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Crikey - Guess what MIL has done now!

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smackapacca · 30/11/2011 15:42

Not only has she looked after my children whilst I have a day off as I'm a bit ill, but she's just TEXTED to say she'll drop them back later in their PJs ready for bed so I don't have to go and collect them.

Oh and she's had my dog all day too.

Sad

What kind of family did I marry in to??? What on earth should I do???

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smackapacca · 30/11/2011 16:44

Shock at hanging up washing.

Do you think she subconsciously knew it'd be helpful.

I mean how could she not?

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MigratingChestnutsOnAnOpenFire · 30/11/2011 16:44

I've been thinking about it and I think Purple is a troll.

i mean no-one in their right mind would actually behave like that in RL!!!!

pictish · 30/11/2011 16:45

She just did it to get at me. She knew it would go foosty in the machine.

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smackapacca · 30/11/2011 16:46

I thought that, but she has previously posted helpful advice on one of my other threads.

Unless she is a troll who's stalking me?

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lostinwales · 30/11/2011 16:47

Ooh ooh I remembered something else. When we went on holiday for three weeks in the summer she had our pet birds without complaining and when we came home she'd mowed the lawn, filled the fridge and put cut flowers from our garden in all the downstairs rooms. How dare she muscle in like that.

Dlamis · 30/11/2011 16:47

Mine irons too. Actually so does my mum. I think they are in it together conspiring away!

lostinwales · 30/11/2011 16:48
pictish · 30/11/2011 16:49

I'll never forget that thread on here where the poster's mil turned up on the OP's child's birthday with a cake!!! A fucking CAKE!!

Well the OP did the right thing and binned it immediately. And quite right too!

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smackapacca · 30/11/2011 16:49

I think lostinwales' account may have been hacked.

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Milchardo · 30/11/2011 16:50

Is she always this controlling? OP, you need to grow a pair... Grin

becstarsky · 30/11/2011 16:52

Oh I'm so glad to hear that others are suffering like me. I was starting to wonder whether I was the only one on MN with a MIL like this.

Mine is taking DS to stay over for the weekend so that DH and I can have some time together. The nasty cow is travelling for two hours by train to pick him up, then bringing him all the way back for us. We offered to drive her, but oh no, she wouldn't have it! She is so controlling that she INSISTS we don't lift a finger and 'just enjoy yourselves'. I mean what kind of toxic message is that sending to our DS?

SnapesMistress · 30/11/2011 16:52

maybe we should report lostinwales?

MigratingChestnutsOnAnOpenFire · 30/11/2011 16:56

Snapes, that could be a good idea. I personally found her last post really quite offensive

Lisatheonewhoeatsdrytoast · 30/11/2011 16:57

Envy and Envy to all of you...

That's all i have to say!

vixsatis · 30/11/2011 16:59

For MN classics, I think

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smackapacca · 30/11/2011 17:02

I'm growing increasingly angry on behalf of the silent minority on MN who have MILs who care, help and worst of all put themselves out for the good of their grown up sons and their families.

If I wasn't so busy sitting here on MN watching a 10yo edition of Location on More4 I'd do some frothing beserkering.

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Gapants · 30/11/2011 17:07

smackapaca and me, I mean it is outrageous. I am sat here at home watching 4 in a bed safe in the knowledge that my DS is with his Grannie being fed a lovely meal and probably about to play hide and seek. DS gets them to hide all over the house, and them being in their late 60s oblige. Behind the sofa--no problem, under the table- yes please, in the bath- but of course.

It is that kind of special care and time spent on my DS that just makes me fume.

pictish · 30/11/2011 17:08

hee! Grin

ImperialBlether · 30/11/2011 17:11

I'm crying with laughter here.

MigratingChestnutsOnAnOpenFire · 30/11/2011 17:11

Smacka and Gapants*, you need to stop this, now, before it becomes so part of your day to day experience that you don't even realise its wrong anymore.

MigratingChestnutsOnAnOpenFire · 30/11/2011 17:12

its abuse, plain and simple.

purplepidjin · 30/11/2011 17:13

pins on Troll badge with pride

goodasgold · 30/11/2011 17:14

I don't know where to start with mine. I think I need to gather my thoughts and compose myself.

Firstly the amount of sheer help she has given me over the years. Help with the dcs, offering to look after them, and doing it well.

She does that thing where she will have to sleep over on Saturday night and then invite DH and I around for a Sunday roast. This gives us the odd lazy Sunday morning, and a lie in together. I'm sure she knows how that makes me feel. Seems like it has happened to other posters here, I was feeling so alone about this.

She loves baking and makes me homemade cakes which are delicious.

She buys me clothes that I actually like, and compliments me. I've noticed that she is starting to do the same to my dds too. But I don't know what I can do about it.

I think the thing that gets to me most is how she raised my DH to be such a generous and lovely man. I should have seen it coming, but its too late to leave. I couldn't leave.

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smackapacca · 30/11/2011 17:14

Migrating - what the hell should we do? Say thank-you? Buy flowers? It's just too confusing.

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Gay40 · 30/11/2011 17:14

Frankly, I think my SIL takes the biscuit in terms of interfering and controlling.

Not only did she drive us all the way to the airport for our holidays AND pick us afterwards because she knows I get a bit tired and stressed, but she had the bloody nerve to take the car to the garage when it broke down, got it mended, paid for the repair and got it back in use while we were away. I mean, how am I supposed to live under these conditions.