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NEVER SEND YOUR CHILD TO NURSERY

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NicoleBailey · 02/03/2009 17:15

hi.. mums, i am a full time mummy to a little girl of 16months.
personally.. having worked in different nurserys i would advise anyone NOT to ever ever send their child to a particular one~!
dont know if i can name names..
before i was pregnant i worked for a private nursery it was brillant from day 1 we had lots of training. and was taught to give a home from home enviroment and treat each child as if it was your own. after i had my little girl, i went to work for a well know chain of nurserys. and was disqusted!it seemed to be run by young girls who didnt have any children. and who had just left school.. the girls wouldnt go near any children that werent up to their hygine standards. exapmle.. a child fell over in playground and had grazed their hand. none of the girls wanted to go and compfort the child as it 'smelt' they were all saying 'no you go..' i was outraged. this little child was crying and no one would go to them.
i dont care what anyone says if a child fell over and smelt or not.. you dont ever not go to it. the girls had 'favopurites' if the child turnt up to nursery in a bmw and latest nike trainers then the girls loved them! nappy times.. the girls didnt warn the child or tell the child they were about to be changed they just grabbed the child and layed it on the floor on nappy mat. and wondered why the child is kicking and screming..they hadnt pre told the child 'in a min im going to do your nappy'! by the end of my 1st day i felt sick! i couldnt believe i had enrolled my daughter to such a place. never in a million years would any child of been treated like this at my previous place of work.
my one the day before i left my littlegirl was left crying for ages in a corner. and she doesnt smell! and wears the latest clothes/trainers!! i was working in toddler room down the corridor and could hear her crying..i asked if i could go and check on her and was told to wait until my break was due.. which was half hour away. 10 mins later we could still hear her crying.. so the room leader rang down to the baby unit and asked if i was my daughter we could hear. and 2 mins later a girl from the room came up to toddlers and said' yes shes a bit upset at the moment but dont come down because if she sees you it might upsaet her even more' i was angry and wanted to go to her. so kindley a girl swapped breaks with me and i ran down to baby room , where in the corner was my daughter sitting propped up with pillows. hyperventaliating. all the girls were the other side of the room chatting over the wall to other nursery workers, i picked her up and tried to settle her, but she couldnt breathe she was crying that much. the girls hadnt even noticed id come in the room, i rocked her to sleep and went straight to nursery managagers office to complain about everything id seen in the few days which id worked their.. and i asked to see the cctv of the baby room so i culd see just how long she had been crying and to see if any one had tryed to calm her down. we watched for bout 5 mins, where a girl picked her up tryed to rock her then put her back down. still screaming! the manager stopped the tape before it went on any further. my daughter was ill the next day with a viral infection.. dont know how or where she picked that up from (prob nursery) so i didnt go back into work for the rest of that week. then i sent a letter handing my notice in. remember babies cannot talk or tel you what happened to them. just because the nursery looks friendly and clean. be cautious.. if your child makes a huge fuss before going to nursery in hte morning its probley because they are not cared for correctly whilst their. advice to partents..
quit your job! why have children if you stick them in a nursery 7-am -7-pm get family members to help you. i reported this nursery to oftead and it was not the 1st compaint as staff ratios had been compalined about in the baby room. ofstead njst warned them. now they have re-opened in a new name!!

so advice.. NEVER SEND YOUR CHILD TO NURSERY and the fees you pay are a rip off!!

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Twinklemegan · 02/03/2009 21:42

Oh no, that one as well. What about sponging off the taxpayer - has that come up as well? Excuse me for not being bothered to read the thread.

hf128219 · 02/03/2009 21:42

Well to be honest I wouldn't want to be a SAHM. I would go bonkers and much prefer to be out working and using my brain.

I would hasten to add I have every respect - and admiration- for SAHM's.

NicoleBailey · 02/03/2009 21:43

i personally think that everything a child learns at nursery can be learnt at home.

why do all you ladies swear so much?
is their any need for it..?

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smallorange · 02/03/2009 21:44

hf128219 - I do love a back-handed compliment.

FimbleTree · 02/03/2009 21:44

This is the first time I have looked at this site, and the first post I have read. I was obviously wrong in thinking it was a place for people to express their opinions. What I have seen has mostly been a personal attack from many people towards one person! I would be so upset if I had rightly or wrongly left a post, to later read people calling me illiterate, etc. Disgusting behaviour from grown adults. How can you criticise someone's spelling, punctuation, etc, whilst using foul language like that!!!

hf128219 · 02/03/2009 21:46

Smallorange - you know what I meant!

smallorange · 02/03/2009 21:47

"Disgusting behaviour from grown adults. How can you criticise someone's spelling, punctuation, etc, whilst using foul language like that!!!"

Welcome to Mumsnet

frasersmummy · 02/03/2009 21:48

lillyloo

I didnt mean to offend ... having read my post back and seen your reply I can see how it could be read that way

Of course you can teach your child these skills at home.

Ds picked up these skills really quickly considering we have very small family with not other young children and a lot of my friends are childless. So we assumed he honed the skills at nursery iyswim

NicoleBailey · 02/03/2009 21:51

thankyou Fimble Tree..

it was my 1st time on here today, and i dont think ill be sharing any more views there is another site called NETMUMS Check that one out, they might seem nicer people.

that have better things to do than slag other people off all day..

THIS COMMENT IS ONLY FOR you ladies that have in a way been inappropiate to me personally.. i suggest you get off your fat lazy arses and go and pick up your poor child/children from the nursery you had left them at all day, not really knowing what they did.. why you sit slagging me off all day..
i hope you remember this if godforbid you ever have a bad nursery experience.

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smallorange · 02/03/2009 21:53

Sorry hf128219 - I do know what you mean.

I just get a bit tired of talking to some people who, when told I am home with my kids at the moment, tell me they would go mad at home etc etc etc, need to use their brain, etc etc, thus implying that I do not have a brain and must spend my days wiping bums and perusing internet chat sites like mumsnet...

hf128219 · 02/03/2009 21:53

Hold your horses love. I collected my dd 3 hours ago!

You really are absolutely bonkers.

apostrophe · 02/03/2009 21:53

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NicoleBailey · 02/03/2009 21:55

i said mums that slagged me off..

i cant be bothered with this..

i try and warn people and get this.. pathetic..

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Lilyloo · 02/03/2009 21:58

No offence taken Frasersmum

nickschick · 02/03/2009 22:01

By NicoleBailey on Mon 02-Mar-09 21:51:57
thankyou Fimble Tree..

it was my 1st time on here today, and i dont think ill be sharing any more views there is another site called NETMUMS Check that one out, they might seem nicer people.

that have better things to do than slag other people off all day..

THIS COMMENT IS ONLY FOR you ladies that have in a way been inappropiate to me personally.. i suggest you get off your fat lazy arses and go and pick up your poor child/children from the nursery you had left them at all day, not really knowing what they did.. why you sit slagging me off all day..
i hope you remember this if godforbid you ever have a bad nursery experience.
By smallorange on Mon 02-Mar-09 21:53:26

now it becomes apparent ....as good as a nursery nurse I pride myself on being mothers like this take the mickey and I think perhaps it wasnt your daughter the staff didnt take to it was you and your attitude.

helsbels4 · 02/03/2009 22:01

Nicole, whilst I don't agree with most of the things that have been said about you personally, you must see that what you have just posted will - shall we say mildly - piss people off somewhat?!!! I'm all for hitting out at people who follow the herd and agree with what has already been said, instead of saying what they really think but really??? I'm a sahm and I send my dd to nursery three mornings a week because
a) it's a really lovely nursery
b) my dd loves it and begs me to go there on her days off and
c) because it's teaching her valuable social skills that she will need when she starts school
I have worked in a "not so good nursery", so what you are talking about BUT there are some really good nurseries out there and you can't judge them all by your experience. It's like saying, "All boys should like cars and the colour blue" or "All girls must wear pink and do ballet" YOU CAN'T MAKE SWEEPING STATEMENTS and expect to get away with them.

Twinklemegan · 02/03/2009 22:04

Oh come on ladies. Why, for the second time, has an inflammatory thread about bad nurseries morphed into a WOHM/SAHM debate? As if the two topics are in any way related? It's pathetic, it really is.

choufleur · 02/03/2009 22:05

but you're not trying to warn people Nicole, you're generalising about some experiences that you have had and you're now suggesting that by leaving children at nursery we're fat and lazy!

Perhaps if you're OP had been slightly more considered then people would have not taken so much offence and posted in the way we have.

helsbels4 · 02/03/2009 22:08

I think that people who send their children to nurseries would always flare up at an op such as this tbh! It turns into a sahm v wohm argument because you get an op who suggests that people should get off their fat arses and look after their own children but you also get people who suggest that sahm sponge off their husbands. I find both sides of the argument offensive tbh

kalo12 · 02/03/2009 22:08

i know being a SAHM can be boring and isolating. personally, I think its a problem that society is not geared to making motherhood easier.

rearing children is a very important job in a society, something britain seems not to have grasped.

I work with disaffected and troubled teenagers with various problems, and i am appalled by how many of the girls are encouraged into child care courses because they are perceived as easy.

Nicole - change your name for all subsequent posts and watch all these uppity ones giving it to someone else. These issues on mumsnet always get a bit heated, but remember its an anonymous internet site so don't take it personally, and let it get to you.

I once faced a grilling from the mumsnet witch hunt. i had severe PND at the time and I found it relentless.

frasersmummy · 02/03/2009 22:18

its not a witch hunt when the op
says this

get off your fat lazy arses and go and pick up your poor child/children from the nursery you had left them at all day,

and yes I know she said it was only aimed at those who were nasty to her but in my humble opinion this is what she thinks of all us who use a nursery...

its not a nice thing to say even on NETMUMS!!!

blueshoes · 02/03/2009 22:24

OP: "THIS COMMENT IS ONLY FOR you ladies that have in a way been inappropiate to me personally.. i suggest you get off your fat lazy arses and go and pick up your poor child/children from the nursery you had left them at all day, not really knowing what they did.. why you sit slagging me off all day..
i hope you remember this if godforbid you ever have a bad nursery experience."

Oh dear.

Now please get Your Fat Arse to Netmums.

And I disagree that in an ideal world mums (I think you mean 'parent') should stay at home with their children.

blueshoes · 02/03/2009 22:27

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Twinklemegan · 02/03/2009 22:27

Me too helsbels, me too. As a WOHM with a DH who's a SAHD I have a foot in both camps. DS goes to nursery two days a week, and I also get irate at OPs like this one. But after the previous thread I just can't be bothered with it any more. We are the only ones who know what is best for our family circumstances - to hell with what anyone else thinks.

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