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my neighbour assaulted my 5 year old!!!!

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hangingbyathread · 16/10/2006 16:18

saturday my dd was playing out front with the group when my neighbour in opposite house was coming back from the shop,my dd&her friend were standing in her way like kids do arms spread ect,she told my dd to move,when she didnt move she got her arm&shoved her out the way&my dd landed backwards in a bush,i have contacted the police&they have logged it as assault but now monday they still havnt come apparently they are "busy",iam fuming,i want to hit her but i know i will be arrested if i do,also what has upset me is i thought my friend&neighbour who dd plays with was my friend&to me loyalty is a big part of friendship but my friend has still carried on as normal,not stuck up for my dd&if it was me i would make it clear to the assaulter it is wrong to do that to a child(as i have said to her but got no response)also the problem i have now is my dd5 wants to go play out the front but i have tried explaining to her she cant until the police has been as the person may hurt her again as she obviouly thinks she"s got away with it as she has been sniggering&making gestures at me on the school run,what do i do iam so upset

OP posts:
LIZS · 18/10/2006 14:43

hangingbyathread I don't think there is much more to be gained from this thread until such time as you hear from the police.

Spannapiana · 18/10/2006 14:44

Awww Lizs but it's fun!!

Twinkie1 · 18/10/2006 14:50

I think you are doing more damage by telling your daughter that this personmay hurt her again FFS! We are talking about shoving here which is wrong but believe me I would be knocking on your door telling you just how rude your daughter was if she stood in front of me like that - you are hurting her more than this woman ever could putting the fear of god into her saying she may be hurt again!!!

And calling the police - do you think they don;t have important things to deal with - do you really think they are going to spend their time coming to visit you - it took 2 hours to get them here when we were burgled and that was awful, something we couldn't deal with = please be more mature about things and just turn the other cheek if you can't sort this out but don't terrify your daughter or over react and make things worse.

This woman was wrong to do what she did BTW but so were you.

BIGlilBUBU · 18/10/2006 15:08

Hbat thats what I thought. I thought that you probably had trouble with her before and thats why you flew off the handle. Nothing wrong with that it just explains why this whole thing really bothers you. Obviously you've expirienced that she's a bit of a bitch before, so when this happened you took it personally. When your dd came home and told you, you probably thought that f*ing woman how dare she. Automatically asuming it was out of spite. Where as if it had been someone else you may not have reacted the same.
I agree with everyone that thinks your dd should be told off for blocking the path. She does need to learn that if she'd done that to the wrong person something really bad could have happened.
However that doesnt make what that woman did right. She's very wrong to touch your child, she should have come straight over to your house and explained what happened. If she'd done that in the first place this whole thing would have blown over by now. Shes acted really badly firstly by pushing your child and secondly by not speaking to you about it. Very childish behaviour I think.

Original poster
hangingbyathread · 18/10/2006 15:20

blah blah has no one got anything different to say?other than whats been said

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SamhainWitch · 18/10/2006 15:22

Wow hanging, you really are very rude aren't you?

If someone agrees with you that's ok, but if anyone disagrees it becomes 'blah blah' and you're not interested.

Nice attitude.

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hangingbyathread · 18/10/2006 15:23

rude NO upset&angry YES

OP posts:
Ladymuck · 18/10/2006 15:23

You've had 200+ messages, what more do you want to hear? You've had everything from "Go on, thump her then" to "Turn the other cheek". Drop it, and it will blow over in no time.

Whoowhoobewhooooooh · 18/10/2006 15:24

PARP

mummydear · 18/10/2006 15:47

Hbat said 'blah blah has no one got anything different to say?other than whats been said '

Answer ; er.. NO !

Please take on board what the majority have said we can't be all wrong surely ? !

Spannapiana · 18/10/2006 16:22

Hear hear, Mummydear

Hangingbyathread get over yourself! If the police thought it was an important you'd have heard something by now, believe me.

What sanction did you give your child for being rude in the first place btw?

lulumama · 18/10/2006 16:25

i cannot believe this is still going on!! since monday!! absolutely agree with the last few posters....what more can be done or said?

and blatantly rude to do the blah blah blah thing when people are taking the time, two days after the OP to post!!

CountessDracula · 18/10/2006 16:33

How is hitting someone going to help?

lulumama · 18/10/2006 16:36

its not CD - the OP has had a slew of practical suggestions..but its not enough apparently...

Rhubarb · 18/10/2006 16:48

Go and give her a great big hug and kiss!

Bet no-one's suggested that then!

lulumama · 18/10/2006 16:49

that is certainly a different suggestion!!

Rhubarb · 18/10/2006 16:50

I'm stalking you!

Spannapiana · 18/10/2006 16:50

PMSL!!!

zippitippitoes · 18/10/2006 16:51

get an arbitrator to sort your relationship with your neighbour and yourself out..should be a link on your local council website

lulumama · 18/10/2006 16:53
piglit · 18/10/2006 17:02

Haven't checked this thread out for a while. Can't believe the OP hasn't just gone out and thumped her neighbour - it's obvioulsy what she wants to do.

misdee · 18/10/2006 17:03

oh go on, just thump her one. then she can call the police on you.

[sighs]

piglit · 18/10/2006 17:04

Great minds misdee....

misdee · 18/10/2006 17:08

lol.

mummylin2495 · 18/10/2006 17:08

i have just looked at another thread and see that hangingbyathread is suggesting to another mum that she teaches her child some manners !!!!