New actively potty training thread - please join

[PetitFilou1]

This is minus Cod's expert advice at the moment as she's busy (see boot camp thread)
We've been going a week (ds is 2.4) and he's doing ok I think. Had a poo in the potty last night - first (in the right place) of the week! and and an all dry day on Friday - Weekend was not so good as we were visiting people both days but he was still pretty good considering. How is everyone else doing?

Hi, Can I join in?

We have been going days. DD is 27mths.
All wees and poos on potty as long as she is naked. She just does it and tells me after. If we go out I put her in pull ups but put her on the big toilet every hour - only done twice but no leaks so far :-)

Yesterday she told me she needed to go as the potty was inside and we were out.The 2 things I now need to achieve are getting her to tell me, and wearing pants :-)

Come on - are me and tamsino billy no mates? Must be more of you!

Am joining but not actively "training". When he's ready, he'll do it. Won't he?

been training for ever!!! DD really good generally about weeing and pooing on potty but only at my initiation. Doesn't tell me and not too keen on going on toilet been at it for about 6 months now and she's starting pre-school in September so need to get it moving along a bit now. Very few accidents although had one this morning all over the sportshall floor!!!! Any suggestions?

Hello everyone. I'll join you. We started this morning with a vengence after a bit of half hearted experimentation. Straight into big boys pants, except for sleeps. So far we've had 2 wees on the floor, one on my TV magazine (Grrrr) and about 10 in the toilet . DS is just over 2 but seems really up for it. I'm hoping this way is the best way to do it. Am slightly tempted to use the slow, pull ups method instead.

Knat, I don't have any suggestions because I don't have a clue what I'm doing but it sounds like you are doing pretty well, really.

Shall join you though been potty training on and off for ages. DD is 2.9 and just when I think we've cracked it, she has an accident. One today outside, never told me she needed so had to walk like John Wayne back from the shop and again indoors - puddle on floor. On the plus side she will happily go by herself other times and manage to do all of the bits herself - flushing, wiping, handwashing. She has also been taking her nappy off in bed and then wetting her mattress. She's still in her cot so time to get her into a bed I think

I also have a DS who is way to young to potty train but am curious - do I teach him to wee standing up or what when the time comes?

Hi everyone. We've just been out with disposable trainer pants on for an hour. I got DD to wee before we went and nothing while I'm out. Then she wouldnt let me take them off when we got inside. They are the feel n learn ones. I am so happy as for the first time in some kind of pants she said quick quick pants. She had a tiny trickly in the pants and then finished in the potty. Thats the first successful non-naked wee on potty. Hurrah....

Ponka - you could try no pants for a while and see if he can get to the potty quicker/see whats happening.

Pagan - I dont have a DS but i think you teach them sat down and then move to standing.

Hi there. We started this morning, straight into big boys pants, after 3 or so weeks of practising sitting on the potty twice a day (got about 5 wees and a poo in that time).

Have had 2 wees, a tiny poo and 7 accidents. Still having probs getting him to help take his pants down.

Midday nap now (I'm in Canada) in nappy.

He's 22 months and seems to be ready. No going back now! He's learning sitting down.

WE started a week ago - by accident. HE saw his friend on the potty, wanted to try and we were off. The first day was brilliant - about 15 to 20 wees on the potty, about 60% of them unprompted.

The next day he had to go to nursery - not much progress.

The next day, he did his first poo on the potty plus several pees but lots of accidents

Thursday had to go to nursery - not much progress.

Friday the start of our official four day blitz. Well that's where it started going wrong. Still doing poos happily on potty and the occasional wee, but lots more accidents and lots more fighting about sitting on the potty.

Saturday, got worse. Wouldn't go near the potty, big strop, peed all over the place almost to make a point.

Sunday decided a new approach of just leave him to it and see what happens. A lot of mess is what happened.

MOnday (today) amazing start to the day - 4 unprompted wees and 1 poo on the potty - all because he was naked. But then I put him in underpants and shorts and he just peed straight through them. Moved to just undies - peed through those. Moved to naked again - just peed on the floor. Back to square 1.

Severe frustration as tomorrow he has to go back to nursery again. I can see this being a loooong process.

We started potty training ages ago and just about got it cracked, but he's now doing poos in his pants again:( He's not even bothered about it. Any ideas? I'm tearing my hair out.

ds has been saying wee wee for ages, as soon as he gets on toilet he says finished hand now. was in playgroup helping out the other day went to wash hands and immediately he sees someone else on toilet he tries to rip his nappy off to do wee. Had first unprompted wee on potty on Fri after trying to get on toilet and doing it on floor. Today he started to do a wee and stopped when he realised what he was doing but refused to then sit on potty and do it. Then after trying to keep eye on him to catch him in the act he managed to wee all over a pile of coats on the floor.

He knows what its all for just not sure the connection is there yet he is 2/3 months btw.

I am going through this too since Friday so I'll join in.
DD is 2.1. We have had a pretty good start as long as she doesn't have pants on which she seems to think are the next best thing to nappies.

Tried baggy shorts yesterday and she seemed to get that they weren't poo-able in. Trouble is that she can't pull them up and down in time so we have to make her tell us loudly and clearly.

Also, she only seems to know she is going to go about 30 seconds before she goes.

Thankfully I am back at work today and it is dp's turn with her, so it is a welcome break.

Sansouci - not sure about that, some of my friend's children have initiated it but I know some who haven't. One friend trained her ds at 3.5 as he wasn't showing any interest. She had it cracked in a week then though.
Knat - I hate to mention the dreaded GF but I think she says you need to pass some of the responsibility to them eventually. Maybe you've got to go through a few wet days before she realises she needs to tell you?
Ponka - Don't use pull ups! My sister used to work in a nursery and she got me through the first few days saying DO NOT GO BACK - KEEP HIM IN PANTS repeatedly. We had loads of accidents on day 2 but ds is getting much better now we're over a week in. I think it is going to take a looooong time with the poos though. Also ds is 2.4, only little and has only just got interested in pulling his shorts up and down so I think the whole going on his own thing is going to take a while too. Very jealous of others who have that sorted already. Btw Pagan we are teaching him sitting down but he keeps trying standing up (nothing ever comes out though!) Will teach him aim with the ping pong ball in the loo trick when he's ready I think. In the meantime I don't really want wee all over the place!
Longwaytogo - how about starting with sitting him on the potty three times a day - see if he starts to do something. We did that for AGES with ds. He was weeing in it at 20 months then stopped for a long time then started again, then demonstrated to me that he knew he needed a wee and went. Bang that was it I went for it! Jumped the gun slightly probably but too late now!

Hi all, well we had a slight mishap last night as DD has such a tantrum she wet herself. Her first accident in a week. This morning all was bak to normal (no accidents but naked) until we went out. I put pull ups on her and she was fine, even going on travel potty when mummy had her wee. Unfortunately when we got home she did a poo in the pull ups and didnt even tell me. Beginning to see what everyone means about them and will try trainer pants next outing :-(

DD did well today. Was out and about and she even lifted her potty out the boot of the car to do a poo in it. She did end up weeing in her car seat though whilst I took the shopping in - note to self: take her to toilet first, the shopping can wait!!

Hi, DS is 2.1, and does do a wee in the potty before bath time, and sometimes will oblige in the day time. Other times he won't even go near it. Figure he's not ready. I'm not ready to go down the GF "potty training in one week" thing - sounds like a nightmare week of not going out and spending all day every day in the same room... Guess the garden would do now, but there he definitely doesn't see the point of a potty, well who would when you can wee on a plant/poo under a tree??!

I read Christopher Green's Toddler Taming section on potty training - seemed really sensible - get them used to sitting on a potty/toilet fully clothed first, if they won't sit on it, they certainly won't deposit on it! Seems slower but less stressful?

However, we have a new baby arriving late August/early Sept, so then I think I'll lose the chance for a while?

Also have a problem with DS doing a poo in his nappy EVERY morning before he gets up - and then none all day. How do I crack this one??? He's in a bed, but I don't want to leave a potty in there for him, as I'd get poo all over the walls probably... I've tried all the protein at lunchtime, small tea, but it makes bugger all difference....

Am on Day 2 now. Yesterday arvo had mixed results with the days total being 12 accidents and 5 results.

Today is a different story!! 8 results and only 4 accidents this morning before his nap!!! He's actually starting to get on without me asking him, occasionally, too! Mostly naked though..the pants I bought, even though large, seem not to be large enough for him to get down easily.

I'm following Gina Ford. It is really restrictive but I'm feeling pretty positive about his progress at the moment. She tells you not to tell them off for having an accident but i was so knackered this morning that I growled (only small one) at him for piddling on the couch...he seems to understand a bit better now...felt like a mean old cow though as I know he's only young.

Hurrah. DS did his first poo in the potty today. I'm really happy. We've had 4 accidents today and the rest has ended up in the toilet or potty but it's all me doing the reminding, not him taking the initiative. I hope that will come.

Petitfilou. Thanks. I think I need someone to say "Do not go back" to me repeatedly, too

Confession! I jumped up and down so much when DS did the poo that I actually weed myself (well, a little bit). I've recently had a baby. Must must must do those pelvic floors. NOW!

Ha ha Ponka I can go one better than that pee story (have ds 2.4 and dd nearly 10 months) but it would be TMI. I NEVER remember to do my bloody pelvic floor exercises.......
The taking own initiative will come. Ds took a good few days before he started asking. Now he's part asking part needing reminders. Still having accidents but we'll get there....
Claire Doesn't sound like your ds is ready to me and with a new baby on the way I would DEFINITELY leave it and wait until you feel vaguely normal after the baby has been born (if necessary) before attempting it. It is really stressful to start with and you and your dh/dp need to be in full teamwork mode to do it. I have the GF book but think doing it in a week is a little bit hopeful, ds is 2.4 and we're a week and a half in and he's still having accidents (although he is getting better all the time). Some children can be done in a week I think but I think they are usually the ones nearer 3 years old........ Someone will probably correct me but I'm talking about the majority not the unusual ones...

hi everyone, I need some advise on this whole potty training thing!!!

Iv been training dd on day 2 now, she has doen both wee's and poos with only one accident. Im worrid about confusing her as i stayed in yesterday but today im going to ahve to put her in a nappy as i need to go out to pay bills. Dd will be 2 in August, she doesnt exactly say she wanst to go potty but she takes herself or i remind her.

Whats everyone opinions on wheather im confusing her by putting her in a nappy while im out???

I always said when i start training i wont go back to nappies (only for nightime) but now its actually come to it, i cant see how while im out i can get dd out of buggy every 20 mins or so to sit her on the potty!!!

I want to carry on as shes doing so well.

Any advise would be great

Goodluck to everyone else training and there lo's

thanks petitfilou - I will carry on as I've started at the moment, and keep potties in obvious places for him should he wish to get on. No pressure, and I won't force it.

Prettyfull, I have visions of you getting your lo out of the buggy every 20 mins and dangling her over a potty/the curb - is that what is advised rather than going back into a nappy whenever you need to go out? I have seen toddlers doing wees in the most unlikely places, so don't worry about it if you do take the potty with you... I did read somewhere that it might be a good idea to cover the buggy seat with a plastic bag with a towel on top, in case they have an accident while in there - at least then they don't have to sit in their own puddle! Same for car seats (suppose you could keep a supply in the boot!!!).

Prettyfull I think the advice is generally no nappies (except sleeptimes) once you've started pants. I just take the potty in the bottom of the buggy (have had to use it once when ds needed a wee while we were walking down the A3! Actually he quite enjoyed watching the traffic while doing it trouble was I couldn't get him OFF again!) plus spare clothes, wipes and nappy bags. Ds seems to wait until I've got home to wee for the majority of the time. Personally I wouldn't put her back in a nappy, I think it confuses them. Our nursery advised going full on pants as well and they've got more experience than me so I just listened to them (and my sister who used to work in a nursery).

I've been struggling to get DD to tell me when she wants a wee. She's 100% successful in the house as she is still without pants but I'm worried this wil be a problem when out. Yesterday we went out to a friends and she told the older boy she needed a wee which gave us time to get the potty. I was spleased. Buth then 20 mins later she knew where the potty was and so just went (pants and all ) grrr....

I moved the potty to our downstairs loo this morning and she knows where it is and has started to go and get it, bring it in the living room and then wee on it. I'm hoping this will give me time to 'notice' and help her with pants when i put them on her.

Any ideas? Should i just put pants on her and cope with the accidents? I dont want to knock her confidence as she's doing so well when no pants are on.

T

what I've read suggests to keep the pants on, and hope that she doesn't like being wet, and so learns to say something.