New actively potty training thread - please join

[PetitFilou1]

This is minus Cod's expert advice at the moment as she's busy (see boot camp thread)
We've been going a week (ds is 2.4) and he's doing ok I think. Had a poo in the potty last night - first (in the right place) of the week! and and an all dry day on Friday - Weekend was not so good as we were visiting people both days but he was still pretty good considering. How is everyone else doing?

OMG....DD woke up at 3 but rather than take her straight to the loo I put her pants on and thought I'd wait and see what she did. I asked her several times if she needed the toilet and she said no but then she just answered yes so we went to the big toilet, pants down, wee, pants up and then washed hands. I've told her she's a big girl but just by her saying 'yes' I feel that she has made some progress :-)

Then....just after I typed this she legged it to the toilet and shut the door so I chased her and pulled her pants down and she just did a no 2 on the potty, and then helped pull her pants up :-)

I think moving the potty from the living room into the loo has given me that every 3 seconds to catch her and get her pants down. This is our first real pants on day and I'm very pleased :-)

Felt like tearing my hair out this morning as he had 3 accidents first thing (woke up at 5.30, 2 days now, and is usually a 6.30 boy), having just got off the potty. I kept asking him rather than putting him on like the last couple of days as think he needs to take the initiative. Things improved after that when my husband took over...maybe he didn't nag him so much...?

He's down to sleep now (I still put him in a nappy for that but will find a waterproof sheet somewhere in this city!).

We'll take him out this afternoon with the travel potty. I took him for a small jaunt this morning but there was a paddling pool and he wanted to splash about, so got naked, sat on potty, then 10 mins later did a pee by the pool. Then had a mega tantrum when it was time to go home!!!!...it was his first full blown one, very entertaining for the spectators!!!

I'm with you clairemow on the GF one week thing being a bit optimistic...I'm thinking he may be a bit young yet but will keep trying and am definitely not going back now.

Forgive me for being smug, but ds did his 1st poo on the potty this morning. Got up, said "potty", sat down & hey, presto, bob's your uncle! Of course we all rushed into the loo to kiss him & tell him how clever he is. He had his corset off 8 days ago & now there's no stopping him (I think -- fingers crossed!) Having been through all the angst of potty training with dd (books, videos, star/sticker charts, etc), I've decided to let ds do it in his own time & if this morning is anything to go by, it's working.

Honestly, for the sake of a couple of months, who needs the stress of rubber sheets et al? Just give the kid his pull-ups & hope for the best. Besides, how many 3-4 yr olds do you know who still poo in their pants?

I plan to keep DS in nappies at night for a (long!) while after he's dry and clean in the day. Who cares? I'd rather not have to wash loads of sheets, and clean up in the middle of the night - DS is a fab sleeper, and I don't want to disrupt that (I am also a keen sleeper, we could compete in the Olympics...). I wouldn't rush the nighttime dryness. 12 hours or so is a long time, esp if a child is still having milk at bed time. I need to get up in the night to wee (even when I'm not 7 months pregnant!), so not sure why I should expect DS to be able to manage it...

Sorry, that became a bit of a rant.

Petitfilou. Now I'm curious. Do tell....

here, here clairmow! c'mon, who can be more sensible than that?

Wee Hee!!!! Great afternoon. Went out and bought him some better pants that he can take up and down more easily and he's most impressed that they're boxers like Daddy's.

Then took him to the playground 10 mins walk away. He did an wee beforehand, as requested. Accident on the way in buggy, but he told us just before and we were just a bit late to get him out. Then, he did a wee AND and poo (seperately) on the travel potty at the playground. I am over the moon!

Dh carried him on his shoulders on the way home. I was thinking it might be a funny time for an accident (for me!).

Poor little button did a wee in the bath and looked horrified when he told me and wanted to get out...told him it was OK to wee in the bath (doesn't bother me)...what does anyone else do in that situation?

Just let him wee in the bath - agree with you. Surely the point is he knew he was going to do it, and that's what we're trying to achieve. Maybe get him to go just before the bath though if it makes him happier!

Forgot, laughed out loud at the thought of an accident on Daddy's shoulders...!!! Now that's worth an accident I think. Well done at the park, and hope today goes as well...

I talked to DS's nursery about it yesterday, they said lots of the children are in nappies at 2.5, and as DS is only 2.1, I now feel no pressure. And they commented that it was difficult for them when parents try to do it the Gina way, as they can't really put one child on a potty every 15 mins throughout the day, when they have over 20 children there and only 5 or so of them. Makes sense. Then they commented how good DS's languages skills are, so I felt all proud and don't care about wees and poos any more!!!

Hi everyone, Just ad a fab morning as went out swimming. DD did wee on big loo before we went, travel potty after the swim and then when i asked an hour later she said yes she needed a wee so we went to big loo. Out for 3 hours and dry pants at the end of it - hurrah!

Ref weeing in the bath. My dd always did it and last week we put her on the trainer seat on the big loo halfway through (ie scooped her out of the bath midstream) and she was so proud she now wants to go on the big loo before every bath :-)

Hello all We are getting on ok here ds is staying dry as long as I get him to sit every three hours at the minimum. Certainly no going on his own and pulling pants and shorts down though - sadly think I started him a bit early for that so we'll have to help him for a while yet. He is being a bit of a bugger though as telling me he needs a wee then saying icecream/sweet/dvd and refusing to go if he doesn't get one. I've now moved the potty into the loo/bathroom so he has to go in there so beginning to solve the dvd problem but we're yet to solve the sweets one. Fortunately he can go over three hours without a wee now so I now if I don't give in he shouldn't have an accident. We still have a problem with poos but he's beginning to get the feeling when they're coming now - will take time, doesn't everything with them? He asked for pants during his nap yesterday and today - was fine yesterday, we'll see today!
Ponka ..... No really I'm not saying, I'm too embarrassed!

Yikes TangoX3. You are brave with boxers. Can't imagine what would happen with a poo accident in those!

Well we had a great afternoon! We were only in our own garden, but DS had no nappy on, just a t-shirt, and did all 4 wees of the afternoon in the potty - without me having to say anything - I turned round and there he was, sitting on it and very proud. So I guess he is at least getting messages from down there to his brain, connecting needing to go with sitting on it...

Tomorrow, we'll go two steps back - it's a bit like trying to climb a sand mountain??!

Had a shit of a day, quite literally! Ds seems to have regressed and has had so many accidents today, despite us reminding him (try not to nag) in the likely times. He only managed to go in the potty three times, and that was with us putting him on there.

My dh came out to find me in tears this morning over it all...pregnancy hormones, I'm sure! It's just so bloody frustrating, I could scream.

Went out this afternoon and bought him a couple of books to try and help (He loved the Dora one)

Don't really know what to do. It's like a little rebellion. You ask him if he wants to go, he says no, then pees/poos a minute later, on the floor. He even peed on dh today while we were at the park, having just hopped off the potty!

In answer to the boxer issue, ponka, the poo goes onto the floor, I have discovered!!!...so make sure he has a pair of the others on when it's poo time!

Hi everyone, i'm leaving messages left, right and centre today, even though I should be in bed coz I have to be up for work at 7!! I have found with my ds that he will quite happily sit on his potty, but does not like to go on it. He will pee on the floor, and then wait til he has his nappy on to poo!! He doesn't even acknowledge that he is wet when he has potty training pants on.

Tango, my DD always said no when i asked until the other day when it seemed to click and now she says yes if she needs to go. Try sitting him on the big loo with a trainer seat every 2 hours or before/after naps - make it part of his routine and he'll get used to weeing on demand....

I think we have just cracked it. Started 2 weeks ago - and after a few days off, last Thursday I decided that was it, no more nappies except sleep time.

This has definately helped, as DD (2.8) only had 2 accidents on Saturday - and nothing since then (1 whole week with no accidents)..

Actually did poo on potty without being nagged....

We have even been to church with no nappy on (that was frightening).

I just took a nappy mat which I put underneath her but she asked to go to the loo so took her out.

One thing I didn't bank on, she seems to be dry the last 2 nights.... She woke up at 11.30pm last night and asked to go to the toilet even though she had a nappy one. Long one, then when she woke up this morning, dry nappy.. I was very surprised, wasn't going to try dry at night for months, but just wonder if she has cracked this herself??

does anyone have any experience of this?

Jamese
Ds woke up this morning with a dry nappy as well (weed on potty before bath and we've been getting him on it as soon as he gets out of bed for the last few days - he does a massive wee first thing in the morning!). I'm going to wait for a couple of weeks of dry nappies at night before going kamikaze on that one. He has asked for pants during his lunchtime nap the last two days and stayed dry so far so think he is definitely getting the hang of the wee end of things (he is 2.4). I reckon if they have a run of dry nappies at night then why not give it a go (but with a waterproof sheet on the bed)?
Tango Ds is like this sometimes - what has worked for us is backing off a bit. I've found he can go for quite long periods without weeing so I'm trying to leave the reminders unless it looks like he's fiddling with his bits and needs to go. He seems to feel less pressured. I do 'make' him go first thing, before his nap, ask him after his nap (but sometimes he says no) and after his bath. Other than that we just keep an eye on him or he asks himself.

Oh dear TangoX3. Sorry to hear you had a bad day. It must be hard potty training while pregnant. How far along are you?

Have you tried bribes? I heard the idea of putting stickers in a book as rewards somewhere on Mumsnet, I think. Don't give up. You sounded like you were doing so well.

Things are going much better today....he's been loads in the potty, naked but unprompted, thanks to the a combination of the books I bought and dh's pep talk on not asking him all the time!!!! I recommend the Dora potty book if your kid loves her as much as mine does!

We've been giving stickers on a chart and smarties too, since the beginning.

It is quite hard doing it preg...I feel so bloody emotional every time he has an accident and am normally quite calm about that sort of thing! Thank god I'm only 5 months and still reasonably mobile...

Jamese, your little one sounds like she's going great guns!

How are the rest of you all going? Well, I hope.

This serves me right for boasting... Did a wee and poo this morning in her pants (whilst DH was with her)....

But on the plus and a BIG plus she asked to go for a wee at Borders whilst we were having a coffee etc and did a big poo, I was soooo relieved that she asked (as we had already taken her twice on that shopping trip and wasn't planning to ask again for half and hour or so)....

Hope she continues, but I know that there are bound to be slip ups, if you look how far they come in such a short time, not surprising that thye forget etc when having too much fun.

She is sometimes forgetting to ask for a chocolate button now after a wee (a treat of CODS which worked a treat)....

Just got back from the park...one accident but that's by the by.. had to tell you about this strange woman I met!

She saw the travel potty and came over to ask about it. She said "I've been putting off buying a potty for her as I don't want to have to clean it." WTF!!! What does she do about nappies?! Wear a protective suit?!

I told her where to buy them and showed her the bags. Said she could probably improvise with a grocery bag and something absorbent as the bags cost $12 for 10 (here in Canada) which is exhorbitant. "Oh, that's all right." I just laughed and didn't bother to enlighten her that there would be a possible $24 a day bag bill to pay if she intended using that as her usual potty! Maybe she was a maple syrup heiress...!

I haven't used one of the travel ones yet (can't get hold of one here, everywhere sold out.. Must be due to Cods Bootcamp...

I have been carrying DD potty around in a rucksack with a bottle of water to rince away the offending wee... Thanks god she hasn't done a poo in potty whilst out, she is asking for the toilet for that...

Will def try to get travel one as sounds sooo much easier...

Travel potties are great. We have used ours at friends, in the park, in a car parl and at B+Q :-)