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This is a VERY sensitive subject, I know, but I am curious to know just how big a problem this is

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 13/09/2006 20:40

How many people on here have been assaulted/raped and have either reported or not reported it?

I found out that the conviction rate rapes was just 6% . 6% of reported rapes. There are many many many more that go unreported. I want to know roughly what kind of figure we are looking at. Please change your name if need be, but do post.....

I'll start..

Me - unreported.

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Dunnyjo · 13/09/2006 21:29

Do you know i hate it when my Ds wants to run around in the garden with no clothes on (he is into striping at the mo) i cant bear to let him in case others can see him spying or what ever i know that might sound extream but i feel so angry!

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 13/09/2006 21:31

Well, NQC the vulnerability is there in the open for all to see. All it would take is simple "supportive" CAT for one thing or another, and so it snowballs. Similar to "grooming" i suppose....

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LadyTophamHatt · 13/09/2006 21:31

actually....although I don't really concider it anywhere near the things you have all experinenced, I onced sprinted after a bloke who stuck his hand viciuosly(sps) up my(very short) skirt when we were walking to the clubs when on holiday.
He was on a pushbike and cycled up behind us and did it.

I chased after him and I can honestly say if I'd caught him I would have beat the shit out of him.

I saw a policeman once we got to the town and told him and in his broken english (we were in gran canaria) he pretty much said there wasn't anything he could do....I told him he was useless pile of shit and walk away.

sallystrawberry · 13/09/2006 21:31

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morningpaper · 13/09/2006 21:31

Re. the rohypnol risk - a local bar here has had something like 40 reports by teenage girls of drinks being spiked. NONE of the drinks, when tested, showed any evidence of tampering. It is likely that they just didn't realise how drunk they were. They are not taking responsibility for themselves, or for each other. They are drinking themselves into oblivion. It is a culture that worries me a LOT.

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 13/09/2006 21:31

Well done giddy. Very brave thing to do.

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morningpaper · 13/09/2006 21:32

VVVQV I agree with you

aaronsmummy · 13/09/2006 21:32

Sorry - can;t read this through but will add to it

Me - Gang raped - unreported

Mum - Raped by her uncle repeatedly as a child - unreported as her mum wouldn;t believe her and still sent her there for weekend visits..

Loobie · 13/09/2006 21:33

Me - unreported.

Sexual assault at 13 by a friends uncle

Told no one until i was 21,why didnt i report it,not sure to be honest,didnt feel i had anyone i could turn to to help to report it too if that makes sense.

colditz · 13/09/2006 21:33

Ds has to have pants on if he wants to run around in the garden, or the birds will think his winky is a caterpiller and will try to peck it off!!

I don't want to tell him about mummy's paranoias and possible perverted neighbours yet.

harpsichordcarrier · 13/09/2006 21:33

me, unreported. because he was a friend and a lover and very very pissed and so was I. and because when he had sobered up he claimed to remember nothing about it but mainly because it would have fucked up his life and I didn't want that and because I thought I was strong enough to deal with it. because I knew I was stronger than him.
and I was ashamed because I am not a victim.
as it happens, and totally coincidentally, the person who looked after me at the time (and the only person I told) was a very lovely friend of mine who is now my dh. so I often wonder if we would ever have got together if things had been different

I was also assaulted on several occasions by two family members when I as a child. unreported for reasons which I think don't even need to be explained.

fk I am taking a long time to press post.

morningpaper · 13/09/2006 21:34

colditz he is going to worry more about the size of his pecker

Dunnyjo · 13/09/2006 21:34

oh god i remember being in McDonalds once with an ex paertner and a guy opposite us was masturbating in front of everyone. Luckly the police were out side and i ran to them and they arrested him. disgusting

NotAnOtter · 13/09/2006 21:34

me unreported - thinking about it

colditz · 13/09/2006 21:35

lol he is only 3. I have noticed him giving passing starlings dirty looks though.

Oh God, I've given him a complex, haven't I!

Scaredofbeingrecognised · 13/09/2006 21:35

!!

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 13/09/2006 21:36

See this is where I would differ slightly MP. I dont think anyone should get blind drunk - its dangerous for many reasons, but i dont think it should apply more for girls because of stuff like this. I could never say a girl is partly responsible for being raped or assaulted. I just couldnt. Saying that being drunk makes them even slightly culpable would fall under that banner for me.

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CountTo10 · 13/09/2006 21:38

mp I know what you mean and it is sad as it further undermines the efforts of those groups trying to make it easier for women like everyone on this thread to go and report their experiences. There are too many people out there that assume rape is being jumped at knifepoint on an unlit street and aren't interested in any of the other forms, 'date' rape, child abuse, domestic violence. Rape is rape no matter what form it takes, who perpetrates it. Every woman has the right to say no at any time.

Socci · 13/09/2006 21:38

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 13/09/2006 21:39

But I think the drinking laws should be tightened up, yes.

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MABS · 13/09/2006 21:39

Me. Yes, sadly reported - the very worst thing I have ever done, worse than the rape itself.

morningpaper · 13/09/2006 21:40

No VVVQV I don't think that they are "responsible" if they get raped

but they might get raped - that is just a fact. And they don't think about it

If my daughters were in the habit of getting blind drunk every week I would drill this message home to them very clearly and I would tell them they were putting themselves at risk

CountTo10 · 13/09/2006 21:40

What was the outcome mabs if you don't mind me asking?

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 13/09/2006 21:41

I was reading only yesterday in a survey, that 47% of (women I think) people thought that rape was the stereotypical "stranger jumping out of the bushes in the dark, with a knife etc"

Harpsi - I was the same when typing the OP.......

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