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Things you shouldn't say to another mum you have only just met

258 replies

emkana · 15/01/2006 19:32

"I have just gone back to work after four years as a SAHM, about time, too, your brain just goes soft when you're at home all the time."

Said this mum at a b/day party to my friend and me... my friend has been a SAHM for seven years, me for nearly five years, we both have no immediate plans to return to work.
We didn't really take offence, I just thought it was funny, there are just some things I wouldn't say if I wasn't sure about the cirumstances of the people I was talking to.

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NotQuiteCockney · 15/01/2006 19:34

Anything about 4x4s

Anything for/against breastfeeding

Anything for/against CS

Essentially, anything to do with anything that causes a giant rucus here.

Pruni · 15/01/2006 19:36

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Meanoldmummy · 15/01/2006 19:38

"How hard do you smack your child?"

"I get so bored with all this organic beansprouty no-sugar nonsense"

"Fancy taking the kids to McDonalds?"

Pruni · 15/01/2006 19:39

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KBear · 15/01/2006 19:41

Big no-no.. "you're making a rod for your own back there rocking your baby/giving a dummy/not giving a dummy/giving in so your child doesn't flip out at a social gathering"

Meanoldmummy · 15/01/2006 19:44

D'you fancy a fag?

harpsichordcarrier · 15/01/2006 19:44

emkana fkn rude imho
some woman said to me at a tutorial yesterday ALL womens' brains turn to mush when they have a baby
I said speak for yourself suhshine
I should make her come on here and let some of you lot at her....

Sallystrawberry · 15/01/2006 19:45

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Meanoldmummy · 15/01/2006 19:45

No....all womens' brain turn to mush when their rude ignorant heads are repeatedly battered against a wall!!!

harpsichordcarrier · 15/01/2006 19:46

yes pruni weaning spoons should be fine
also, i expect, the benefits of donating blood

Meanoldmummy · 15/01/2006 19:46

Which hand do you wipe your arse with?

Goldfish · 15/01/2006 19:47

"You've got 2 boys have you? Never mind, perhaps the next one will be a girl".

And I reply " I definitely do not want another one, thankyou, I am perfectly happy having 2 boys, and although I think little girls are lovely, if I DID have a 3rd, I would actually love another little boy".

iota · 15/01/2006 19:48

have you ever thought about baby-modelling?

Beetrootfultoyourself · 15/01/2006 19:52

Are you pregnant?

KBear · 15/01/2006 19:54

beety - LOL! Someone at work said to me once "you're either pregnant or getting fat". I said "lucky for you I'm four months pregnant" and flounced off AMAZED that the words came out of her mouth.

NotQuiteCockney · 15/01/2006 19:55

I hate it when people I don't know, ask about my reproductive plans. Actually, I hate it when people I don't know very well ask about my reproductive plans.

If I'm feeling bolshie, I say ... "so, you're asking if DH and I have sex? And if we do, do we use contraception?" They generally become quite a bit less confident with that line of questioning, all of a sudden!

NotQuiteCockney · 15/01/2006 19:55

Oh, and I've had people think I was pregnant when I wasn't. Ok, I'm a big girl, but still!

Charlee · 15/01/2006 20:02

Lol i will never forget the timei said to my new boss on my first day of work!

'Oh congratulations when are you due' motioning to her stomach

she replies
'about a year ago, thats it crawling around over there'

i was so so

hunkermunker · 15/01/2006 20:05

Weaning spoons are just the height of rudeness to discuss in RL. Honestly, some people

Hate being asked about future reproductive plans too and how about "Was it planned?" - fgs!

harpsichordcarrier · 15/01/2006 20:09

charlee

I was waiting with my friend once outside school
this woman says to my friend "oh when are you due?friend says - erm, I'm not pregnant
woman says - "Oh it must be just the way it's hanging..."

hunkermunker · 15/01/2006 20:09
harpsichordcarrier · 15/01/2006 20:11

I know
marvellous isn't it?
I always think of it when I have just offended someone i.e. about twice a day
at least I'm not that bad

Charlee · 15/01/2006 20:13

lol!

Where im young i have had so many people say to me.

'oh was it planned?'

me "of course he was'

them'oh but your so young'

me 'doesnt mean i dont know how to use contraception if i didnt want a baby'

them 'oh but i guess the father didnt bother sticking about'

me 'yes he did, hes wroking at the moment'

them 'working well thats good!' (in suprise)

I find it so funny how people jump to conclusions!

MerlinsBeard · 15/01/2006 20:13

someone said to me when ds2 was a few weeks old...."its hard looking good when u've got littleys" i had actually made the effort and i thought i looked nice

saadia · 15/01/2006 20:17

charlee I did that too, to my cousin who was over here for a visit. She really did look preggers and her youngest was about a year and a half and I said really cheerily "oh, you're expecting", and she said really nicely "no, I just need to lose this weight". That was about 15 years ago and I'm still cringeing over it.