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my neighbour assaulted my 5 year old!!!!

352 replies

hangingbyathread · 16/10/2006 16:18

saturday my dd was playing out front with the group when my neighbour in opposite house was coming back from the shop,my dd&her friend were standing in her way like kids do arms spread ect,she told my dd to move,when she didnt move she got her arm&shoved her out the way&my dd landed backwards in a bush,i have contacted the police&they have logged it as assault but now monday they still havnt come apparently they are "busy",iam fuming,i want to hit her but i know i will be arrested if i do,also what has upset me is i thought my friend&neighbour who dd plays with was my friend&to me loyalty is a big part of friendship but my friend has still carried on as normal,not stuck up for my dd&if it was me i would make it clear to the assaulter it is wrong to do that to a child(as i have said to her but got no response)also the problem i have now is my dd5 wants to go play out the front but i have tried explaining to her she cant until the police has been as the person may hurt her again as she obviouly thinks she"s got away with it as she has been sniggering&making gestures at me on the school run,what do i do iam so upset

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welliemum · 16/10/2006 23:18

I'm with mummydear and misdee....

And hanging: at your last post. You are upset about your dd but there's no need to be vindictive.

If you post on a public webboard you must expect people to disagree. If you can't deal with that then you should avoid posting.

mummydear · 16/10/2006 23:48

Because I don't agree with someone I am now a harsh and unsupportive parent - well the world has gone mad !

An interesting insight as to how people interact with others who do not agree with them - think about it .

Time for bed ..........

misdee · 17/10/2006 09:56

what did she say about my children?

LIZS · 17/10/2006 09:59

perhaps we're better off not knowing misdee. Wasted sympathies for OP imho.

BloodyTenaLady · 17/10/2006 10:03

By involving the police I would be even more worried about my child and how this person might retaliate.

I think you may of been a bit rash to call the police at that stage but hey its done now.

I would keep a low profile and your child out of its way and let things blow over.

Avoidance is the best suggestion.

CountessDracula · 17/10/2006 10:04

This is not setting a good example to your dd

She is learning that to overreact is the norm and that whatever happens she is in the right

Would it not be more sensible to say to her "oh well never mind, what that lady was very naughty and she overreacted, but you were in her way, next time you should just move as some people don't like children blocking paths and demanding passwords"

Much more appropriate

I would also question what 5 year olds are doing on the pavement on their own!

misdee · 17/10/2006 10:29

oh but i do want to know.

did she say she pities my children? why?

BloodyTenaLady · 17/10/2006 10:38

misdee, you are getting into a cafuffle that she has just presented.

I read it as a general pity for kids who's parents didnt stick up for them.

There are too many views on this subject alone.

If it were my son I would of been livid that he didnt move out of the way when asked by an adult. So respect for the adult would be one of my issues.
However I think the person who moved her child to one side needs to understand the mind of a 5 year old and its imagination and that is where my energy would of been placed in explaining this to the neighbour and asking that if they had another problem with my son I would very much like to know about it.

colditz · 17/10/2006 10:49

Ok, child was being a pain in the arse, neighbour responded by bullying.

To prevent this happening again, I suggest You warn your child not to deliberately irritate people. Yes she is 5. Yes she is just acting like a normal 5 year old, but personally I find the average 5 year old pretty damn repulsive and I daresay that holds true for a lot of people. If you are five, blocking the path and an adult has already asked you to move, you move.

the neighbour's actions were disgusting BUT you can't do anything about the way she behaves. You are not responsible for your neighbour's behavior, but you are responsible for your daughter's behavior. If your daughter was out, alone, annoying adults to the extent that she got pushed by one, you should have been with her.

Spannapiana · 17/10/2006 10:49

Kids, it's very clear...

5 year old was playing a silly game as 5 year olds do
Woman shouldn't have shoved her out the way but it's no surprise that she did
Police shouldn't have been called, nothing serious happened
Mother over-reacted, get to grips girl!
Adults surely can communicate???

Bozza · 17/10/2006 10:51

TBH how do you know that this is the first incident where your DD has been rude to this neighbour?

misdee · 17/10/2006 10:51

dont want to get into a kefuffle, but i do stick up for my children, but i also teach them good manners. they have spent a lot of time in hospitals, imagine if they blocked a person there demanding a password. as it is dd2 rubs her face down one long corrior, and i have to literally haul her out of the way of passing trollies.

please dont pity my children, they have had a stranger life than most, but they are well behaved kids i na loving family.

colditz · 17/10/2006 10:54

misdee I doubt she really pities them, she is just peeved that she isn't getting much "Yeah hit 'er! Da bitch! Call da rozzasXXX"

BloodyTenaLady · 17/10/2006 10:55

I think most of us would protect our kids but there is a balance which clearly wasnt recognised in this instance.

Misdee is your spelling of cafuffle right cos I havent got a clue

BloodyTenaLady · 17/10/2006 10:55

I think most of us would protect our kids but there is a balance which clearly wasnt recognised in this instance.

Misdee is your spelling of cafuffle right cos I havent got a clue

colditz · 17/10/2006 10:56

I think

BloodyTenaLady · 17/10/2006 10:56

Stop it Colditz!!!!

BloodyTenaLady · 17/10/2006 10:57

pedants cap, what on earth is that?

misdee · 17/10/2006 10:57

i spell it kerfuffle. i am just a lousey typist.

BloodyTenaLady · 17/10/2006 10:58

No misdee, i really didnt know either.

moljam · 17/10/2006 17:04

wow this discussion was quite tame yesterday!after re reading i realised i forgot to say,totally agree 5 year shouldnt be out playing unsupervised on pavement.8 year old doesnt count as responsible minder.i know if you dont have a garden it must be hard but this is why we must be out with them at this age so things like this dont happen.

HumphreyComfreyCushion · 17/10/2006 19:53

Just wondering if hanging has decided how to resolve this yet?

skippydog · 17/10/2006 23:29

Unbeliebable response mostly - a child gets assaulted - and to be fair she was doing what most of us and ours do at that age - well sorry but the police would have been charging me cos i would have decked her.
So 'politically correct' in this group - and very little 'real world'

Piffle · 17/10/2006 23:36

skippy most of the posts say no police, get kid to not irritate folk.

HumphreyComfreyCushion · 17/10/2006 23:39

don't know what's so politically correct about advising that everyone apologises and gets over it.

but then again, my 'real world' wouldn't include 'decking her' (neighbour), but I see that as a bonus!

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