would you let your 9 year old daughter go to the house of a known prostitute

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I have namechanged for this for obvious reasons and changed some of the details to make it less identifiable)
DD has a friend whose single mother is a prostitute.She has been invited to a party at this friends house.
I am very naive about all this sort of thing , but the mother dresses normally and lives in a rented cottage in a nearby small sleepy village from where she plies her trade, I assume (hope!) only when the child is staying with their dad or at school.She keeps herself to herself and doesn't cause any trouble in the village as far as I know
Her Dc is a sweet child with serious health issues who DD is fond of, and the mother has clearly been to a lot of trouble planning the party.
DH says that DD should not have anything to do with the woman or her child.
I feel a bit sorry for the child, but my main fear is drugs, and although DD doesn't know what prostitution is now, she will do one day and I fear normalising it in her eyes.

Said oh do fuck off. She's possibly been abused like MOST sex workers.

OP.It's up to you isn't it? I know a sex worker and there's nothing wrong with the way she brings her daughter up. She's not shagging men in the dining room while the kids play hopscotch in the rain.

I would definitely let my child go. What on earth could possibly happen?

I'd be tempted to offer to stay and help, but only out of curiosity! Your DH is being very reactionary and I feel for the party girl, imagine if no-one says yes? It would scar her for life.

Sorry missed your follow up post.

I just don't understand how this can be "normalising prostitution", how will they know? As the mother of a nearly 9 yo girl, she wouldn't have a clue! If the girls were say, 14 I might have more of an issue.
One of the things that sticks in my mind about my mum was her empathy for all sorts and walks of life. It taught me a lot! It certainly doesn't mean that she condoned or advocates those things!

emotions please ascertain which part of that was delete-worthy, edit and repost. Admittedly it's a few hours since I read it, but I thought it was spot on.

Might just have been a word or two (?)

What a sad thread, and sad decision by the OP.

One of my DD's friend's dad's is a banker but that doesn't stop me sending her to parties/playdates at his his house, even though I am morally opposed to the bonuses they get. He's even quite nice to talk to, and what he does for a living has no impact on my DD.

I doubt this woman is going to be recruiting attendees at her DD's party to her profession, or extolling the virtues of being paid for sex as the children are dropped off. Her poor DD

Arsenic I have no idea what was wrong with it, I didn't swear or say anything that could be deemed against the talk guidelines. Personally I would have thought telling someone to 'fuck off' is far more delete worthy than calling them horrid and narrow minded, which frankly is how they are portraying themselves. Perhaps MNHQ would be good enough to enlighten us.

Yes, I read it as brisk criticism of the narrow minded stance rather than personal attack.

Very much so.

I disagree, I read the post as a personal attack . I think a lot of the posts on here are overly aggressive towards the OP. I completely understand people disagreeing with her but I don't get why people are being so nasty about it.

This is worth a listen for a different view point www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b053br86

Jeez...

easy to be right on when posting anonymously
I am highly sceptical that most people would encourage their young child to be around this in real life

You're being a bit daft here OP. But even so I can understand how you feel.

It's a kids birthday ffs. I'm sure this Mum's not going to be in fishnets, high heels, a pvc mini and be swinging her string of pearls about as she leans against the wall, explaining her BJ techniques as the little ones pass-the-parcel. As Fatstacks suggests, go and lend a hand and you'll see she's as human as you!

I think it's sad that a child is ostracised due to her mum's profession.Just asked my DH, he wouldn't have an issue either

God I can't bear to read much of this. I got as far as the poster who started on about low moral standards.

How many of us do respectable jobs associated with all kinds of immorality (financial crime, human rights abuses in the third world, environmental disaster)? I know I do. I work for a top 20 city firm. But of course, yes, it's the hookers who have low moral standards. Let's hoik our judgey pants up.

Clearly she'll be snorting drugs and trying to pimp your child.