How can I deal with being misdiagnosed by my psychologist?

[Gymnastxo96]

Back in August of 2025 I did phycological testing at a phycologist that I go to and they said my full IQ was 76 which I don’t understand because I type just fine and have good grammar and could type full sentences. Many people say you sure your IQ is 76 because I type just fine and have good grammer and can communicate well. And my adaptive behavior score was 57 which is pretty low. Why would they misinterpret that too? Why would they misinterpret the results and think I don’t understand medical decisions and they recommend medical guardianship. Why would they misinterpret my results? Now people think I am mentally challenged because of this. Are they wrong for misinterpreting the results to make me worse then I seem? Keep in mind I do have high functioning autism so do you think my autism played a role in how I did in the IQ test or you think I was completely misdiagnosed and it could be something else?

I think that what you said wasn’t nice. You should have more empathy of people like me. I am trying my best to be better.

Just be yourself!
And stop believing that having a husband and children is the only important aim in life.

I don't think that poster means that she thinks you are lying.

She means that she doesn't think you have understood what your therapist has said any more than you have understood what people on here have said.

I have never said you shouldn't have kids. I don't know you, I'm not one of your professionals or your mother. They are the people to talk to about that. I have given you things to think about.

What is a normal life? Your normal is whatever you make it. I think by normal you mean average. You don't have to live an average or conventional life.

What did you just say??!! What does that even mean?

This isn't 100% true. Couples who are both intellectually disabled have children knowing they will probably be similar, and they are very much loved and cared for - with suitable support. I imagine this support may be less available in the US than here in the UK, but am sure it does exist in New York.

Yes you are right!! Thank you finally someone who understands!!

I can’t believe this thread is still going or that we are precisely no further forward than 37 pages ago.

I know me either. I have an update. My boyfriend told me he admitted that he doesn’t accept my disability and my IQ is a “problem” you guys were right!! No one would accept to be with me because of my disability.

Why is he with you then? Did you ask him that?

Do you have any social groups for autistic people there? You might meet someone who values you for you more there. I find autistic people often click better with other autistic people.

No I didn’t ask him that. I don’t why he’s like that! So strange and yeah I am going to join some social groups

No I didn’t ask him that. And I’m going to join some social groups.

From your link:

Signs of Borderline Intellectual Functioning

• Decreased intellectual functioning in areas such as reasoning, problem solving, planning, abstract thinking, judgment, academic learning, and learning from experience.
• Difficulty adapting to changes or learning new skills.
• Difficulty achieving independent living, executing daily life activities, and participating with others in social situations.
• Difficulty managing emotions and aggression, with moods swings and low frustration tolerance.
• Naiveté, gullibility, or poor common sense.
• Social inappropriateness.
• Poor ability to concentrate and slow response time. General disorganization.

Tell me if you would choose that person to adopt your child if you were flicking through a brochure of potential parents?

My DD is 20. She says she thinks she might be a vet one day to help save the animals. People nod along and say that being a vet is tricky and she is satisfied that it's in the future, so the conversation moves on. Nobody thinks she's actually going to be a vet.

A doctor yesterday said that her name was wonderful and I said that we'd used it in case she wanted to be a judge when she was older. He asked if she wanted to be a judge and she said "Honestly, I wish I was in charge of everyone so all the criminals would go to jail." He said she'd be a great judge. Nobody thought she was going to actually be one.

Unfortunately sometimes things arent fair.

Yes SOME people with intellectual disabilities can make good parents, and can manage. But that doesnt mean ALL people with intellectual disabilities can.

Non of us are saying disabled people cant have children. But they are saying based on the report you shared, your complex diagnosis maybe you cant. And atm you definitely couldnt manage, partly because you are at home and dont have a BF who loves you enough to commit. And partly based on how youve presented here, but we arent your mum or Dr to fully assess you.

But you dont need to worry about what strangers think. You need to talk with your mum, your Dr and any social worker to understand what your assessment means now.

But that isnt what OP is saying. She is saying her neurotypical boyfriend will have kids with her by choice. Or that people with no disabiltys choose to have disabled kids when in reality they have near impossible lives and it ruins relationships for average couples with huge support. The support she thinks she needs is training. Not hands on daily support which is what will be needed.

Yes if your BF loves you he will accept you as you are. And a good man would love his children if they had a disability too. But atm your BF doesnt love you enough to be serous with you, nevermind children

And you absolutely deserved to be loved as who you are.

@Gymnastxo96 have to thought about helping at a preschool or a nursery? You might really enjoy it.

Its OK to want that. But some neurotypical people feel the same and do find their person

Some neurotypical woman have disabled children and their partners leave

You deserve a good man as much as anyone. But first you need to make yourself the best version of you, you can be and to do that you need to accept the report and talk to your mum and your Dr

You sound desperate to be loved and to have a relationship. But your current BF isn’t it. He is happy to be around you, you are probably kind, sweet and good fun, but he doesn’t take it seriously and has admitted this is because of your intellectual disability.

He is not a good man for you!

Break up with him and continue working on yourself. Make a plan on how you are going to become more independent - what exactly do you need to.

• how much do you need to save, how much do you already have?
• what skills do you need to gain?
• is there a supported living option you can look at?

Then build up your hobbies and social life, find friends first. That might lead to more but shouldn’t be the aim.

If, and only if, you are in a steady, committed, loving and equal relationship should you even think about children again. Not speculating about what ifs and maybes.

At the moment you don’t have a loving relationship, you have a casual fling (at least on his side).

Some people arent kind. You should NOT be bullied, but again many people get bullied. Its not anything to do with you, its because the people bullying you arent kind.

Ask your mum to help you navigate and how to identify people who are good for you

Do you have any pets OP?

Im Catholic too.

The Catholic Church doesnt want you to have sex before marriage or outside marriage.

If you dont mind having sex when the Catholic Church says you shouldnt, then you can be OK not having babies.

And even if you want babies, you dont have to worry until you find a husband.

Maybe you could see if the church does any meet ups to see if there are any suitable men in your congregation

Ignore this poster OP - they were not being nice at all. Their posts have been deleted now.