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NEVER SEND YOUR CHILD TO NURSERY

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NicoleBailey · 02/03/2009 17:15

hi.. mums, i am a full time mummy to a little girl of 16months.
personally.. having worked in different nurserys i would advise anyone NOT to ever ever send their child to a particular one~!
dont know if i can name names..
before i was pregnant i worked for a private nursery it was brillant from day 1 we had lots of training. and was taught to give a home from home enviroment and treat each child as if it was your own. after i had my little girl, i went to work for a well know chain of nurserys. and was disqusted!it seemed to be run by young girls who didnt have any children. and who had just left school.. the girls wouldnt go near any children that werent up to their hygine standards. exapmle.. a child fell over in playground and had grazed their hand. none of the girls wanted to go and compfort the child as it 'smelt' they were all saying 'no you go..' i was outraged. this little child was crying and no one would go to them.
i dont care what anyone says if a child fell over and smelt or not.. you dont ever not go to it. the girls had 'favopurites' if the child turnt up to nursery in a bmw and latest nike trainers then the girls loved them! nappy times.. the girls didnt warn the child or tell the child they were about to be changed they just grabbed the child and layed it on the floor on nappy mat. and wondered why the child is kicking and screming..they hadnt pre told the child 'in a min im going to do your nappy'! by the end of my 1st day i felt sick! i couldnt believe i had enrolled my daughter to such a place. never in a million years would any child of been treated like this at my previous place of work.
my one the day before i left my littlegirl was left crying for ages in a corner. and she doesnt smell! and wears the latest clothes/trainers!! i was working in toddler room down the corridor and could hear her crying..i asked if i could go and check on her and was told to wait until my break was due.. which was half hour away. 10 mins later we could still hear her crying.. so the room leader rang down to the baby unit and asked if i was my daughter we could hear. and 2 mins later a girl from the room came up to toddlers and said' yes shes a bit upset at the moment but dont come down because if she sees you it might upsaet her even more' i was angry and wanted to go to her. so kindley a girl swapped breaks with me and i ran down to baby room , where in the corner was my daughter sitting propped up with pillows. hyperventaliating. all the girls were the other side of the room chatting over the wall to other nursery workers, i picked her up and tried to settle her, but she couldnt breathe she was crying that much. the girls hadnt even noticed id come in the room, i rocked her to sleep and went straight to nursery managagers office to complain about everything id seen in the few days which id worked their.. and i asked to see the cctv of the baby room so i culd see just how long she had been crying and to see if any one had tryed to calm her down. we watched for bout 5 mins, where a girl picked her up tryed to rock her then put her back down. still screaming! the manager stopped the tape before it went on any further. my daughter was ill the next day with a viral infection.. dont know how or where she picked that up from (prob nursery) so i didnt go back into work for the rest of that week. then i sent a letter handing my notice in. remember babies cannot talk or tel you what happened to them. just because the nursery looks friendly and clean. be cautious.. if your child makes a huge fuss before going to nursery in hte morning its probley because they are not cared for correctly whilst their. advice to partents..
quit your job! why have children if you stick them in a nursery 7-am -7-pm get family members to help you. i reported this nursery to oftead and it was not the 1st compaint as staff ratios had been compalined about in the baby room. ofstead njst warned them. now they have re-opened in a new name!!

so advice.. NEVER SEND YOUR CHILD TO NURSERY and the fees you pay are a rip off!!

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NicoleBailey · 02/03/2009 17:23

RUBYSLIPPERS- no i havent joined mn just to post this.. i am just trying to help advise other mums what happens behind the scenes. before they make decisions on sending their babies.. did you not read that i had previousally worked at a private nursery where care was excellent.

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TotalChaos · 02/03/2009 17:23

so - some nurseries are great and some aren't. Hold the front page.

paddingtonbear1 · 02/03/2009 17:24

I'm like a lot of other mums - couldn't afford to quit my job and have no family near!

poppy34 · 02/03/2009 17:24

what an amazingly helpful post -thanks for sharing that ... "quit your job".. good idea - I think my dd would be crying even more if I had no cash to feed her/heat house etc.

I suppose you did report it to ofsted ...sadly there is no one I can report this post to for grammar/spelling/sensationalism.

georgimama · 02/03/2009 17:25

so why the thread title saying "Never send your child to nursery?"

"Never send your child to a carp nursery" not so contraversial eh?

anyway I have reported you.

CrushWithEyeliner · 02/03/2009 17:25

I am so sorry you had that experience - please report them to ofstead asap.

Ripeberry · 02/03/2009 17:25

Are they any other nursery workers out there who can give us a better idea of what goes on in a nursery?
And NO most people can't give up their job and don't have relatives that's why they HAVE to use nurseries...no other real option.
Lots of European countries have government run nurseries and children are cared for to a high standard.
It's a bit like old peoples homes, private companies are in it for a quick buck .

rubyslippers · 02/03/2009 17:25

yes i did read that

but it is an inflammatory post and not helpful at all

lots of us send our children into excellent nurseries with high quality care - we are not daft

you are going to rile people saying things like "quit your job", get family members to help - my mum lives 200 miles from me ... that is a bit of a commute isn't it?

MarlaSinger · 02/03/2009 17:25

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georgimama · 02/03/2009 17:25

crap nursery

obviously

not

carp nursery.

belgo · 02/03/2009 17:26

I can't read the OP. I need paragraphs. Sorry.

rubyslippers · 02/03/2009 17:26

it isn't worth it Belgo, believe me

Haribosmummy · 02/03/2009 17:26

I don't think it's helpful to say 'QUit your job'....

Are you some sort of victorian male????????

Whether your story is true or not, your advice is not helpful at all, and is (IMHO) quite offensive to working mums...

Do you think they work simply because they like to pay fees to have someone else look after their kids???? Err... THAT WOULD BE A NO

(and, FWIW, I'm a SAHM so it's not me you are getting at, but it's such a shit implication that a woman works out of choice and not out of neccesity - you don't get to dictate how women live their lives)

Lemontart · 02/03/2009 17:27

Sorry you had a bad time and hope you find the right childcare options for you. If you do decide to do fulltime care yourself and no nurseries, I hope you at least consider playgroups or other group activities for your LO. Don?t let your negative experiences put you off altogether as you child will find it harder to adjust when they get to school.

If you expected people to read your post and say "oooh ,thanks for the advice! I never realised nurseries were so awful, I will go cancel my child?s place right away..." then you are deluded, sadly. Sweeping statements like "ALL nurseries.." will only irritate and raise a few eyebrows. I am sure when you are feeling calmer and can gain a little perspective, you will see a bigger picture in all this

belgo · 02/03/2009 17:28

ok thank you ruby that saves me ten minutes

edam · 02/03/2009 17:28

Nicole, what would be very helpful would be if you would either name and shame the nursery where you worked (clearly the staff are shameless if they could do this to the baby of a colleague) AND if you could give us any tips on spotting a crap nursery. How can a parent tell if the staff are kind or couldn't give a toss, apart from initial impressions during a visit?

NicoleBailey · 02/03/2009 17:29

why you reporting me?
yes i am sorry i made this post now.. i thaught i was trying to share my thaughts.. would you like your child to be treated like that then? it gives other nurserys a bad name.

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deepinlaundry · 02/03/2009 17:30

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hf128219 · 02/03/2009 17:30

Can you not spell woman?

willowthewispa · 02/03/2009 17:30

I think you're all being a bit harsh!

Nicole's OP wasn't worded very well, but she just had a horrible experience with a nursery she worked in, and is understandably letting off some steam. I think people could be a bit kinder.

Lazycow · 02/03/2009 17:30

You said that you worked for one nursery that was lovely and one that was terrible so on that basis you advise people to NEVER use any sort of nursery. That makes no sense at all since based on this tiny sample, 50% of nurseries are lovely.

Your comments about using family to look after children show a complete lack of empathy with people who don't have family nearby and who need to work.

Perhaps you would have been better warning parents agininst a specific named nursery rather than posting this general anti nursery diatribe (which was badly worded, spelt and composed by the way) on a forun which has many working mothers who use nurseries.

deepinlaundry · 02/03/2009 17:32

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Twims · 02/03/2009 17:34

Well what a well written first post - no paragraphs, bad spelling in places and a huge rant on nurseries - why this as a first post?

You said you worked at a good nursery before your daughter was born - so why a big rant about not going to nurseries of any kind?

I am a nursery nurse/nanny and yes there are bad nurseries but I think there are other ways of making that point than a huge rant on a parenting forum.

Haribosmummy · 02/03/2009 17:34

I don't think the OP was badly worded.

I think it was scare mongering and dictatorial.

I think it's totally unacceptable to 'tell' women to quit their jobs and stay home.

Really? So they can be called benefit scroungers?

x a million

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