Things you shouldn't say to another mum you have only just met

[emkana]

"I have just gone back to work after four years as a SAHM, about time, too, your brain just goes soft when you're at home all the time."

Said this mum at a b/day party to my friend and me... my friend has been a SAHM for seven years, me for nearly five years, we both have no immediate plans to return to work.
We didn't really take offence, I just thought it was funny, there are just some things I wouldn't say if I wasn't sure about the cirumstances of the people I was talking to.

Anything about 4x4s

Anything for/against breastfeeding

Anything for/against CS

Essentially, anything to do with anything that causes a giant rucus here.

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"How hard do you smack your child?"

"I get so bored with all this organic beansprouty no-sugar nonsense"

"Fancy taking the kids to McDonalds?"

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Big no-no.. "you're making a rod for your own back there rocking your baby/giving a dummy/not giving a dummy/giving in so your child doesn't flip out at a social gathering"

D'you fancy a fag?

emkana fkn rude imho
some woman said to me at a tutorial yesterday ALL womens' brains turn to mush when they have a baby
I said speak for yourself suhshine
I should make her come on here and let some of you lot at her....

No....all womens' brain turn to mush when their rude ignorant heads are repeatedly battered against a wall!!!

yes pruni weaning spoons should be fine
also, i expect, the benefits of donating blood

Which hand do you wipe your arse with?

"You've got 2 boys have you? Never mind, perhaps the next one will be a girl".

And I reply " I definitely do not want another one, thankyou, I am perfectly happy having 2 boys, and although I think little girls are lovely, if I DID have a 3rd, I would actually love another little boy".

have you ever thought about baby-modelling?

Are you pregnant?

beety - LOL! Someone at work said to me once "you're either pregnant or getting fat". I said "lucky for you I'm four months pregnant" and flounced off AMAZED that the words came out of her mouth.

I hate it when people I don't know, ask about my reproductive plans. Actually, I hate it when people I don't know very well ask about my reproductive plans.

If I'm feeling bolshie, I say ... "so, you're asking if DH and I have sex? And if we do, do we use contraception?" They generally become quite a bit less confident with that line of questioning, all of a sudden!

Oh, and I've had people think I was pregnant when I wasn't. Ok, I'm a big girl, but still!

Lol i will never forget the timei said to my new boss on my first day of work!

'Oh congratulations when are you due' motioning to her stomach

she replies
'about a year ago, thats it crawling around over there'

i was so so

Weaning spoons are just the height of rudeness to discuss in RL. Honestly, some people

Hate being asked about future reproductive plans too and how about "Was it planned?" - fgs!

charlee

I was waiting with my friend once outside school
this woman says to my friend "oh when are you due?friend says - erm, I'm not pregnant
woman says - "Oh it must be just the way it's hanging..."

I know
marvellous isn't it?
I always think of it when I have just offended someone i.e. about twice a day
at least I'm not that bad

lol!

Where im young i have had so many people say to me.

'oh was it planned?'

me "of course he was'

them'oh but your so young'

me 'doesnt mean i dont know how to use contraception if i didnt want a baby'

them 'oh but i guess the father didnt bother sticking about'

me 'yes he did, hes wroking at the moment'

them 'working well thats good!' (in suprise)

I find it so funny how people jump to conclusions!

someone said to me when ds2 was a few weeks old...."its hard looking good when u've got littleys" i had actually made the effort and i thought i looked nice

charlee I did that too, to my cousin who was over here for a visit. She really did look preggers and her youngest was about a year and a half and I said really cheerily "oh, you're expecting", and she said really nicely "no, I just need to lose this weight". That was about 15 years ago and I'm still cringeing over it.