Would you leave you 4 month old at home, to go on a holiday of a lifetime

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I have a dilemma. I have the opportunity to go on an all expenses paid holiday that we woudl seriosuly never ever be able to afford in our lives. The only problem is, its a work thing and the excursions etc that are compulsary are not child friendly, taking the baby is out of the question. My mom will gladly look after the baby, but am i crazy for even thinking about going????

heres me trying to justify it. we haven't been away for a couple of years and in the last 18 months have been through 2 miscarriages and 2 family deaths, which have all taken their toll on us. We really need this break but just can't afford a holiday.

what would you do????

I wouldn't but it sounds like you really want to,so if that is the case,why don't you go??

I think if my parents were willing to have the baby and it was all paid for then I would think seriously about going.

Where is it and for how long??

a week, africa. why wouldn't you moondog if you don't mind me asking.

Is there really no way you could take the baby? Where are you going and for how long?

I couldn't but if you feel you could, then do

A weeks not so bad. Are you breast feeding? How old will baby be when you go?

don't know why you're trying to justify it - chances like this don't come along every day. go for it and don't feel guilty. your 4 month old will have a great time with granny - not to mention granny having a great time with the baby - everybody's happy!

Hi I'm going for a week to the states.

Have checked with work and it is definitly no children, even if i were willing to pay for it seperatly.

I don't know diddle,I just don't think I could be without my baby for that long.. (please,that is not a criticism of those who can and do however).
I think the fact that the baby is with g/parents is a strong deciding factor.
I know a woman who left her kid with the babysitter when he was about this age,while she went skiing.
Would also be b/feeding so that pretty much rules it out.

yes breastfeeding, baby will be 4 months when the holiday is.

Eh?
Am confused now.
Are you going too diddle??

I wouldn't have been able to, but that doesn't mean that you shouldn't.

I wouldn't, because I know from experience that I couldn't have left DS for that long at that age (plus I was exclusively breastfeeding). I got twitchy leaving him for a few hours.

I don't think it makes you a bad parent if you don't feel the same way, though. What are your reasons for thinking maybe you shouldn't go -- is it because of how you think you might feel, because of what you think the effect on your dc might be, or something else?

I assume you're formula feeding or exclusively pumping based on the fact that it's a practical possibility?

I wouldn't have left either of mine at 4 months, partly because I was breastfeeding them so not really practical but also because I know I just wouldn't have enjoyed it. I would have missed my babies too much.

But it's such a personal thing - it sounds as though you really want to go.

lol........ I'm trying to work this out too!

baby would be used to a bottle though before i went and breastmilk freezes for upto 6 months so, although its not the same as having me feeding him, its not impossible.

I guess you'd have to wean baby onto bottles before you go but if your're happy to leave her with grandparents then go for it.

no, I absolutely wouldn't. but it's up to you

If you mum is willing to look after your little one, go, you know you mum can look after children she looked after you when you were a baby after all! Also with all due respect a 4 month old won't miss you really anyway they just needed feeding and cuddling which I'm sure your mum would give her. I say go relax and let your hair down. It sounds like it would do you the world of good. When you come back you will be refreshed and so pleased to see your little one. I would if I had the chance

moondog, - no was dreaming of a nice week away, would love africa. and was being nosy as to your reasons why.

do you mean you would try and restart breast feeding when you came back, wouldn't you find it a bit impractical while you were away expressing all the time (and presumable chucking it away)

him not her - sorry!

I wouldn't but different horses different courses as they say.

bfing issue aside I would say go.