Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Parenting

For free parenting resources please check out the Early Years Alliance's Family Corner.

Original poster

my neighbour assaulted my 5 year old!!!!

352 replies

hangingbyathread · 16/10/2006 16:18

saturday my dd was playing out front with the group when my neighbour in opposite house was coming back from the shop,my dd&her friend were standing in her way like kids do arms spread ect,she told my dd to move,when she didnt move she got her arm&shoved her out the way&my dd landed backwards in a bush,i have contacted the police&they have logged it as assault but now monday they still havnt come apparently they are "busy",iam fuming,i want to hit her but i know i will be arrested if i do,also what has upset me is i thought my friend&neighbour who dd plays with was my friend&to me loyalty is a big part of friendship but my friend has still carried on as normal,not stuck up for my dd&if it was me i would make it clear to the assaulter it is wrong to do that to a child(as i have said to her but got no response)also the problem i have now is my dd5 wants to go play out the front but i have tried explaining to her she cant until the police has been as the person may hurt her again as she obviouly thinks she"s got away with it as she has been sniggering&making gestures at me on the school run,what do i do iam so upset

OP posts:
Bozza · 18/10/2006 09:43

You stick your baby in the pram and get out there. And I live on a small cul-de-sac and there is traffic - the neighbours have cars and visitors. My DS is 5 and I am starting to let him play out while I am gardening in the front so he has a bit of independence but I am there. This is usually when my DD is having her nap because the rest of the time she wants to be out as well. So if DS is playing out the front, I am either wheeling DD around on her trike or walking around with her and the doll's pram or whatever.

I really agree with everything colditz has posted.

redbullbloodandbump · 18/10/2006 09:45

i dont see why you have to keep defending your self to those on this thread, if i was you just walk away dont let them get to you, at the end of the day you know you did the right thing by calling the police you dont have to justify your actions to anyone.
Im really shocked by peoples reactions on here as this is abuse on a child we are talking about not telling the child off with words but using physical strength on a child,good luck hangingbyathread redbull xx

Original poster
hangingbyathread · 18/10/2006 09:46

Bozza so when you are gardening your eyes are not on your child so whats the point in being out there

OP posts:
sorrell · 18/10/2006 09:47

This reply has been deleted

Message deleted by MNHQ. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines.

gemmz · 18/10/2006 09:47

redbullbloodandbump - you said you havent read the whole thread!

redbullbloodandbump · 18/10/2006 09:51

copied from my post

By redbullbloodandbump on Wednesday, 18 October, 2006 9:38:13 AM
i havent read this thread all the way through just the first message and a general jist of what is peoples responses.

like i said A GENERAL JIST, im not even going to bother wasting my time arguing my point, at the end of the day the law says no one is allowed to hurt a child and that law was broken, im off to have a bovril,saladcream and pickle sarny

Original poster
hangingbyathread · 18/10/2006 09:51

sorrell f.g.s she used physical force on my dd would you be happy if that was yourdd,my dd was not/is not rude/she is an angel thanks,i will leave this post now so post what you want i wont read anymore,i know i did the right thing by calling the police it was that or deck her!!!!

OP posts:
badkarma · 18/10/2006 10:00

She probably just moved her out of her way..as I did with a little boy pressing buttons on the ATM machine I was going to use yesterday!! I simply moved him out of my way whilct smiling at him and jokingly asking him if he left any cash for me... his mum said to me "Just move him, tell him to move!" She was sitting on a seat nearby feeding her baby. I am sure your neighbour didn't shove your dd.. regardless of so-called witnesses. I have to say that I would be deeply disappointed in my child if she (And a friend) were standing with their arms across the footpath and people couldn't get by, this is pure bad manners. Perhaps you should teach her good manners and how to get on with people instead of how to grass on people that might have had a hard day and are at the end of their tether and are confrnted by 2 cheeky 5yr olds blocking their path.

moljam · 18/10/2006 10:02

my 5 year old says shes pushed by everyone!did you see it?

GRUMPYGHOUL · 18/10/2006 10:15

If as an adult you were standing in the street and another adult pushed you and you fell it would be an assult. Depending on where you live your chances of the police responding vary small quiet village (reasonable) big town (zero)

Would imagine "hanging" was just sounding off and had she had no intention of actually thumping this woman (although doubtless would have liked too)Ive had a talking to for my frivoulous use of the words so we have to bear in mind that some PC people here take things far too literally.

I wouldnt allow a 5 year old to play without constant supervision, I would imagine she will not be blocking the path again dont let this get you down your daughter has probably forgotten all about it.

I agree with Lulu mama - write her a note say sorry DD was blocking the path but she is only 5 and you have spoken to her. But say she fell, was hurt and upset and you are disappointed that as an adult she could not have just walked round them.

at people who think the CHILD should apologise and amazed that anyone would be scared of a 5 year old.

GRUMPYGHOUL · 18/10/2006 10:17

Hanging I really wouldnt keep checking this thread it will just keep upsetting you (hard to do I know)

colditz · 18/10/2006 10:34

yes, HBAT, you are meant to stand outside with her. That is exactly what I meant.

No I do not lock my children up. I go with them.

colditz · 18/10/2006 10:36

HBAT, you seem to be deliberately missing the point.

No

It is not ok for an adult to hurt a child.

Nobody here has said it is ok.

Neither is it ok for an adult to hurt another adult.

Nobody is critisizing the way you let your daughter play out.

But it has been pointed out that if such a small child had not been unsupervised, the whole incident would not have occurred.

Of course you believe your daughter is a sweet, well mannered child, she is your daughter.

But the fact remains, she was standing in someone's way and refusing to move.

This is not an act of good manners. This is an act of bad manners.

My children will not need to be protected from other adults at the age of 5. I would be present.

sorrell · 18/10/2006 10:49

My daughter would not be allowed to be out on her own blocking other people's way to their house, so it simply wouldn't happen. I would be with her, and I would make her move!
I'm sorry your little girl fell down but I still think you are wasting police time.

Highlander · 18/10/2006 10:54

seems like the 5 year old was just doing what kids do - I remember playing that exact same game as a kid

Sadly, there's no chance of this conflict ever being resolved when both adults are also behaving like petulant children. The 5 year old is picking up on all of this and learning that this is an appropriate way to behave

nutcracker · 18/10/2006 11:11

Have quickly read thread and imo 5 yr old was wrong for blocking someones way, adult was wrong for shoving a child and mum was wrong to let a 5 yr old play out unsupervised.

No need to call police imo. You have tried to speak to the person concerned and they have blanked you, fine just steer clear of them then, and tell your dd not to block people trying to get home.

BIGlilBUBU · 18/10/2006 11:14

I think that hbat has had problems with this woman before, sounds like she really hates her and her dd proberbly knew this and doesnt like her either. Thats why the neighbour mover her dd out the way and not the other kid. Then hbat called the police as if to get one over on the woman.
Anyone agree? It just seems to me that theres been hate for this woman before the incident. I dont know I just get that feeling by the way hbat writes about this woman.

misdee · 18/10/2006 11:18

is thisd still going on?

Original poster
hangingbyathread · 18/10/2006 12:30

BIGlilBUBU its the other way round actualy,ill tell you the history,in the 6 weeks hols the said neighbours ds was playing out with my&other kids,he kept going up&down my drive on his bike(in between parked cars)i asked him not to keep going up&down my drive as dh is particular about his car however he didnt listen&came half off his bike sending the handle onto our car&a big big scratch,dh wasnt hp,he went out&told his mum&she said oh dear ill pay for it to be fixed get a qoute,few days later dh went&got a qoute&neighbour said i cannot pay,i cant afford it,i said to dh just let it drop as we have got to all live round her&the kids play together ect ect,all was fine for a few days,then the neighbour blanks me,i did try to talk to her but its her choice if she wants to blank me,she then does the same to my other neighbour&kids????then this happens-end of

OP posts:
frenchconnection · 18/10/2006 14:29

you should be out there watching your kids, a 5 yr old should not be let out to play and be rude to the public!!!

if that was my dd she would be in big trouble!!!

mummydear · 18/10/2006 14:31

Oh dear it just gets worse , its abit like she said ... he said ... she did this blah blah. She probably blanked you becuase she was embarrased about the damage and not being able to pay and does want conflict . Is that all the history is, if so then I think its all very petty and people need to grow up BIG STYLE !

mummydear · 18/10/2006 14:32

Should say ' she doesnt want conflict'

Original poster
hangingbyathread · 18/10/2006 14:39

frenchconnection yer yer

OP posts:
Original poster
hangingbyathread · 18/10/2006 14:42

how the hell is playing a game rude!

OP posts:
Spannapiana · 18/10/2006 14:42

I'm with you, french connection. If children can't be shown how to behave properly by their mum, who will teach them manners? I think it's about time the mum concerned stops bitching and gets on with parenting properly.

Swipe left for the next trending thread