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Am I the only MNer who...

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amialoneinthis · 14/11/2004 20:57

... would have a problem with dh/dp masturbating or watching porn or going to a strip club?

I'm always amazed at the relaxed attitude on here - recently seen again on a couple of threads.
Dh and I don't have a lot of sex, due to children, tiredness etc. I'm still 99% certain that dh does none of the above things. I couldn't bear it if he watched any porn. My rational side wouldn't see masturbating as a problem, but I would still hate it.

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Socci · 14/11/2004 21:00

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Gobbledigook · 14/11/2004 21:01

I'm afraid that whether you have lots of sex or not, the chances are he does at least one of those things!! I don't know one single bloke that doesn't have some sort of porn - mags, internet, videos, dvds or just a page of some girl with her tits out from The Sun!!!

What's your problem with it? The only thing that would bother me is cheating, or watching porn that involved children or animals and I'm 100% dh doesn't do that.

I'd worry if porn or strip clubs were replacing me too.

yingers74 · 14/11/2004 21:01

not alone, am pretty sure my hubby doesn't (i guess ignorance is bliss) and not sure i would react well if i found he did esp the strip club business

JoolsToo · 14/11/2004 21:04

masturbation - no probs - why not make it mutual?
porn? well he's a copper and he's been in every department and seen some pretty shocking things so I think he's had enough of all that!
strip clubs - if it was a 'do' no probs - if it was regular maybe a bit more uncomfortable with that.

PicadillyCircus · 14/11/2004 21:04

No problem with masturbating - I do it so why shouldn't he?

Watching porn - would depend what it had (ie like Gobbledigook if it had children/animals then no).

Strip clubs - I would have a problem with

WigWamBam · 14/11/2004 21:04

I have no problem with anyone masturbating, and if dh wants to do it, that's fine by me. I don't mind porn, although I probably would be offended if he wanted to watch it on his own. He was once taken to a strip club whilst he was in the States on business and I had no problem with that, because I know he wouldn't choose to go to one normally. Although thinking about it, it probably wouldn't bother me all that much if he did, I trust him completely.

blossomhill · 14/11/2004 21:05

I wouldn't be bothered at all. Infact I would probably worry if he didn't!!!!
No on a serious note I know my dh loves me and all of the above things are natural. He wouldn't mind if I went to see the chippendales for example.
We are both very much in love and trust each other 100% Therefore I have absolutely nothing to worry about and don't!

JoolsToo · 14/11/2004 21:05

WWW - thats easy for you to say when he's a Stegasaurus with a brain the size of a walnut

WigWamBam · 14/11/2004 21:07

I still trust him though ...

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amialoneinthis · 14/11/2004 21:07

I don't know why I have a problem with it.
I guess I don't like the idea of dh having sexual thoughts that don't include me.

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blossomhill · 14/11/2004 21:07

As everyone says a one off on someones stag night is fine. I wouldn't be happy if dh went every week for example but he wouldn't so that's fine.

Gobbledigook · 14/11/2004 21:07

BH - were we separated at birth?

JoolsToo · 14/11/2004 21:07

blimey - here come the thought police!

blossomhill · 14/11/2004 21:08

amialoneinthis - I am sure you are not the only one that feels like this. Men are so different to women and so is there attitude to sex.

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amialoneinthis · 14/11/2004 21:18

Joolstoo, I'm not the thought police, but to me sexual thoughts that are not about me are in a way unfaithfulness. In all other areas dh can think what the hell he likes. (Very generous of me, isn't it? )

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lilibet · 14/11/2004 21:19

one of dp's friends has always said that their are two types of men - wankers and liars
Not bothered by that,and I know his 'type' of woman and thankfully it isn't the type who would be in a porn film or performing at a strip club - this is a man who doesn't think Shania Twain is attractive - or Kylie for that matter!! I sometimes thank God for his crap taste in women !!

Gobbledigook · 14/11/2004 21:23

Do you seriously believe dh does none of those things?? seriously???

Just been discussing with dh who agrees any bloke that says they don't at least masturbate and look at pics is very definitely lying. He too knows not one single bloke who doesn't.

WigWamBam · 14/11/2004 21:23

amialoneinthis, if my dh was having sexual thoughts about someone else, it would only bother me if he was either acting on them or becoming emotionally involved with the other person too.

Gobbledigook · 14/11/2004 21:23

LOL lilibet!!!! Your dh is right too re wankers and liars! Very eloquently put!!!

JoolsToo · 14/11/2004 21:24

amialone etc etc - ok - fair enough - I used to be a bit like that in my youth

acer · 14/11/2004 21:25

I don't have a problem porn, as long as it is not children or animals, I enjoy watching it with my dh, strip clubs are not somewhere I would like to go, but if my dh was on a stag night or something like that then I wouldn't mind if he went. I cannot believe there is a man out there who doesn't masturbate!!

codswallop · 14/11/2004 21:27

I woudl not be happy

tammybear · 14/11/2004 21:28

just to add my thoughts. i dont think mastubating is a problem, especially if the guy is not having sex. personally for me, i wouldnt like the idea of watching porn or going to strip clubs on a regular basis as i would like to believe im enough for him to be happy! going to a strip club on a guys/stag night out, i wouldnt have a problem with. i know dp fancies other women, and i know i still find myself looking at other guys , but we're very happy together and looking at someone else isnt a problem unless it goes further than that

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amialoneinthis · 14/11/2004 21:28

yes seriously.
TBH looking at dh's day I really don't see when he would get the chance to do any of those things, or where he would keep any stuff. He gets up - goes to work - comes home, spends time with the children - watches TV/goes on the Internet (but in full view, so nothing there) - goes to bed next to me.
So I seriously don't think he is lying.

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JoolsToo · 14/11/2004 21:29

come on coddy 'B' has to put up with your George Clooney fantasies

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