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Crikey - Guess what MIL has done now!

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smackapacca · 30/11/2011 15:42

Not only has she looked after my children whilst I have a day off as I'm a bit ill, but she's just TEXTED to say she'll drop them back later in their PJs ready for bed so I don't have to go and collect them.

Oh and she's had my dog all day too.

Sad

What kind of family did I marry in to??? What on earth should I do???

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lostinwales · 30/11/2011 16:14

I know how you all feel these women are awful aren't they. MiL quite often phones and asks if she can pick the boys up from school and give them (and us) tea if she hasn't seen us for the week. Sometimes she even has the temerity to offer to have them overnight at the weekend for us and then invites us for Sunday lunch to mop up our hangovers. Terrible example to set. Sad

Gapants · 30/11/2011 16:15

I think we should form a support group...

I can't believe how I have it sometimes I mean the audacity of actually loving my kids and me so much to help when I need it and back off when I don't.

BupcakesandCunting · 30/11/2011 16:16

Mine is the same

Mine came over to look after DS the otehr week despite being in pain with arthritis, the selfish old goat. She had the brass neck to wash up their dinner stuff, too. I am still fuming. Angry

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smackapacca · 30/11/2011 16:16

pictish - I have no idea what to do with my own MIL; I couldn't possibly advise you on yours

I forgot about the interest in the welfare and development. She even came to DD's nativity play last year voluntarily. Eugh.

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BanalChelping · 30/11/2011 16:17

Tell DH he's married to you and that your needs come before her selfish fucking demands!

ShirleyKnot · 30/11/2011 16:18

My mum is like this OP. Sad

It's very hard to cope with.

(((((HUGZ2U)))))

MigratingChestnutsOnAnOpenFire · 30/11/2011 16:18

I think its a type of 'gaslighting' behaviour.

making use think they really care by really caring.

its the sort of thing that can really mess with your head.

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smackapacca · 30/11/2011 16:18

Talc - I hadn't thought of going on JK. Might be just what she needs!

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pictish · 30/11/2011 16:19

I'll never forget how my mil wanted to hold my children when they were babies and give them a cuddle. She would come in to MY HOUSE and ask for a wee cuddle....then just sit there, cuddling them, as though she had a perfect right to have an interest in her gc.
There were a couple of times when she offered to take the baby out for a walk in the pram!!!! Shock

SnapesMistress · 30/11/2011 16:19

My MIL is awful, if I come to visit she gets cake in specially. And won't stop ordering DP to making me cups of tea.

We also fight over who gets to do the washing up too after the roast she always makes for me. I'm not allowed. :(

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smackapacca · 30/11/2011 16:20

"gaslighting' behaviour - making use think they really care by really caring".

That is exactly what this is. The support on this thread is overwhelming.

((un-mn hugs all round))

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lostinwales · 30/11/2011 16:21

She will move heaven and earth to change her shifts as a nurse too if we should even whisper about needing a babysitter. Quite often she works an early looks after my children overnight, feeds me and then goes and works a late. Bitch.

God help me if I behave like that one day.

TeaOneSugarPlumFairy · 30/11/2011 16:21

Mine turned up on my doorstep this morning, and took dd out.

They're going to the cinema with her cousins and then out for tea !!!!

They've been gone for hours, and she was threatening to buy pick and mix !!!

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smackapacca · 30/11/2011 16:22

Who the hell do these women think they are eh? Taking an interest in their Sons and their grandchildren. It's just not on.

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Tortington · 30/11/2011 16:22

what a bitch.

pictish · 30/11/2011 16:22

God help me if I behave that way one day

Hahahaaaa! This thread is making me laugh a lot. Grin

SnapesMistress · 30/11/2011 16:23

Despicable, the way they think they can be kind and welcoming to me in thier own home.

Gapants · 30/11/2011 16:23

bups I think you should sneak in sharpe knives into the washing up bowl, I mean what exactly is she doing? She might as well shout it "you are crap at washing up bups, this is a judgement on you!"

pictish crazy! She showed actual love and affection? I feel sick.

Flisspaps · 30/11/2011 16:24

You deserve a medal. You should tell her, she'll probably go and buy you a beautiful one, and gift wrap it for Christmas, with a note saying what a wonderful DIL you are.

Cow.

MigratingChestnutsOnAnOpenFire · 30/11/2011 16:24

I used to think it was just me, you know?

Like I was the only one in the world who had a MIL who was bang out of order.

Its good to know there are just so many of us out there

pictish · 30/11/2011 16:24

I know. My dh can't understand what all the fuss is about. It's about time he cut those apron strings and got his priorities straight isn't it?

TalcAndTurnips · 30/11/2011 16:24

Yup smackapacca - the sight of a tawdry, unkempt crone with half her front teeth missing and flabby legs akimbo (as I'm sure describes your MIL perfectly) with a line in coarse language, is just the sort of thing to inflame the passions of a lynch mob Jeremy Kyle audience.

It would be like throwing Christians to the lions - and I, for one, would thoroughly enjoy the gory spectacle.

Let us all know when she's on.

TeaOneSugarPlumFairy · 30/11/2011 16:26

My DH booked the cinema tickets on-line for my MIL so the dc wouldn't be disappointed if it was sold out, he actually enables her behaviour.

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smackapacca · 30/11/2011 16:27

You're not wrong Talc - my MIL is hideous. She needs a bit of baying JK audience. That'll show her!

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