/04/2018 21:02

When she's old enough to consent to it I'll consider it. I don't understand how anyone can take their perfect newborn and allow someone to (a) assault them (that's what you would call making holes anywhere else on their body) and (b) inflict pain on them.

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Cotswoldmama · 22/04/2018 21:02

I think when they're old enough to ask to have them done and will understand it hurts. I had mine done when I was about 7 my sister was 5 and had hers done at the same time. It was our choice

SpectacularAardvark · 22/04/2018 21:02

Up to you but a lot of people will judge you even if they pretend not to.
I wouldn't for many reasons but that's my decision.

bonpinkbon · 22/04/2018 21:03

Babies with pierced ears doesn't look nice at all and all I think it the poor kid. I was 8 and I'd probably get my daughters done around the same age but only if she asked.

fridaybloodyfriday · 22/04/2018 21:03

Its barbaric

PancakesAndMapleSyrup · 22/04/2018 21:04

Both my DDs had theirs done as babies at 5 months old. Here people are up in arms about it, on the continent it is bog standard. Both had very small gold studs. No issues with their ears healing as they had years before they needed to come out. My elder dd now wears hers in the school hols only as she cannot wear them for school. They dont close up after 6 weeks of being left out and cause no issues. Neither DD is 'chavvy' in the slightest.

GaraMedouar · 22/04/2018 21:04

I don't agree with piercing a baby's ears. Most of the little girls in my DD's class have their ears pierced ,age 7. DD has asked but we've said no, not until she's older ,at least secondary school.

greathat · 22/04/2018 21:05

Def not til secondary school. I had to walk out of a Claire;s once as they were piercing a babies ears, the screaming while the assistant was trying to get the mum to pin the child still harder. I felt bad enough for immunizations but that had a purpose! I think it should be banned :( Poor little things. My daughter always used to pull at her ears when she was tired too. She would have ripped her ears to bits if an earring had been in there

lauryloo · 22/04/2018 21:06

It’s sore afterwards. Why would you want to inflict that on someone who is too young to understand.

nancy75 · 22/04/2018 21:07

Dd was 10 when she had hers done and was one of the first of her friends.
I don’t like big hoops on little kids but small studs don’t bother me one way or the other.
My mum had my ears pierced when I was very young as was the done thing with her family/friends at the time. I can confirm I still have both ears and don’t regard my Mum as a monster of any kind.

dementedpixie · 22/04/2018 21:09

Dd hasn't asked for them and is 14. I'm not against her getting them done but she's not interested

flubdub · 22/04/2018 21:12

Not on a baby! It looks so chavvy.
My daughter is 5 and wants hers doing in the summer holidays. I'm unsure.

DramaAlpaca · 22/04/2018 21:14

Piercing babies' ears is always a very contentious subject on here, OP, as I'm sure you know now if you've been reading the replies.

I'm in the waiting until they are teenagers camp myself.

76mum · 22/04/2018 21:15

The younger (baby) is better as they don't touch them so they don't get infected etc.
I've heard of to many young 5+ girls who have infections etc

My daughter had hers done at age 2 she's been fine. She loves her earrings

AtSea1979 · 22/04/2018 21:15

DD is not allowed to have hers done. When she’s an adult and old enough to consent to having holes in her ears then that’s up to her but whilst she’s a child and in my care she’s not having it done.

Knittedfairies · 22/04/2018 21:15

Please don’t do it; it looks horrible.

64BooLane · 22/04/2018 21:15

on the continent it is bog standard

Meh. In the US, circumcision is routine/totally standard (or at least it was for my generation) - that’s another thing that’s very different here. In both cases it suggests a widespread preference here for not pointlessly hurting babies, which seems fairly progressive and desirable tbh.

Moominfan · 22/04/2018 21:16

I had mine done as a child and hated it. If you have it done from being a baby your used to it. Or wait till teens when old enough to care for them themselves

Rainbowqueeen · 22/04/2018 21:19

I wanted it to be my DCs decision. So I waited until they were old enough to decide. One has had them pierced, one has chosen not to. I don't think it's right to take that choice away from a person.

Also as my kids are now teenagers, I've learnt that there are so many things that they want and things that you have to say no to, for many reasons. So it was good to have ear piercing as something that I could say yes to, if that makes any sense.

I also think it means more to your child if they are old enough to make the decision themselves and its part of helping them become an independent adult.

So I agree with your friend

Ginmakesitallok · 22/04/2018 21:19

Dd2 got hers done on her 7th birthday. Dd1 doesn't want hers done. I hate seeing babies with their ears pierced.

CarlPoppaJaJiggyJarJardoo · 22/04/2018 21:20

All mine were six months old.

sugarplumfairy28 · 22/04/2018 21:22

The only reason to pierce a babies ears is the parents vanity. There is no purpose to it what so ever. I was 5 when I first had my ears pierced, I did nag my Mum repeatedly and even though she explained it I wasn't actually prepared for how much it would hurt and how long it would either. Also because they were done 1 at a time, the second is wonky because I moved.

I now have several piercings and a 7 year old DD. She is more than happy with clip ons and immediately turned her nose up when I said they did hurt.

Don't inflict pain on your baby just because it 'looks cute' and thinking they don't know any different. One day they will be poorly and in pain because that's life, and you will wish you could do anything to take that pain away for them, pierce a babies ears though and all you'll be is a hypocrite.

TalkinPeece · 22/04/2018 21:23

Cutting holes in the ears of your children
Cutting parts off your child's natural body
neither is acceptable

if, once that are an adult, they choose to cut / pierce themselves, its their choice

cutting the skin of a child for non medical reasons is assault

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