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Does anyone else think Mumsnet is a bit clichey?

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Sunlounger · 24/05/2004 18:49

New to Mumsnet...been on it a few times, hardly anyone ever answers posts - and it seems like the same people 'chat' to each other, and it's really hard to get involved....

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tweeny · 24/05/2004 20:06

just so you're not the last message poster!

cuppy · 24/05/2004 20:07

Thanks sd

willow2 · 24/05/2004 20:32

Hi Sunlounger - well, I'm an oldie and I'd hate to think that people felt left out. I think there are several reasons why it can take a while to feel part of the set up. Firstly, because the site has got so popular - 128 discussions have had messages on them... in the last five hours. That's quite some traffic. To read every thread would take more time than I have (I spend enough time on here as it is!) so I tend to skip read through sections that are not relevant to me otherwise I'd be reported to the NSPCC for neglecting my son. It's very easy to miss an "important" thread in this way. Another problem is that, if you have posted (on numerous occasions) on a particular topic in the past, I, for one, feel that I've said all I can say... and don't want to bore everybody with my point of view once again That said, if I see a post that seems desperate for a reply, I'll do my best to come up with something - even if it is only that I can't help but am thinking of them.
And please don't think you are the only one who doesn't get replies - it happens to all of us but, eventually, when you least expect it a reply will invariably appear.
Admittedly, there are some strong friendships on here - but by and large they are the result of people getting together in real life at one of the meet ups. I have made two really good mates who live locally. I'd never have met them apart from the fact that we bit the bullet and organised a night out. (Ludicrously, one of them is the mum of my son's friend at nursery - yet our paths had never crossed as we dropped off and picked up at different times!) I don't want to sound like some club 18-30 rep, but I can't recommend these nights out more highly - firstly because they are a bloody good giggle, secondly because it does us all good to kick back and thirdly because they are a brilliant way of making new friends. We had one the other week and I met a load of really fun people who I would love to (and plan to) spend time with again. The only downside was that, with so many of us there, I didn't get a chance to chat to everybody. The upside is that we'll just have to do it again!
So don't give up on us yet. Just hold your nose and jump in the deep end.

tweeny · 24/05/2004 20:37

oohh, oohh
the technophobe has changed 25 to 50!
very pleased with myself! thanks guys

melsy · 24/05/2004 20:45

Good one tweeny -- so not a technophobe.

Im a semi veteran , will 7mths of mn , but i feel ive been here forever. some days are good and my posts go nuts , other days I put stuff and nada. I used to get huffy about it !!,, but Im learning thats its just because of the enourmous amount of traffic on here now. It has flourished no end. it wont be long before you find a particular grp or person that you just have a good rapport with and chat with them may be a little more than others. But I hope that even if I do that I still like to talk to many new poeple all the time.

Sunlouger hope you are still around?? , if anything everyone knows your name now. So we will look forward to more postings from you soon.

melsy · 24/05/2004 20:54

c look I just killed this thread !!!!

tammybear · 24/05/2004 20:56

no you havent melsy, corrie was on. all hell broken loose on the street lol

melsy · 24/05/2004 20:57

LOL tammy , im just gonna watch smallville.

tweeny · 24/05/2004 20:57

and hells kitchen is about to start and i've already missed the first episode!

tammybear · 24/05/2004 20:58

im all tuned in for hell's kitchen too! lol

melsy · 24/05/2004 21:01

ooh gonna miss it cos of smallville oh poo!!

tammybear · 24/05/2004 21:02

its on again at 10:30 on itv2 if you have it

mummysurfer · 24/05/2004 21:14

pleeeaaasssee don't ignore me
how do you change 25 to 50?
thanks

tammybear · 24/05/2004 21:16

sorry mummysurfer, you click on active conversations, and then in the address bar where it should say www.mumsnet.com/SearchTalk?lastn=25 change the 25 to 50 there

JJ · 24/05/2004 21:17

Copy and paste this:
www.mumsnet.com/SearchTalk?lastn=50 into your browser window.

Or click here and bookmark it.

HTH!

popsycal · 24/05/2004 21:17

wow - i just did that 50 thingy
wow!!!! am so chuffed!

Mo2 · 24/05/2004 21:17

MS - click on 'active conversations' and then look at your www. url - it will end in "=25"
Change this to =50 and enter.

it will default back to 25 however unless you then save it to your favourites...

(Now go off and visit my profile! Everyone is being 'cliquey' and ignoring it!!!!!)

Mo2 · 24/05/2004 21:18

oh - too late

mummysurfer · 24/05/2004 21:19

thanks everyone, i've done it

WideWebWitch · 24/05/2004 21:25

I know what you mean about cliques but I thought mumsnet was really friendly when I joined, everyone was very welcoming. But it's a lot bigger now and it's impossible to read everything, willow's right - there are only so many hours in the day. I post if a) I've got something useful to say b) I've got time c) sometimes because it's someone I 'know' from here. It's not always because I've met them but because I've spoken to them before on mumsnet or because I remember something about them or some advice they gave me. I don't think anyone's deliberately ignored, just some threads get responses, others don't and for lots of different reasons. As jimjams says, the weekends are quieter and I agree, the thread title makes a difference if you've only got 10 minutes here to read as much as possible. I also recognise that thing willow talks about, of thinking you've posted on the subject before and you ought to stay out of it since you've said your piece. Anyway sunlounger, welcome!

Original poster
Sunlounger · 24/05/2004 21:29

wow! everyone answered, thanks!

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Chinchilla · 24/05/2004 22:01

I have been here 2 years, and every 6 months or so, one of the newish people comments on how cliquey MN is. Then, in 6 months time, when the next thread is posted, they feel like a long-term poster! I have been on a meet-up, and do agree that it does make a difference to your posts on here, as you can refer to things not posted on MN. It's not intentional, and you are really welcome SL. Keep posting, and soon it will feel like you've always been on here!

Ixel · 24/05/2004 22:16

I think long termers probably think I'm interupting all the time etc, but what the hell? Its still more response than I'd get asking ds the same things! Or dh for that matter... My only regret is not choosing a better chat name!!

Clarinet60 · 24/05/2004 22:19

Hey........I'M the ultimate thread killer around here!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

spacemonkey · 24/05/2004 22:20

I felt the same at first. I was too scared to go on the bar thread for months because it seemed everyone knew everyone. You have to assume a thick skin and wade in and I promise you will be welcomed and not ignored!