New actively potty training thread - please join

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This is minus Cod's expert advice at the moment as she's busy (see boot camp thread)
We've been going a week (ds is 2.4) and he's doing ok I think. Had a poo in the potty last night - first (in the right place) of the week! and and an all dry day on Friday - Weekend was not so good as we were visiting people both days but he was still pretty good considering. How is everyone else doing?

iwf - I use a wee mat under DS1 at nap time (pampers bed mat I think is the proper name), following La Cod's regime. He mostly wakes up if needs to go now. I wasn't sure it was the right thing to do (still not 100% sure), but it does seem to have worked and he even wakes up in the middle of the night sometimes, and is keen to get to the loo first thing in the morning for a big wee. He has the odd nap accident, but I feel we can't go back now.

hi can I join you all? Ds2 is just 2yo but has been telling me when he's pooing or weeing for a while ("I pooing, mummy"!) and quite keen on doing them on the potty or toilet when asked, so I thought I'd go for it and put him in pants this Monday. Had an awful time training ds1 but I think it was due to all kinds of other stresses in our lives at that time. Ds2 has been behaving pretty normally, I think, thre or more accidents each day (including a poo while in the swimming pool, but luckily the swim nappy caught it all) and also definitely using the 'I need a wee' thing as a distraction - he did it loads of times yesterday and today at bedtime.

He also has a funny habit of saying he needs a wee just after he's already done one, then sitting on the potty and squeezing out a drop or too. He usually does this a couple of times after his 'real' wee, so using the potty can be quite a marathon. Luckily ds1 is fairly supportive instead of being jealous of all the attention ds2 is getting. (I started a sticker scheme for ds1 at the same time.)

Ds2's nursery have a special trip tomorrow so they probably won't be too happy with me for sending him with pants/ But I think one of the mistakes I made last time was letting ds1 wear nappies sometimes when it felt like it would be too much bother, so I'm going for the Cod approach this time.

Signing in for today, day 9...ds (almost 3) asked for pants on this morning and actually kept them dry he did do a poo in them but was upset by it and had tried to do it on the loo first, but later he managed to do some on the loo as well but it was very loose so may have been accidental! Bless him he was soooo pleased with himself.

Apart from that our only mishap today was that both me and the sofa got wee-ed all over - he had gone down for his nap so I put a towel and plastic bag under him, but he half-woke up so I picked him up for a cuddle as he's had a bit of a temp today and a bit off-colour - and he promptly wee-ed all over me!!! Bless him I think he knew he needed to go which was why he woke up but was not awake enough to make it to the loo! So he'll be in pull-ups for all naps in future until dry...

mummypig - sounds like things are going well, we were getting through 5 pairs of pants a day to start with!

Hi all,

Well, we had a great day out. I succombed to the pull-ups for the journey there and back (1 1/4 hours each way), and ds slept both times and did small wees, but took off straight after, and both times he immediately sat on the potty and weed, so I think he'd been trying to hold on. We spent over 4 hours on a boat, mackerel fishing and watching basking sharks and seals, and he loved it, and managed 2 wees in his portable potty while on board . He did a poo in the loo once we'd got home, so all good. Back to basics tomorrow.

Well done kiera's ds for staying dry all day, and welcome mummypig - sounds like you're off to a great start.

Iwearflairs - I was worried about ds' nap (often last 2 hours and he always had a wet nappy after), so I started off putting him back in a nappy. On days 2 and 3 the nappy was dry, so on day 4 he slept on a mattress protector (hippychick sheet thing) and was fine. I made sure he did a wee just before his sleep, and he said he didn't want a nappy on anyway, so we went for it. I was v v surprised, but
it just goes to show..... I'm expecting a few accidents, but we'll stick with it now.

Hope everyone did ok today.

what is it about boys and poos!!
Its been days since my ds did a poo anywhere except in his pants! I think he is a bit scared, I have heard of this b4, but don't know how to help him get over it. Anyone else had this issue? He has been great with wees, all in the toilet, none in the garden. Yeah
Hi mummypig, my ds does the saying wants wee once already done one thing, I think its when they're too busy to realise until its too late,
good luck for tomorrow everyone, going to watch the F Word

justamum, re the poos I have just been giving ds lots of encouragement, gentle reminders not to do it in his pants or on the floor when I know he's due one, and being very gentle and "never mind" if he does have an accident. And when one ends up in the loo (two in nine days lol) loads of praise. Mind you they are all different, my ds gets upset if he does it in his pants, he's very particular about mess lol.

thanks kiera, how are you getting on being pg in this heat? must be a killer, how long have you got to go? My DS does get upset when does poo in his pants and he doesn't really want to have a nappy back on to go although he does do them in the morning b4 had pull up off quite often. I think he only does them at all atm when he really can't avoid it, I am being very gentle with him over the whole issue, we went through a whole list of people he loves saying they all did poos on the toilet which he seemed to like although of course he has told everybody when he sees them ie grandma you do poos on the toilet!

he has just made me laugh, told me he needed a wee, ran to his potty like an angel, pulled his pants down and tried to do a standup wee into the potty, of course it went everywhere but he was so proud of himself I couldn't help but laugh and agree that he was a clever boy, must go, he has woken up and is trying to put DVDs on!!

justamum - ah bless! re the weeing in the potty.

yes I am just grinning and bearing it,it's horrible. I'm 31 weeks now. spent much of the last two heatwaves indoors but got fed-up of being housebound for this one so we have been getting out a bit more this week. you should have seen us walking to the shops today armed with potty, roll of kitchen roll, nappy sacks, wipes and a bag of spare clothes, pants and pull-ups!

I know when ds is going to poo as he keeps going to the loo but doesn't do anything. eventually it comes out in his pants. I'm just hoping he will get the idea eventually as he really doesn't like the mess. if he is due one and we are going out I put a pull-up on him. ds seems to view pull-ups as pants not nappies which helps - I've told him these are his special travel pants for if a poo comes out when we are out!

oh god, am enjoying my last few hours with children b4 social services swoop down on me, after standing up wee incident earlier I was trying to get Ds to sit on potty in our front room which is right on the road, he sat down but wouldn't put his willy in properly, I suddenly found myself yelling (with all windows open) "for goodness sake child just stick your willy in" and looked up to see an elderly lady stop in her tracks and peer through my voile (not net) curtain. I can't imagine what kind of abuse she thought was going on. ds was a bit bemused when i suddenly burst into hysterical laughter at myself. Am terrible mother!

lol justamum

Boys, willies and poo - you've got to laugh. My ds is the opposite in that he actually tries to hold his willy down inside the potty, and ends up weeing on his hand.....blurgh, but at least it all ends up in the right place.

We've had another good day, and i've been so pleased with ds. All wees except one in the potty, a dry afternoon nap and one poo on the big loo (no poos in pants HURRAH!). I think we were lucky today as he only needed to poo once, and it was just before his bath, so already naked, and upstairs. He seems to prefer the big loo for poos and we've got a step and toddler seat upstairs, but use the potty downstairs. I'm sure if he'd have been dressed and downstairs, then he would have had an accident. Will follow kiera's advice and just keep being positive and calm. I may swap the arrangement around, so that the potty stays upstairs, and we use the big loo seat downstairs (although the potty is handier for quick weeing - ahhhh the dilemmas!). We'll see what tomorrow brings.

My youngest is getting there (finally!)

He is 2.3 and we have been pt for a few weeks but hubby keeps putting him in pull ups if he takes ds2 out.

Yesterday, i said no more and it is just pants from now on.

We had a few successes (including the poo thank god!) but also plenty of accidents.

Today we have so far had 1 accident and 8 successes!

He just did a wee on the potty but forgot to put his willy down...poor chap. Halfway through he realied as his pants and shorts were getting wet.

He has been pulling his own pants down and even telling me that he needs a wee so i am hoping that if we stick with the pants all the time he will be accident free in no time at all

rofl justamum!

yeah J holds his willy in too, he's got quite attached to it since the nappies have come off lol!

we have victory today - after three turds on the floor we managed to get a load in the loo at last - there was so much I think he was holding it in - sorry if tmi! lol I wasn't very positive and calm earlier tho' gladbag! Had to ring SIL and dh as I was rapidly losing it!

Can I join in?

Early days potty training with ds2 (aged 2.8 years). Getting wees in the potty each time, but (sorry if TMI) he just walked up to me holding a freshly produced poo in his hand . Boy, did I move quickly to find kitchen roll/wet wipes/loo paper/potty etc etc! Reward chart seems to be effective. Might need to be brave and go out later on!

DH and I were away last night enjoying ourselves at a no kids wedding (we went a bid mad in the early stages on free bucks fizz and fell at the last hurdle dismally by falling asleep at 11.30 when party was in full swing) The kids were with my PIL who reported no accidents and that ds had told them in enough time to get to the loo every time - i was really proud and thought maybe he had it cracked. Got home and within an hour had weeed all over our bed, I am now in disgrace with dh because i forgot to change the sheet and it was on his side! It would seem that ds minds less having an accident with me or that his nana makes more of a fuss of him than I do, i suspect the latter- in my defence she only sees him a couple of times a week at most and I'm with him everyday, how effusive in my praise should I be?

Am I alone in occasionally thinking, shouldn't this be getting easier by now?

Hi everyone

Have not posted for a few days as we have hit a bit of a plateau, ds dry apart from the odd trickle when he leaves it too late or I don't hear him calling, poos are another matter though, still in his pants. Am hoping it will "click" eventually.

justamum, don't know what to suggest really, maybe ds was excited about seeing you again? Glad you had a nice break. From what I understand they will still have the odd accident for a while even after being trained.

well I am biting the bullet at last - we are on day 4 for ds2 (2.8). he seems a lot harder to train than ds1 though - weeing seems to be somewhat at random and rather frequent! We had about 6 accidents (and similar no of successes) on day 1, then 2 accidents each day at nursery. I will see how dh has got on with him today!

Not sure how often I should be putting him on the potty at this stage - he shows no sign yet of being able to anticipate (but then ds1 was months and months before he actually initiated going)

hi can i join in too - my ds is 2 and 7 months and i'm back at twork in a few weeks time after ds 2. I'm trying to get him to sit on the potty but will do it for a split second the says no wee-wee - 2 minutes later he wees all over the carpet and then says uh-oh done wee-wee does anyone think that he's not ready - how do i know - how do i get him to stay on the potty and funniest of all how do i get him to stop having a tntrum when i take his soaking wet nappy off and put it in the bin - which he then goes and gets out of the bin crying want the dirty nappy back on want the dirty nappy back on ;)

well an update from dh - apparently he ASKED to do a poo this afternoon!! wow!

OK if I join? Just a week into potty training with DD1 (2yr 6mths). Seems to be going ok - she was asking for a wee but starting immediately which was irritating, but seems to have developed ability to hold it for split second while I grab potty! Poos are more problematic and messy as she suffers from toddler diahorrea. (Say no more)

Issue is now that we have to do a day trip this weekend to London which is about 3 hours away from home. Do you think I should brave it and just do pants and frequent stops or go back to nappies?

hi, just a quick update, 4 days now and no poos in pants. touchwood, we seem to have that one sussed now. He has been ok since monday when I got so cross with him i put a nappy back on him just to give myself a break as I was getting really frustrated but didn't want to keep getting angry. Everytime we go to the toilet now he says mustn't wee on mummy's furniture which is quite sweet and is definite progress. I think most weeing accidents happen when he is otherwise occupied and are kind of inevitable for a while. I may be speaking too soon and will probably be tearing my hair out again at him tomorrow!

Haven't been on in a while. DS1 has been doing really well, up until we had a birthday party at Grandma's house, he pooed his pants, and wet his pants, especially annoying as i had kept asking if he needed a wee. Serves me right for telling the folks how great he was doing

He has been dry in the night with nappies on for about 3 weeks. Have put him pants on in the night now, went ok lasr night. wish me luck!!

could have sworn I posted a reply on here last night gladbag, must have lost it when the cat jumped on the keyboard. Anyway, all I was going to say is that the only change I can think of re the poo business is that we have totally given up on the potty now and are only using the toilet, I think ds finds it easier as he is quite tall and his knees were round his ears on the potty which is not agood position.
He is not so crash hot on the weeing, today we have been out this morning for about 21/2hrs and despite me asking himregularly he didn't want a wee but no sooner had we got through the door than he wet himself, i was literally about to open my mouth to ask him when oops!
jamhead, I agree with gladbag, its not worth risking a major incident escpecially if she really cannot help herself, put a pull-up on her and make your life a bit easier for one day.

Just a quick thank you for advice. We did our London trip today and I put a nappy on DD just in case. It seemed pretty dry still at our destination and she immediately did a wee. Then I used the same nappy for going home and the same thing happened. May brave just pants next time.

Have been reading other threads though and 'withholding poo' seems common, which is something we're going through. She is quite scared of doing poo on potty or toilet and tho it has happened, it's traumatic every time. Anyone else on this thread experiencing this?

Hello all, please can I join in?

DD1 is 3 and has been dry now for ages (the odd accident when she's engrossed in something). But she absolutely will NOT poo on the potty or on the loo, but insists on a nappy. She says she needs a nappy to do a poo and if I try to encourage her to use the potty instead (with rewards for trying) she gets extremely upset and refuses point blank. The last thing I want to do is traumatise her, so so far I've just given in on the nappy front.

A couple of weeks ago, we did a sticker chart and doing poos on the potty was one of her tasks - she did it two days on the trot and was well rewarded with jelly babies, stickers and praise, but since then, we're back to nappies.

Should I just let her go at her own pace or if I should force the issue, how do I do that? She's quite good at timing things as well, so quite often does a poo before she's out of her nappy in the morning or just as she's got one on before bedtime.

Any tips gratefully received.