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Crikey - Guess what MIL has done now!

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smackapacca · 30/11/2011 15:42

Not only has she looked after my children whilst I have a day off as I'm a bit ill, but she's just TEXTED to say she'll drop them back later in their PJs ready for bed so I don't have to go and collect them.

Oh and she's had my dog all day too.

Sad

What kind of family did I marry in to??? What on earth should I do???

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BarryStar · 30/11/2011 19:08

smackapacka - she truly is, or at least was, the last time we had any contact. I hope you don't think I'm stealth boasting by the way, I just wanted to let you all know, that despite some of these horrific stories, there is hope for you all.

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smackapacca · 30/11/2011 19:12

We can only hope Barry :)

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MigratingChestnutsOnAnOpenFire · 30/11/2011 19:13

Barry, I didn't read it as stealth boasting but I can see why you must be so proud.

smacka, you must be so very lonely. I'm just gald we've been here to keep you company.

Gapants · 30/11/2011 19:17

I have just opened a bottle of Peroni, have the Green and Blacks chocolate primed and ready. I just can't enjoy them knowing my DS is at his Grannies house having a lovely time.

I mean, how am I supposed to process the fact that he has been showered with love all afternoon, probably had some chocolate buttons and as I talk my MIL will be laid on the toddler bed with him singing softly to help him drift off too sleep. She will have no doubt entertained the 3000 toys he insists on taking to bed with him too with lots of kisses and night nights.

I think I need to stage an intervention. Get DH to grow a pair and tell him mum once and for to butt out.

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smackapacca · 30/11/2011 19:19

It's awful.

I just called to check they weren't actually waiting for me to go and collect them and was told they're on their way, and that i should go and have a glass of wine.

Who the hell do they think they are???

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smackapacca · 30/11/2011 19:55

Well - they're back. It's unfuckingbelievable what they've been doing. I don't want to dripfeed so I'll try and get it all down in one.

  1. brought back DCs in PJs. They said they'd had a great day. They said they'd taken them to a cafe and had asked for dairyfree milkshake for DS which had to be specially made.

  2. They bought them the same bear each - supposedly to avoid arguments, but do you know what evil MIL did then? She only sewed their initials into each bear's hat so they'd know which bear belonged to which DC.

  3. They changed the slippers they bought in error to the correct size. It took 72 hours for them to sort it out. MY POOR DS had to wait that long for correctly fitting Thomas slippers.

  4. Finally - they made Xmas cards for DH and I. There is glitter/paint/writing etc... All the stuff that I don't do as I'm too fricken mean

I'm going to have a lie down now to recover from their visit.

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Candid · 30/11/2011 19:58

God, that's awful. I feel so sad for your dc. I hope they won't be scarred by this Sad

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smackapacca · 30/11/2011 20:02

Jesus Christ - I've just found DOG TREATS in the DC's bag for OUR DOG!!!

WTF????

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ImperialBlether · 30/11/2011 20:09

It's obvious, Smack. They think you are starving your dog.

I think you shouldn't answer the phone to them again for a few years to teach them a lesson.

TeaOneSugarPlumFairy · 30/11/2011 20:09

I can't believe she's dragging the poor dog into this Shock

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smackapacca · 30/11/2011 20:14

My Dog is looking well - how can I put this - relaxed.

He's been walked and spolit by them all day.

I can't believe I've been so naiive.

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Matronalia · 30/11/2011 20:15

Mine are hideous, the inside of my cheeks are bitten bloody by the end of each visit.

FIL always brings his big bag of tools to fix anything broken in the house which is a fucking cheek. Before he does that though he pushes me out of the kitchen with a cup of tea in my hand so that he can cook the sunday roast. MIL then takes the DC to the table where she does bloody arts and crafts and pays them quality attention. She actually seems to enjoy it and tidies up afterwards. Bitch. In the meantime I am forced to put my feet up and watch television.

Whats more she phones me randomly when DH is away to make sure I am OK, which is such an infringement on my privacy - especially when I am in tears with the DC. The stupid cow even said I am doing a fantastic job with my DC and they are a credit to me.

I think they hate me Sad

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smackapacca · 30/11/2011 20:16

Sounds like it Matron Sad

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Gapants · 30/11/2011 20:16

smacka that is disgusting. Dog treats, home made cards? What next home made play clay?

I just called to see about my DS, he ate all his b=dinner, had buttons then they made a den together and playing in there. I asked if DS has been any trouble thinking, wait for it here it comes the money shot"He has been a charming little fellow all afternoon, we love having him" Christ almighty, is their no end to their twisted ways?

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smackapacca · 30/11/2011 20:18

Sounds like they're labelling him already.

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AmazingBouncingFerret · 30/11/2011 20:36

I thought I was alone in this sort of behaviour.
My MIL has had the audacity to take early retirement so we can have free childcare

I very nearly strangled her and divorced DH when she told me her plans.

5inthebed · 30/11/2011 20:56

Grin @ treats for the dog. Thy sound like they are trying to fattn your dog up Shock maybe even cook it for christmas dinner!!!

My MIL OTOH, is such a delight. She moans constantly, nothing is ever good for her and I get the grand task of taking her shopping every week so she can send me down each aisle for her. I loathe love spending time with her.

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smackapacca · 30/11/2011 20:59

Oh there's more. Just spoke to DH.

MIL bought DD new boots from NEXT, and they were faulty. She returned them and is apparently giving us the cash to spend on something else for her!

5inthebed - lucky bitch Envy

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iFailedTheTuringTest · 30/11/2011 21:01

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5inthebed · 30/11/2011 21:09

You need to get out now, while you still can! Can you go to a friends house with the DC? Leave the dog, he cannot be saved from this.

Methe · 30/11/2011 21:12

Smaka your PIL sound hideous. I just DO NOT KNOW how you put up with it.

Have you spoken to a solicitor?

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smackapacca · 30/11/2011 21:28

Well I would take the children and go, but they have one of the DC's birth certificates. They said it was to set up a pension fund, but who knows???

The PILs have a professional dog walking business so you can imagine the kind of life the dog would be subjected to Sad

How could I not see this coming???

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MigratingChestnutsOnAnOpenFire · 30/11/2011 21:32

I'm sure woman's aid must cover this sort of thing....

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smackapacca · 30/11/2011 21:34

Well I would call but I've had 2 glasses of wine and am under the snuggie with the laptop on my lap.

I am literally and figuratively trapped.

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Marlinspike · 30/11/2011 21:54

Smacka, if only Social Services weren't on strike today you would be right at the top of their list of priorities. You need help and support, and you need to get a lot of distance between yourself and your underhand, conniving PILs.

I know wine and I'm a Celebrity seem to be the only answer right now - this time will pass. For the moment you are just going to have to use all the emotional crutches that you have to get yourself through these dark days.

Oh, and I am sure the RSPCA would want to know about all those cruel long walks and exercise that they are inflicting upon those poor dogs!

Good luck - we are all rooting for you!