Don't let your mum talk you out of reporting this to the police.
A non-molestation order is a court order issued by a judge and signed by him or her, directed at a person who is considered by the court to be a danger to a specific other person (in your case, you, and potentially the baby). The order is delivered to the dangerous individual by an officer of the court.
It basically orders the dangerous person to stay away from the other person and not to contact her. If he tries to approach you or communicate with you while the order is in place, you need to call police to notify them and they will begin to enforce consequences for defiance of the court.
While the order is in place, the police are required to prioritise any calls from you.
I have a cousin who is a police photographer. She takes photos of crime scenes. Believe me, the police would far prefer to have this sort of order in place than to find a seriously injured (or worse) mother, baby or pet in your home.
From the Women's Aid website:
"A non-molestation order is aimed at preventing your partner or ex-partner from using or threatening violence against you or your child, or intimidating, harassing or pestering you, in order to ensure the health, safety and well-being of yourself and your children..."
"...Under new legislation, a breach of a non-molestation order is now a criminal offence; however, you should still be able to take your abuser back to the civil court for breaking the order, if you prefer this."
You really, really need to call Women's Aid as well as the police.
0808 2000 247.
Leave a message if you get a machine response.
They will call you back if you give them your number and good times to call.
rightsofwomen.org.uk/get-information/violence-against-women-and-international-law/domestic-violence-injunctions/#A%20non-molestation%20order
This is from the RIghts of Women website:
"A non-molestation order"
"A non-molestation order is a kind of injunction which can protect you and any relevant child from violence or harassment. You can obtain a non-molestation order against someone who has been physically violent or against someone who is harassing, intimidating or pestering you. You can apply for a non-molestation order even if you still want to (or have to) live with your abuser."
"Examples of what a non-molestation order might include:"
"Your abuser must not be violent, threaten violence, intimidate, pester or harass you
Your abuser must not contact you by telephone, email, social media or in person
Your abuser must not attend or contact for any reason your place of work"
"When deciding whether to grant a non-molestation order the court will consider all of your circumstances, including the need to secure the health, safety and well-being of you and any children. You therefore need to show the court how your health, safety or well-being or that of your children would be at risk if you are not granted the order."
If you own the home or the tenancy to the home in your sole name, you are not married to your abuser and your abuser has no legal entitlement to your home then the non-molestation order can also stop your abuser from coming to the home. Otherwise, if you want to stop the abuser from coming to your home then you need to apply for an occupation order."
rightsofwomen.org.uk/get-advice/family-law/
Rights of Women website again:
This group offers phone consultation on your legal rights.
Unfortunately their lines will be closed on Monday 9 April but open again on Tuesday.
Please call -
For women in England and Wales:
020 7251 6577
Monday – Thursday 7pm – 9pm
Friday 12pm – 2pm
For women in London:
020 7608 1137
Monday 11am-1pm, Tuesday 2pm – 4pm
Wednesday 2pm – 4pm
Thursday 2pm – 4pm
You need to act, to stop trusting, and to stop hoping things will blow over or improve.