rang child protection services about ds

[beansontoast]

....social worker just rang me back...thinks there are grounds to investigate further.

im in proper full on shock...not as bad as last night,but still shaking abit and i feel like its happening to someone else...a bit detached...functioning but not with it....

my ds...three this sept...was creepily sexually expilicit last night .i wont sya what he said cos im feeling cautious.

something about the context ,manner...his choice of words...his choice of verb...immediately waved a red flag for me.oh god i feel so so sick.

hi beans still thinking about you hun.
Hope everything is going as well as can do.
Sorry to ask but was it a child minder or someone closer?
I have huge fears over this type of thing as I was abused as a child so rarely let anyone look after my children..family included...horrible that there are people like that who can taint it for everyone else.

Oh hun. i'm sure your head is spining right now and i am glad that you have people around you to offer support.

please be assured that SS seem to be taking this very seriously and things are more than likely already happening behind the scenes if it involves any kind of childcare provision which takes any other children.

if they find ( and i pray for you all that they dont) they will be able to offer you lots of advice and will put you in touch with counselling services both for you and yor Ds.

I am soo vry sorry that you, or indeed anyone, has to go through this. though hpefully your speed in getting help and advice may well have prevented any further incidents.

i am wishing you all the very best of luck with the inquirey and please let us know the outcome.

Beans - have you heard back from the social worker? Hugs to you and your ds.

beans, no idea what to say that could posibly help, such a horrible situation to be in. you've absolutely done the right thing tackling it straight away though, so many less strong women bury their heads in the sand. i just hope ss get to the bottom of this as quickely as possible for you. big hugs for you both {{{hugs}}}

thinking of you..cant imagine what you are going through... what a nightmare for you...take care

[crying emoticon]....when i read your posts it makes me feel sorry for this poor beansontoast woamn too...and then i sob and then i remeber that its me and i feeeeelll siiiiiiiiiiiick

omg what a day...night...

it was soooo horrible putting him down to sleep tonight as the creepy weird stuff from last night sort of came back as a flashback...well not really a flash back but a horibly strong feeling.

everyone has been so fucking incredibly supportive and there are social workers and police and peadiatricians etc being amazing everyhwre...loads of behind teh scenes stuff...loads of being sopken to very gently by my soc worker...etc

the police have just left having done swabs.we had to keep ds up,without dinner or drinks...and our video player is on teh blink....and he's poorly so that was a right chore.

obviously totally worth it in th egrand scheme of things though...appt tomorrow for more forensics....FORENSICS wtf?....i cant believe it...i feel so sick and DEVASTATED...but can still function with regard to all these procedures etc...and prob sound quite glib to any onlookers.

SIGH and SOB

beans - so glad that you have support and that everyone is being gentle and respectful. I hope that the worst is over for now ( I know there'll be other stuff to come) You have been so strong here, probably on auto-pilot I should think, don't forget to look after your needs too and if you need a good cry, go do it. X

dear beans,

my heart goes out to you... how absolutely terrible for you. thank god you have now acted and whoever did this will hopefully be locked away.

You WILL get through this and your ds too, poor poor you both, sending you hugs and support xxxxxxxx. Keep posting

Beans - forensics just means scientific ( in this case probably medical) stuff that is to do with the legal system. its not as bad as it sounds

please phone childline - they will support adults who are concerned about a child. you can stay anonymous if you like

you are doing the right thing not to post any specifics on mumsnet (or anywhere else on the web). Its easy to forget how public it is.

so sorry to hear of what you and your son are going through

You are a fantastic mother BOT. I am so glad you have listened to what your child has said and are taking it further. I hope against hope that it is nothing sinister, but if it is, he will know that you are totally on his side and have been from the beginning. I feel so angry for you and so sad for your wee man :(

Sending you some strength to help you get through the next few days/months.

Beans- you seem like an incredibly brave and strong person(even if you're not feeling it)- whatever happens, your little one will get through this because they have you.

oh god beansontoast
this is beyond awful
I don't know what to say in support, sorry
xxP

So sorry to hear this and sending love to you honey. Stay focussed and you will stay strong. I'm wishing you the best xxx.

Sounds like you are going through a terrible experience. I really hope you get support from all around you and the police and SS get to the bottom of whats been going on. Your poor DS and poor you for having to go through this with him.

Beansontoast. What a utter living nightmare. Im wishing you all the strength and support to work your way through this.

xxx

My thoughts are so with you beans - you sound like you are be so strong & good for your DS. I'm sure you will all get through this - it will just take time - hang in there, love and hugs

beans - there is research to show that the biggest single thing that helps kids deal with the after effects of abuse is having a mother who totally supports them and believes them and puts the child's welfare first above her own interests

sounds like you are doing this for your son

you cant turn back the clock but you can be there now for him

and as you have reported it to the authorities it is now their job to stop it happening to other children

I'm so sorry your family is going through this. :(

Hope today you can continue working thru' this, and know that there will be light at the end of the tunnel. Sending you love and strength

I know today won't be easy either, but I have so much admiration for you, and the way you're coping with this horrible situation - thinking of you and your family.

What a complete complete horror story Beansontoast. I do hope that things are resolved. Poor you and poor ds. :(

What a horriblr, horrible nightmare for you. Be strong, take comfort from your son, he knows his mummy will not let the monster(s) get away with it.
Love to you and your family

oh beansontoast, my ds2 is the same age as your son. Be strong and give the authorities all the information they need to throw the book at the monster that....
So sorry for you and your family

thinking of you

just seen this, my heart goes out to you, can't imagine what you are going through, I hope everythings ok