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NEVER SEND YOUR CHILD TO NURSERY

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NicoleBailey · 02/03/2009 17:15

hi.. mums, i am a full time mummy to a little girl of 16months.
personally.. having worked in different nurserys i would advise anyone NOT to ever ever send their child to a particular one~!
dont know if i can name names..
before i was pregnant i worked for a private nursery it was brillant from day 1 we had lots of training. and was taught to give a home from home enviroment and treat each child as if it was your own. after i had my little girl, i went to work for a well know chain of nurserys. and was disqusted!it seemed to be run by young girls who didnt have any children. and who had just left school.. the girls wouldnt go near any children that werent up to their hygine standards. exapmle.. a child fell over in playground and had grazed their hand. none of the girls wanted to go and compfort the child as it 'smelt' they were all saying 'no you go..' i was outraged. this little child was crying and no one would go to them.
i dont care what anyone says if a child fell over and smelt or not.. you dont ever not go to it. the girls had 'favopurites' if the child turnt up to nursery in a bmw and latest nike trainers then the girls loved them! nappy times.. the girls didnt warn the child or tell the child they were about to be changed they just grabbed the child and layed it on the floor on nappy mat. and wondered why the child is kicking and screming..they hadnt pre told the child 'in a min im going to do your nappy'! by the end of my 1st day i felt sick! i couldnt believe i had enrolled my daughter to such a place. never in a million years would any child of been treated like this at my previous place of work.
my one the day before i left my littlegirl was left crying for ages in a corner. and she doesnt smell! and wears the latest clothes/trainers!! i was working in toddler room down the corridor and could hear her crying..i asked if i could go and check on her and was told to wait until my break was due.. which was half hour away. 10 mins later we could still hear her crying.. so the room leader rang down to the baby unit and asked if i was my daughter we could hear. and 2 mins later a girl from the room came up to toddlers and said' yes shes a bit upset at the moment but dont come down because if she sees you it might upsaet her even more' i was angry and wanted to go to her. so kindley a girl swapped breaks with me and i ran down to baby room , where in the corner was my daughter sitting propped up with pillows. hyperventaliating. all the girls were the other side of the room chatting over the wall to other nursery workers, i picked her up and tried to settle her, but she couldnt breathe she was crying that much. the girls hadnt even noticed id come in the room, i rocked her to sleep and went straight to nursery managagers office to complain about everything id seen in the few days which id worked their.. and i asked to see the cctv of the baby room so i culd see just how long she had been crying and to see if any one had tryed to calm her down. we watched for bout 5 mins, where a girl picked her up tryed to rock her then put her back down. still screaming! the manager stopped the tape before it went on any further. my daughter was ill the next day with a viral infection.. dont know how or where she picked that up from (prob nursery) so i didnt go back into work for the rest of that week. then i sent a letter handing my notice in. remember babies cannot talk or tel you what happened to them. just because the nursery looks friendly and clean. be cautious.. if your child makes a huge fuss before going to nursery in hte morning its probley because they are not cared for correctly whilst their. advice to partents..
quit your job! why have children if you stick them in a nursery 7-am -7-pm get family members to help you. i reported this nursery to oftead and it was not the 1st compaint as staff ratios had been compalined about in the baby room. ofstead njst warned them. now they have re-opened in a new name!!

so advice.. NEVER SEND YOUR CHILD TO NURSERY and the fees you pay are a rip off!!

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nickschick · 04/03/2009 15:39

I absolutely adore babies and whilst im probably not going to have any more of my own- on the occasion i go back to my old nursery the babies get a lot of love and care from me purely bcos i do love babies not just clean and trendy ones!!!.

VerynicenonacidicTits · 04/03/2009 16:01

Arf at 'give up your job' and 'get off your fat lazy arses and go and pick up your dc'

I wish i could love but someone has to pay the bills

anyway ds is alright, he is wearing designer trainers

fartmeistergeneral · 04/03/2009 16:12

I've posted stuff in the past and sometimes things aren't worded quite right. It's different raging to a friend in RL and saying 'OMG NEVER send your child to a nursery!' but it doesn't come out the same when it's on a forum such as this.

However, am sniggering slightly at 'wearing the latest clothes/trainers'...

georgimama · 04/03/2009 16:50

I actually shudder at the thought of a baby wearing "the latest trainers".

DS is wearing a selection of Boden today, and being cared for in our home by my mother (as he is every Wednesday). Hopefully that makes it OK for me to be at work today.

Must try harder on the other four days a week.

Stayingsunnygirl · 04/03/2009 16:56

I have a friend who owns and runs a nursery, and she says that the babies there get loads and loads of attention and cuddles - the staff adore having the babies there.

I've been a WOHM and a SAHM, and I know which is best for me, but I utterly respect the right of other mothers to make a different decision to mine. Each family is unique as are their circumstances, and, with a few exceptions, parents want to do the best for their family - but what's best for one family won't be best for another.

kalo12 · 04/03/2009 20:43

merrylegs, i agree with you too.

brightongirldownunder · 06/03/2009 10:57

I wasn't too keen on the nurseries round here, so I did a bit of research and found a nanny share. I can now work part time with the knowledge that not only is my DD getting loads of attention, love, good food etc but that when I go to collect her she would actually rather stay with the nanny

I know plenty of people who send kids to great nurseries, also people who are able to stay at home with their little ones. Doesn't seem to make any difference - they all grow up to be the same. Its pointless trying to justify either.

Move on. This is very tedious.

duygum · 28/04/2009 20:09

i am sorry but lots of thinks is right.. i was a manager asisstant and worked in the nurseries..all the nurseries i worked for it was teribble...now i am working in one of the private place as a childminder and i can see the difference..all the children in the place are so happy and been looking after if they are own...i am so happy to work in such as this place and my heart feels so good...thanks

johnsresearch · 26/08/2010 17:48

I think every family works differently, I'm working on a PhD and working part time, I'm lucky enough to have my parents nearby and my son spends a day or two with them each week (he's 2).
I fully intend to send my son to nursery once his social development starts to progress. He's a bit shy but my wife takes him along to about 4 different play/sport/toddler groups a week where he plays with other children, though I still don't think he'd deal well on his own in a nursery environment at the moment.
My wife works part time too (hence my parents looking after him a couple of days a week), she works nights and I work days so that, as much as possible at least, one of us is home with him at a time. It works for us, not much money I'll admit but we both have jobs, we're both gaining qualifications and we both get some time with our son (although more time all together as a family would be nice).
Recently my wife got offered a full time contract, I said I'd quit and be a house husband (we just couldn't afford the child care etc. and there's only so much we can ask family to help), but she didn't want to miss time with our son (she said she'd got used to seeing him this much and wasn't sure she could handle going back to full time).
Mums definitely shouldn't feel forced to be a 24-7 mum and housewife but, given the choice, I'm fairly certain my wife would drop work (though she'd likely do another degree or something). Every parent needs something that gives them an identity aside from being mum/dad, telling Mums just to quit work doesn't take that into account at all.

MrsBadger · 26/08/2010 17:51

johnsresearch

ancient thread, leave well alone

Mummy2Bookie · 04/09/2010 15:09

If you work in the same setting that your child attends then you're asking for trouble as you cannot be un bias about the care that your own child receives at nursery.

Littlefish · 04/09/2010 15:22

OLD THREAD
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OLD THREAD

Mummy2Bookie · 08/09/2010 19:07

Little fish
OLD THREAD
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OLD THREAD......

Yes old thread but an interesting old thread

LadyBiscuit · 08/09/2010 19:09

I seem to recall it was largely a WOHM bash (but memory may be hazy as I am quite old)

Mummy2Bookie · 09/09/2010 20:06

I think it is a lot of anger directed twords everyone else

rubyslippers · 09/09/2010 20:07

I posted on this thread in march 09

cath100 · 17/04/2011 17:00

wow, i can understand why you are upset, but i dont think all nurseries are like this.
also, not all of us can afford to stay home - i cant and even if i could, i would still want some time to my self - that is not a crime. i find i am a better mother because i DO put my children in nursery. when im with them, i am giving them quality time because they havnt driven me mad all day.
any way, good luck with your little one, but its hard enough as it is being a working mum without terrifying everyone.

slartybartfast · 17/04/2011 17:01

this is 2 years old btw.

slartybartfast · 17/04/2011 17:02

gets life

amothersplaceisinthewrong · 17/04/2011 17:09

"Get family members to help out" - what, even if they are all 250 miles awaY?

hocuspontas · 17/04/2011 17:11

cath - are you bored today? You keep reviving old threads. The op's child is at school by now probably. Or married or something

HollyBollyBooBoo · 21/04/2011 09:46

There are so many old threads being revived at the moment, what is going on? Get a life peeps!

norama15 · 09/03/2012 00:26

Hi, i am very disappointed by all your very horrible comments. I think nicolebailey is a very good mother as she was able to quit her job and chose what was best for her baby. I am a full time mum to a baby who is now 18 mnths. I have decided not to send my child to nursery before 2.5 yrs. I previously worked in a private nursery and im not saying its absolutel terrible but some children do get mistreated. The girls who work there have no clue of how to properly treat children, all they need is a one year course and they are qualified and any udiot could do that. Do you really want to let dumb young girls take care of your child. Well done nicole and be a full time mum for as long as you can. I think thats the best for a child, to be with the people who love them the most. Not some stupid girls who dont have any children of their own so theyhave no clue about what children need and thats love!!!

CheerfulYank · 09/03/2012 00:49

This is a very old thread...why is it being revived?

I was a "stupid young girl" with no children of my own when I worked in a nursery and I was, in all modesty, a good carer. I loved the children and cared for each and every one of them, whether they were wearing Nike trainers or not. Hmm

Some nurseries are crap, some are wonderful. Spend time in them, drop by unannounced, talk to other parents to see.

I have been working part time since my son was born and am giving it up entirely after May, but that does not mean that my choice is possible or desirable for everyone else.

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