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Things you shouldn't say to another mum you have only just met

258 replies

emkana · 15/01/2006 19:32

"I have just gone back to work after four years as a SAHM, about time, too, your brain just goes soft when you're at home all the time."

Said this mum at a b/day party to my friend and me... my friend has been a SAHM for seven years, me for nearly five years, we both have no immediate plans to return to work.
We didn't really take offence, I just thought it was funny, there are just some things I wouldn't say if I wasn't sure about the cirumstances of the people I was talking to.

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milward · 15/01/2006 22:41

lol dior!!

Meanoldmummy · 15/01/2006 22:41

Dior

harpsichordcarrier · 15/01/2006 22:42

off topic but... I once heard my colleague say to her brother, who was phoning to tell her about his A level results...
"oh!.... oh! oh, ok. so did everyone else do a badly as you??"
she was a rude bitch mind you

Dior · 15/01/2006 22:43

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Feistybird · 15/01/2006 22:43

Blimey, hasn't your baby got big ears?

Dior · 15/01/2006 22:45

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Meanoldmummy · 15/01/2006 22:45

Iron his f*ckin shirts? dh doesn't even wear shirts. But if he did I wouldn't be ironing them. If my dad said that to me I would iron his shirt with him still in the damn thing.

sweetkitty · 15/01/2006 22:45

expat - drives me mad this you must be dissappointed having 2 girls lark! Same with 2 boys I reckon.

Mother phones me up to say aunt said to her that she thinks DD2 is really a boy and we are telling everyone she is a girl because thats what her daughter did! Why would anyone do this it's like "oh we are having another girl" then to proudly announce "no we are so great we managed to hit the jackpot and it's really a boy!" makes me so a baby is a wonderous joy why should what is has between it's legs matter?

Imagine now though if DD2 pops out with a willy

Dior · 15/01/2006 22:45

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milward · 15/01/2006 22:45

once got at a playgroup "Didn't know that (my dd1's name)was a boys name" ffs!!! she's a girl but isn't wearing pink today!!

Dior · 15/01/2006 22:46

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snowleopard · 15/01/2006 22:48

If we're onto mums then... my mum to my DP on the phone, as I underwent an epidural after 12 hours of agony: "Well, tell her if she had gone to NCT classes she would have coped better, she would have learned what to do with the pain."

Like stick it up her arse maybe.

Miaou · 15/01/2006 22:55

When I announced my pregnancy with ds, 6.5 years after dd2 was born, someone I thought was a good friend said "Oh, that's a shock, was it planned?"

Didn't realise how much it upset me until I wrote it down, tbh!

brimfull · 15/01/2006 22:57

after I explained ds's severe nut allergy,she said "oh I know someone who's daughter died from that!"

VeniVidiVickiQV · 15/01/2006 22:58

I told someone at work, my boss i think, that i was pg with my 2nd and he said "oh really, was it planned? What are you going to do?"

Errrr feck off.

edam · 15/01/2006 23:01

Is your MN name Cod?

Meanoldmummy · 15/01/2006 23:01

Cheeky tw*t!!!

I was temping when I was pg with DS1 (before the sh*t hit the fan and I became a wheelchair bound diabetic blob) and the boss came up behind me and purred into my ear "Is your husband happy abou tthe pregnancy?" I didn't even know him. I nearly vomited

Tortington · 15/01/2006 23:48

"i wouldn't kick your husband out of bed for farting !"

fuzzywuzzy · 15/01/2006 23:53

A woman at work who I don't know very well (as we work in different departments). Said to me when I returned to work after second baby.
'I hope your taking adequate protection, you've done quite enough for king and country'
Me 'Oh when did the queen abdicate'.

nightowl · 16/01/2006 03:32

from a colleage when i proudly took baby into work to show her off:

(points to my belly) "you having another one then or what ha ha"

yes actually, i must be, because ive just had a cs three days ago and obviously i should have a washboard stomach by now?

iris66 · 16/01/2006 07:18

My sister visiting me in hospital after I'd just had DD " bloody hell she's big - you'll be like a bucket now!" hmmmmmmmmph!

Freckle · 16/01/2006 08:06

Actually this business about a woman's brain turning to mush after childbirth is a myth. According to a new report out, childbirth actually boosts brain power. So there!

ggglimpopo · 16/01/2006 08:07

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harpsichordcarrier · 16/01/2006 08:10

is that right Freckle? I would be interested to read that
that is certainly my experience
I have never felt more on the ball since having children tbh
I think it is insidious though, as a myth
a good excuse not to take mothers seriously, in the workplace or whatever

bobbybobbobbingalong · 16/01/2006 08:16

Another mother at ds's 2nd birthday party when I brought out his additive free, vegan but absolutely ginormous chocolate birthday cake that I had made and iced myself and had helicopter candle holders (his favourite things at the time) and his name iced on, and ds's eyes were on stalks at this wonderous piece of sugar and carbs:

"oh it's a shame he can't have a proper birthday cake because of his allergies".

Needless to say - not being invited to his 3rd birthday.