Am I the only MNer who...

[amialoneinthis]

... would have a problem with dh/dp masturbating or watching porn or going to a strip club?

I'm always amazed at the relaxed attitude on here - recently seen again on a couple of threads.
Dh and I don't have a lot of sex, due to children, tiredness etc. I'm still 99% certain that dh does none of the above things. I couldn't bear it if he watched any porn. My rational side wouldn't see masturbating as a problem, but I would still hate it.

this thread generated a hilarious conversation in the house of scum which went along the lines of:
me: Do you have a porn stash?
patner: No! Of course not!
me: Are you sure? Some people on mumsnet say every man has one.
partner: I don't I promise!
me: you know you could tell me if you did?
partner: I don't!
me: if you did would you tell me?
partner: I don't!
etc etc etc

v funny.

He was right to be defensive and scared though- I'd have lynched him if he had a secret porn stash. I'd want to know about it, veto anything unacceptable- ie practically everything, and ensure that he was suitably enlightened along the lines of Mr Blu, Mr Marina, Mr Inferior et al. If he was and I found his selections either a turn on or very funny we could proceed together from there...

Strip clubs- no way. He would be in the extreme bad books.

Masturbation, on the other hand, is, IME, normal and good for both sexes.

I should clarify Marina, Blu etc - I'm not hard line anti porn per se (feel a bit uncomfortable with it, but wouldn't be hugely bothered if dh had it)....what I agree with Mother Inferior about is that the young, slim curvy women make me feel inferior and lacking in confidence about my own body (which is quite frankly, knackered and sagging!). I suppose I don't mind dh furtively looking at porn (i.e if I don't know about it), but if he suggested watching a blue movie together I would have to pass on that because I would be feeling like a big ugly heiffer by comparison ..

Snort Scummy
We had a discussion broadly along these lines too, actually! Just imagine all these clueless dps up and down the country being interrogated about non-existent porn stashes...

Well it's lovely to see that so many have come forward who feel similar to me. I must say I found it a bit upsetting to be told that my husband must be a liar. None of you know him, so I think you should hold back with judgements like this. Maybe he's just special.
A very interesting discussion!

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I had a conversation with DH about strip clubs last night & told him that I wouldn't turn a hair if he went to one on a night out.(wouldn't be happy if it was aregular thing though).

His point of view was that he isn't likely to want to visit one & that even if he did,he has the sense to know that the girls stripping are doing it purely for money & any man who deludes himself that they fancy him is on another planet.

As for masturbation-well we had years of investigations for infertility when he was required to fill up a sample jar for analysis.I've yet to find any porn,but as long as it wasn't sick stuff-I can't say it would upset me.

Scummy - had virtually identical conversation here too re porn stashes. He did also say, re masturbation, that if a bloke knew his partner would be upset by it, he'd hardly be likely to tell her he did it. This was after a guffaw when I said apparently some men don't do it.