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Crikey - Guess what MIL has done now!

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smackapacca · 30/11/2011 15:42

Not only has she looked after my children whilst I have a day off as I'm a bit ill, but she's just TEXTED to say she'll drop them back later in their PJs ready for bed so I don't have to go and collect them.

Oh and she's had my dog all day too.

Sad

What kind of family did I marry in to??? What on earth should I do???

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Psammead · 30/11/2011 15:43

What a nightmare.

Careful, she'll probably bring homemade Victoria sandwuch around too, the cow.

hester · 30/11/2011 15:44

Shock Why isn't your dh sticking up for you?

nickelbabe · 30/11/2011 15:44

some people!
the cheek of it!

now what will you do? Confused

she'll probably try to make you a cup of honey and lemon when she gets there too.
and probably even attempt to help you tidy up

SantasStrapon · 30/11/2011 15:44
Envy

just

Envy

Do you think she'll really rock the boat, and bring dinner round?

TobyLeWolef · 30/11/2011 15:45

What a bitch. Leave her goodfornothing son. The bastard. He'll only turn out like her.

jesuswhatnext · 30/11/2011 15:46

dont invite the cow for christmas, she will only spoil it by washing up or something! Angry

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smackapacca · 30/11/2011 15:46

OH - I forgot the worst bit - she hosted my Son's birthday party at the weekend, and made him special food because of his allergies.

I'm going to have to tell DH about this aren't I?

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justanothertenminutes · 30/11/2011 15:46

I can't believe you're putting up with this! You're going to have to stand up for yourself or she'll walk all over you

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smackapacca · 30/11/2011 15:47

Well we're going to theirs for Xmas day, and staying the night so we can drink.

I imagine the whole thing will be a nightmare with food a plenty and wine flowing.

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Persephoney · 30/11/2011 15:47

Toxic MIL or WHAT?!

No doubt she'll have sorted out advent calendars for your kids if you've been too poorly and told them to be well behaved as well. Bitch.

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smackapacca · 30/11/2011 15:49

DH got the advent calendars from ALDI yesterday. Spent 89p EACH on them!!

I now know where he gets his wicked ways Angry

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hester · 30/11/2011 15:54

dh just has to choose. He needs to know that YOU'RE his family now.

Gapants · 30/11/2011 16:00

She sounds like a right bitch, mine is exactly the same, I can't drive at the moment so she drives over here to take DS to nursery, then will pick him up, take him to hers, give him dinner and let her sleep over then take him out swimming tomorrow then bring him home. Honestly I am at my wits end with her interfering ways.

They are also booked in to baby sit for us next week so we can go out and get pissed, they are even having the kids the next day so we can sleep off our hangovers.

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smackapacca · 30/11/2011 16:01

I know hester

I'm going to try and get some RL support.

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smackapacca · 30/11/2011 16:02

Gapants - are you me? Unless you're living with it, nobody really understands do they?

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pooka · 30/11/2011 16:03

Mine is terrible too. When I was ill recently she came round at 8am, took the older children to school and ds2 to a petting farm. She had the temerity to then tell me to stay in bed while she picked the older two up after school thus preventing me from doing 2 school runs and looking after ds2 all day. The cow bag.

nickelbabe · 30/11/2011 16:04

makes me so glad DH's mum is in a home.

I don't know how you cope.

:(

Persephoney · 30/11/2011 16:06

Well, if we're sharing stories - you will not BELIEVE what my "D"Sis and BIL are doing this weekend. They are taking ALL 3 DC for TWO NIGHTS and have planned loads of activities, a takeaway AND a cinema trip so me and DP have space to paint their bedroom walls. I bet they might even buy them presents at Christmas as well. Fuckers.

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smackapacca · 30/11/2011 16:08

nickel - sometimes I don't know how I cope either. I've had to sit here on MN all day. I've got a cup of tea on the go, choc biscuits nearly eaten.

Tis shit, but it won't be forever.

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MigratingChestnutsOnAnOpenFire · 30/11/2011 16:08

I just don't know how you cope not having to do everything for everyone all the time.... Sad

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smackapacca · 30/11/2011 16:09

Persephoney - they sound awful.

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Dlamis · 30/11/2011 16:10

Oh she sounds just like mine. Whenever we go to visit for a few days she insists on getting up with the children at 6.30am and makes me stay in bed and catch up on sleep.

Then when I do get up she makes me a cup of tea and force feeds me bacon sandwiches. I just won't can't stop her.

pictish · 30/11/2011 16:12

Grin - love this thread!

OP - your dh should be sorting this out with his mother.

My mil is very similar. She loves our kids and is interested in their welfare and development. She likes to see them regularly, and sometimes even comes round to our house to visit. I can hardly bear to type this, but the fact is, quite often she brings little gifts for them as well. Overbearing cow.

My dh seems to think this is perfectly acceptable. WWYD?

MigratingChestnutsOnAnOpenFire · 30/11/2011 16:12

Dlamis, that's just plain shocking! really? bacon sandwiches??? Bitch!

TalcAndTurnips · 30/11/2011 16:13

I think you might need counselling.

The trauma that this kind of behaviour and attitude causes may have long-term and deeply-rooted consequences - it also sends out tap-roots of insidious damage to others close to you; not least your children.

Have you considered applying to go on the Jeremy Kyle Show? A good savaging by Jezza and a studio audience baying for blood may be just the jolt your MIL needs, to show her what she's doing.

If not, why not try some old-fashioned remedies, such as a Scold's Bridle, or a ducking in the village pond?