Crikey - Guess what MIL has done now!

[smackapacca]

Not only has she looked after my children whilst I have a day off as I'm a bit ill, but she's just TEXTED to say she'll drop them back later in their PJs ready for bed so I don't have to go and collect them.

Oh and she's had my dog all day too.

What kind of family did I marry in to??? What on earth should I do???

It's such a relief to find this. Dhs step mum is just the same. When I was really poorly a while back, she drove 250 miles with a hamper full of home cooked food, stocked up the freezer, stayed overnight, got me breakfast in bed and then drove home. I thought I was the only one!
When we stay there, it's cooked breakfasts, lots of tea, they take the kids out and leave us to it. They take them to nice places like the pleasure beach and the cinema. The day before we go home she washes and irons everything so that I don't have anything to do when I get back.

5inthebed...your FIL sounds like a really very lovely person to have known an interferring old soandso.

Alas, Imperial, I am worried you may be right there.

Yes 5inthebed I bet you must really miss him be dancing on his grave.

my guard was down with everything else going on, you see. How was I to know??

Come on Dawn, make yourself at home, you are very welcome here, you know.

thank got i found this thread!!!

i've told dp that we are not getting married until he has words with his parents. i mean, when i had dd they waited 2 weeks (!!!) to travel 500 miles to come and see us and to give us chance to all settle in.

then, the worst of it they came with lots of homemade chocolate cake and meals. then both of them had the cheek to clean my house from top to bottom, did all the washing everything! even when i was feeding dd she use to some and bring me a glass of water.

i can't even bring myself to mention the time she came to take up all my curtains...

Welcome to all the sufferers. Shall we ask MNHQ to create a new topic for us?

I have a mil like that!
For my last birthday she gave me £100 so I could treat myself! What do you suppose she meant by that?
She takes my dc on my days off so I can go to the gym and shopping AND her and fil will come to ours and babysit til late on in the night if me and dh go out.
Whenever we go round to hers, she'll cook lots of food and never lets me wash up.
Do you think she's passive-aggressive? [gets suspicious]

Wow, I though my MIL was bad. I mean, she did have the redeeming feature of living thousands of miles away, but she did awful stuff like teaching DH to see women as equals, and used to call me to say how much she loved me. Full of wise and sage advice too, can you believe it. And she was going to take the DDs for long summer breaks. She did us all a favour by passing on, I'll tell you.

My MIL sounds like she'd fit right in with all of yours - not only did she agree to having Christmas on a totally different day due to my heavily pregnant state, when it looked like I might have to have a C-Section she agreed to spend a few days a week sleeping on the sofabed at our house so she could take my toddler to pre-school and I could recover.

What fresh insanity is this?!

I bloody love that woman

5inthebed - I know how you feel, I'm absolutely devastated so relieved my DDs won't grow up knowing such an amazing awful women.

Who knew there were so many of them?

Mine's a real cow too. She took us all to see father christmas today and we went out for lunch and bought the kids some clothes. And there was when I was on bedrest during pregnancy with DS, she took time off work and looked after dd for 5 weeks.. Oh and they gave us our house deposit.

What a witch!

5inthebed I'm sure your FIL would have loved to think that he is remembered with so much love and warmth irritation.

MigratingChestnuts this is why you must ALWAYS keep your guard up. Never, ever let them start helping! Or before you know it you're sitting on a sofa watching telly with a cup of tea they've made for you, eating a cake they've baked for you (I'm coeliac so my MIL always goes to the extra trouble of baking a special gluten free cake which makes me so very )

Perhaps we should just all shout "I'm not taking any more of your crap" as soon as they walk in with the washing and ironing they've done, the happy grandchildren, or the meal they've cooked for us?

My MIL still hasn't returned my little buggers angels. This means I've had the whole day to myself.

Selfish.

My DMIL is coming down to help me for a week. She will cook, clean, iron, let me sleep in and entertain my ds to help me
Recover from a bad chest infection.

Dfil Is down on Wednesday and they are looking after our ds so we can go to our works Christmas do.

I will be taken out, pampered and spoiled.

Pair of bastards.

mine is the worst! I'm from another country and not once has she even hinted that this is an issue. Even worse, they tell DH to take good care of me and that he is lucky to have me. The cheek!

They also take care of our 2 massive dogs whenever we go on a holiday and actually ask us to bring them with us whenever we visit. Bastards.

I knew it - now we're all trying to 'out-sad' each other.

IT's like the 4 yorkshiremen on here.

Haven't read the whole thread but OP your MIL sounds passive aggressive and controlling. HTH.

Oh ladies, I just couldn't read and run. I can't imagine how you all feel. There's a very good book on this type of behaviour that you should all ready by Bandy Lincroft - look it up on Amazon.

I wish I could lend you all my MIL - she's perfect. She never used to lift a finger to interfere, used to ignore the dc and was a brilliant conversationalist - interesting view on race and immigration etc. But best of all - she doesn't even talk to me now.

I think someone up thread must know an ex friend of mine. She had a truly shocking MIL, who had the nerve to turn up at her ds's party once - with a home baked birthday cake! But my friend soon put her right.

Take care ladies, my thoughts are with you.

Barry - if only they could all learn from your MIL... She sounds delightful

I don't know where to start with mine.......

When dd1 was born she took time off from work to come down and help, asked me everytime before she did something, bit her tongue numerous times even though she had three dcs and was a health visitor and I was a completely clueless 21. Then when my healthvisitor came round mil went out for a walk so that HV didn't feel intimidated by her presence! You couldn't make it up!

Then she kept sending us cheques to help us out when I was at home with dd1 and dh was in low paid job....

Then she bought be an easily folding buggy to go on the bus after we moved because she thought it would be helpful (I know - you can barely believe it can you?)

Then as the dds grew she was unfailingly supportive and interested and encouraged dh and I to go out for the evening whenever we stayed with them.

When I rang her last year to ask her to come down at a few days notice to babysit so that dh and I could attend a very emotional family event she dropped everything and came - through the snow and then drove back the next day also through the snow taking 9 hours to do a 5 hour journey.

Just today she has e-mailed asking for suggestions for dd's Christmas and will then go and buy what I ask

She's a monster!

NL

Having kept her out all day my MIL has now demanded that dd sleeps at her house tonight, and to add insult to injury she's taking her to school in the morning.

DH is on a late shift, so I'm sitting in the house on my own (sob), I'm going to have to have a soak in the bath and eat chocolate just to get through this.