Does anyone else think Mumsnet is a bit clichey?

[Sunlounger]

New to Mumsnet...been on it a few times, hardly anyone ever answers posts - and it seems like the same people 'chat' to each other, and it's really hard to get involved....

Can I ask a question? I've just read the bit in this thread about changing the screen from the last 25 active convs to the last 50. But I cant do it! The whole address thing disappears. You will gather from this that computers are not my forte!

copy

www.mumsnet.com/SearchTalk?lastn=50

and paste it into your address bar
to copy it, highlight the address and press ctrl and c at the same time, then paste it in the empty address bar by pressing ctrl and v at the same time

make sense?

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Definitely agree with spacemonkey.
Also, I am a bit wary of going to a meet up because I think that everyone else will know each other and no one will talk to me!! But in the nearish future I'll be moving to a new area where I know no-one, so I'm actually quite excited and relieved that I have a chance to make friends. Sunlounger, you can always do what I did adn post the same thing under different headings and in different topics (as long as is relevant) if you find that you aren't getting the response.
I've actually been coming here for a couple of years, but haven't really posted alot. I find it really comforting that loads of others are in the same boat as me, and by reading the posts can usually find a solution, though I realise that actually posting myself would be useful aswell!!

Sunlounger's thread is now officially too long!!! Hows that for getting some responses? Eh? I don't do "active conversations", tried it and didn't like it. I always go to home and then talk and just choose the sections I like. I also think people sometimes need to be more clear in the headings they choose for their threads if they want lots of people to read them or just put what you want and it doesn't matter... I love our SN section but there's always new people coming in and posts from non-SN mums which is always fine but I also post on lots of trivia too, not just the serious stuff! Mind you, I learnt my lesson early on when I tried to speak up for bottle feeders...!!!

Sunlounger, I'll be your friend lol Come round for a glass of wine anytime

Sorry Ladies but thread killing is MY job........

But as someone once pointed out it could be that my post has given the answer that EVERYONE wanted and I am a font of all knowledge so everyone is happy. Also I love having the last word!

I've been here almost 18 months now and I do agree with the cliquey thing, BUT I don't think it's a bad thing as I like seeing the same names over and over, it makes it more familiar. Joining in has got to be the best way to get more familiar and to make MN better.....if that's at all possible

from getting hardly any answers to starting a thread that looks loke its going to run for another day...not bad!!!

(sorry to but in on your thread-killing emmatmg! )

The only reason the same people post all the time is because we have nothing better to do

...or because we have loads of thing to do bu can't be bothered doing them

looks like I've been sacked from my thread killing job

actually this is a bit of a novelty for me...ds is normally scrambling all over me and I dont get a chance to type much.
you can have you old job back later!!

hi gloworm
my little scrambler is in bed!

morning papillion (and goodbye...I'm away to begin day2 of potty training...yipee!!!)

We were all new to Mumsnet at one time!! It's not a new thing. I've been here about 18mths and the site has been around for at least double that. So there was a lot of long timers ( ) here already when I arrived.... but as in real life I rrrrrrrrrefuse to be left out! Persistance pays off and of course people chat to each other! It's a discussion forum afterall.... and there is now a chat section.

Leftout - Why did you keep changing your name? Unless you offended someone then I don't think your posting name really matters. And changing it isn't going to help I'm afraid.

I changed mine coz I was bored of my old one.

But you told us who you were before so we could keep up with you Toothache!(how's Bovril Man...?)
Sunlounger, hope this thread has reassured you that we all get overlooked (not ignored, I hope) when the site is really busy. I know how down it can make you feel...I once posted for a non-online friend to get advice about returning to the UK when your marriage overseas breaks up and got no replies. I was gutted...but things were really hectic on here. It has got SO much busier than when I joined nearly four years ago!
Leftout, I really hope you soon have occasion to change your name to SocialWhirl, I'm sorry you feel no-one's chatting to you. But...keeping the same name, or telling people when you've changed, does get you "known", as others have said.

SL, I have been often ignored and often helped over the last 4 years but for the first, I don't mind and for the second, I'm eternally grateful. Bit like RL.

I think aloha's 7.26pm post summed it up perfectly for me.

I get ignored all the time and I don't care, I have skin like a rhino (and a face to match lol!)

Seriously though, I think it is just down to how much you post, I have been off work ill for months and mumsnet has been my lifeline - the more you post the more you get to know people and I think that's your answer. I never knowingly ignore someone but as others have said it is so busy on here these days that you just can't get to all the threads.

So just keep at it Sunlounger! (ps if you spent more time on mumsnet and less on the sunlounger that would help )

Just wanted to say that I joined mumsnet with the specific aim of finding a replacement to my daughters lost toy, had never posted, chatted, knew no one (still don't) and had about 300 responses - all from people who didn't know me, or dd or my virtual self - just wanted to help. Overwhelming - and certainly not cliquey!

Just wanted to say that I joined mumsnet with the specific aim of finding a replacement to my daughters lost toy, had never posted, chatted, knew no one (still don't) and had about 300 responses - all from people who didn't know me, or dd or my virtual self - just wanted to help. Overwhelming - and certainly not cliquey!

I have to ask, skie, do you intend to stay on MN and get embroiled in non-strawberry related topics ??

Is it really ignoring though? I really don't thing that anyone on here would just ignore someone, espeiclly if they really needed some support.

I don't have the time or the energy to go into and comment on every thread. I try and spot ones where I may be able to help, I spend a lot of time in special needs and try and make the time to get involved in lighthearted chats too. I've never felt ignored and really don't thing anyone should take this all too seriously or too personally. With the odd exception we don't know each other, we're just a bunch of nicknames, why would anyone single anyone out and ignore them, I don't believe that happens, sorry.

We do all try and help each other and I really don't thing anyone would ever ignore a woman going throught miscarriage and needing help. Sometimes posts get missed. It doesn't mean it's intentional.

Some more of the chatty mumsnetters do chat loads, so what, join in and get to know them if that's what you want. It's only cliquey if you let it be.

Personally I have found mumsnet the most wonderfeul, warm friendly place when I've needed it to be. Let me remind you of Forsetfly and her little boys birthday and of all the people that went out and sent a strangers son birthday presents. Countess Dracula posting a stranger 2 of her dresses to borrow for a wedding. Princesspehaed giving someone a mulberry bag that she no longer wanted. All the support janstar and Blu have set up for Spook. I could go on and on.

I think it's sad that people would feel 'left-out' but really I think you need to not take it personally, either use mumsnet for advice when you need it, or if you feel you can offer support, and if you want to get more involved stick with it and strike up your own 'friendships'.

Mumsnet is a great place. i too was new and it took a while to get the feel of the people behind the nicknames but i know enough of the mums on here know enouhg to never feel left out. It takes a little bit of work but so does everything.

Sunlounger, put your profile on the profile thread, come on in the evening and find a virtula bar. I'd never ignore your post if I saw it and had something to add, so hopefully 'see' you around.

I think the Member Profiles topic is a great idea, I've really enjoyed reading everyone's profiles. It does help to break the ice when you're new too!