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4 week old and my partner is vile

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5moreminzzz · 28/03/2018 10:55

I just don't know what to do.
Had a horrible argument with OH last night, it all stemmed from me asking if we were going to be staying at his mums till late... which was a really bad thing to ask apparently and then me commenting because his back tyre needed blowing up and he was happy to drive like this so I made him take me and baby home and didn't go to his mums. I thought he'd of came home and it would of been okay, but it wasn't 🙁
He came home not speaking a word to me, just sulking about, I then heard him go upstairs to bed. I followed him up, he said I'm going to bed really angrily. I asked am i not getting a break today then ( I am bf and literally had held baby all day) he then kicked off saying I was a joke and hardly do anything just sit there all day! I asked so am i doing a bad job??! Told me how his mum looks after his baby nephew, has the place spotless and still does tea etc.
This really upset me as I'm trying my best. He then followed me down stairs (half thought he was coming to say sorry) shouting and swearing me that I have 2 weeks to get rid of the dog 😢 said if I don't he taking the baby. I feel devastated by all this.
We've only been together 2 years, I've had my dog for 8 and can't imagine not having him. Also being told basically I'm not a good mum/oh just feel like I wanna get in the car and drive far far away 😢

OP posts:
mathanxiety · 10/04/2018 19:41

Let's hope your HV and the police officer meant post nasal drip.

OP, you need to contact Women's Aid today, and start working with them as soon as possible to get you safe.

5moreminzzz · 10/04/2018 22:11

I know!! Everything he's done and he might have PND, not like he'll drive me to it 😠
He's not been near since that happened Saturday. We've argued over tx. He's not once asked how the baby is though

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mathanxiety · 11/04/2018 07:49

Do not engage with him at all, even by texting.

He just wants to keep on fighting with you and hurting you if possible.

Stop responding to him even though you may be itching to set the record straight.

Please stop believing he cares about the baby. He does not. The most likely feeling he has wrt the baby is insane jealousy.

www.womensaid.org.uk/domestic-abuse-directory/
Women's Aid - please, please call them for support. Tell them everything you are facing right now.

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GrooovyLass · 11/04/2018 08:02

I would stop engaging too. I understand why you were having him back in your house but he's shown you that he can't even keep the "nice" act up for a week. Stay strong x

Mix56 · 12/04/2018 11:47

This is not a battle you are going to win. He will not suddenly agree he is unreasonable & change.
You have to accept he is not the person you believed him to be & carry on without him

mathanxiety · 14/04/2018 06:01

How are things, 5moreminzzz?

Have you managed to call Women's Aid?

Any further communication from him? Hopefully you are ignoring him if so.

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