Things you shouldn't say to another mum you have only just met

[emkana]

"I have just gone back to work after four years as a SAHM, about time, too, your brain just goes soft when you're at home all the time."

Said this mum at a b/day party to my friend and me... my friend has been a SAHM for seven years, me for nearly five years, we both have no immediate plans to return to work.
We didn't really take offence, I just thought it was funny, there are just some things I wouldn't say if I wasn't sure about the cirumstances of the people I was talking to.

Oh and my mum the day after having ds

"I'm sure my stomach went down quicker than that."

I'm afraid to say I did make some comment about how it was now a size 20 stomach, and so everything is relative.

isn't your granddaughter gorgeous......

My male boss came round to visit 5 days after I had delivered and said "oh, still got your stomach then i see" and made as if to pat it . I could have throttled him. However,I've never let him forget this and bring it up at regular intervals to get yet another grovelling apology.

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'oh you're so lucky just having the one'

When I announced at work that I was pregnant (i was engaged but not married) an older colleague said to me 'was it a new method of contraception that didnt work then?' I was absolutely stunned - DS1 was planned but even if he hadn't been what a shocking thing to say to someone you don't even know very well! I later found out that she'd had a shotgun wedding in the 60's!

nightowl, well done you! 3 days after a c section and showing off lo at work! Amazing. I couldnt move an inch!

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Pruni

OMFG

I think Kate Figes should be perusing this thread for her book of bitches! Blimey

Gosh, what lovely pretty girls......... (pauses to scan itsthawooluff in all frumpy loveliness).. are they yours?

Owwwoooo!!!!

Today whilst collecting dd3 from her preschool - get told "don't you think you've got enough there" pointing to my 4 kids!!! Felt like saying we're thinking about a fifth!!!

Pruni-

love this thread, but am dead scared of opening my mouth without thinking one day and dropping one of these clangers.

I managed a good one at mother and baby group - another mum who I'd met several times couldn't remember my DS's name which is v. unusual, but I could remember her DD's name. In a pitiful attempt to make her feel better about it I said "Oh but your DD's name is easier to remember, it's much more common!" Did NOT mean it how it sounded.

i have a 6.5 year gap between my number 3 and 4 children and although I have actually been asked it a handful of times (including by a midwife)I have also had it presumed and also SEEN it flickering across many a persons face ...

'Different fathers???'

No actually just fancied making my own life choices and just because they may not match yours!

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My cousin was in the Police force and when she told her Boss she was pregnant he said,
'well we'll not worry about it, it's very early you might loose it yet!'

Oh Pruni you were winning but I think that's worse! At least the "mongoloid" comment is kind of amusing in its utter outrageousness. The police boss comment is just...

"Do you want to see some pictures of my child's first poo in the potty? I've posted them on an internet site too so you can see them online..."

When pregnant, everyone saying to you, 'It changes your life, you know.'
You don't say?? Well I'm glad someone told me because otherwise I wouldn't have realised....

A university lecturer friend of mine who wasn't too good at dealing with pastoral issues had a student come to see him to say she was pregnant. All he could think of to say was, 'Do you know who the father is?'

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