How can I deal with being misdiagnosed by my psychologist?

[Gymnastxo96]

Back in August of 2025 I did phycological testing at a phycologist that I go to and they said my full IQ was 76 which I don’t understand because I type just fine and have good grammar and could type full sentences. Many people say you sure your IQ is 76 because I type just fine and have good grammer and can communicate well. And my adaptive behavior score was 57 which is pretty low. Why would they misinterpret that too? Why would they misinterpret the results and think I don’t understand medical decisions and they recommend medical guardianship. Why would they misinterpret my results? Now people think I am mentally challenged because of this. Are they wrong for misinterpreting the results to make me worse then I seem? Keep in mind I do have high functioning autism so do you think my autism played a role in how I did in the IQ test or you think I was completely misdiagnosed and it could be something else?

Couples who are both intellectually disabled have children knowing they will probably be similar, and they are very much loved and cared for - with suitable support.

This sounds all very lovely but, depending on the nature and severity of the disability, some couples who are both intellectually disabled have children because they have no understanding of their own level of impairment or capacity. They don't know that they don't understand. They have no concept of the level of support required.

Other people have no choice but to get involved and support and often the support isn't understood either. They feel criticised and resent other people being involved when they seem to be telling them what to do with their own children.

Often that support falls to families who don't necessarily want to be involved with caring for the children or supporting couples in this way.

I think you are spot on and this is, and would be the case here.

As you keep repeating yourself OP, I'm going to do it too.

I'm autistic, and strongly suspect I have ADHD too. Luckily they don't cause me too many difficulties in day to day life because I know what works for me, so have managed to get a PhD, own my own home, and have a successful career.

One of those things that's worked for me is choosing not to have children - even though in the past I desperately wanted to. It would have a massive negative impact on my mental health to go through the normal struggles of parenting, and it would be very unfair on any child to have a parent like that. Not to mention my issues being genetic, and although I've done well for myself, it's not been without a struggle - for example the bullying I faced through school.

I'm currently single, but I still date and still want a relationship. So I either date men who don't want kids (although I've now had a hysterectomy in my 30s for medical reasons anyway), or I date men who have kids and don't want more, like my last relationship.

A few people have said no one is suggesting you shouldn't have kids, but I will say it - no I don't think you should. I hope my story will give you something to think about. I have am amazing, joyful, fun and fulfilled life without a man or a child.

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A few people have said no one is suggesting you shouldn't have kids, but I will say it - no I don't think you should.

I agree.

The reason I have said no one here has said she shouldn't have kids is because she is focusing on that and how unfair people are being on this thread. But it doesn't matter what strangers on the internet are saying. Her mum, the professionals involved with her care and the courts have said it.

Joining some social groups sounds like a great idea.

You stated that if you slept more your functioning would improve.

Here’s the reality though, having kids means you sleep less. Much less. You would be awake every couple of hours when they are babies.

I want you to imagine how you would react if they did not have disabilities but instead couldn’t handle yours.

The bullying you feel is happening what will you do if your child tells you you shouldn’t be a mom?

If your child struggles to deal with your struggles?

How often do you meet up with your boyfriend?

He’s my boyfriend. He clearly doesn’t accept me and no normal guy would want a serious relationship with me. You guys were right!

Ok so these are just opinions not facts? It only matter what my mom and my doctors think? Why are they so prejudice?

Nobody has actually said that.
Yet again, you're misunderstanding people's posts.

Ok what did they mean when they wrote this? What did they call me? I want to know!

They're not prejudiced at all.
They're acting in your best interests, as you're not capable of protecting yourself.
They're also ensuring that you cannot become pregnant, as that would inevitably become a safeguarding issue for you and especially for the baby.

You can't keep yourself safe reliably (for example, you said that you don't always use condoms) so there's no chance that you'd be able to keep a baby safe.

You've stated that with plenty of sleep you'd cope with things.

Newsflash. Babies don't sleep much at all. You'd be exhausted within two days if you had one.

Of course all of the replies on this thread are just opinions.

Your mum and doctors know you, and are involved with your care and any legal guardianship arrangements, they have the best knowledge of your life. That’s why it matters what they think.

I like most others are trying very hard to be kind, please listen.

What are they saying? Some people are saying that my mental age is 10. That is not true and one person said some typical guy shouldn’t date a girl like that. I am not severely disabled.

It was me that said, according to Google, somebody with your IQ and adaptive behaviour score will have have a mental age of 10-12. I didn’t say I agreed with it but you told us to research it so I had a very brief google. The way you talk on here and your demanding statements as though you are stamping your foot, do align with what Google says.

You are not able to understand what we are saying so I don’t think
this thread is helpful to you at all. You want people to agree with you that you can look after a baby but they haven’t because of the things you are saying. You’ve had some kind and sensible suggestions of talking this through with your therapist, mum and doctors. You’ve been asked if you have someone to advocate for you or a lawyer for court but you haven’t answered. It’s impossible to help you really because you are not listening and obviously have no interest in listening unless we agree with you and say yes, sure, have a baby, you’ll be a great mum! Sadly, your limitations means you won’t be a great mum and any baby is likely to be taken off you causing both you and your baby trauma. You are only thinking of yourself and what you want rather than being able to consider the risks and bigger picture.

Personally I wouldn’t have children if there was a chance of them having a lifelong condition or disability. I know any child can be born with a condition, or develop one, but if the risk was going to increase because of me, I wouldn’t do it.
Loving a child is great, but you’ve got to consider that child’s whole life, including what happens when you die.
Would I want to bring a child into the world who has my disability? Absolutely no way on this earth. I wouldn’t inflict it on anyone.

I’m afraid a lot of people have children for purely selfish reasons, because they are desperate to be a mum or don’t want to be lonely as they grow old.

Gymnast, I have a lot of friends who have not been able to have children for one reason or another.

One is disabled. One takes medication that would be risky to a baby. Two are infertile. One simply didn't meet the right partner until they were too old to think pregnancy was a good idea.

It's hard to come to terms with it, and people often grieve deeply for the life they'd wanted. But all of those people are living different, fulfilling lives now without children. You could do that too.

They were saying you are a troll, so not a real poster but someone trying to wind others up. Their posts have been deleted for breaking site rules.

Your bf is not the right man for you.

He probably does like you, you are kind and sweet and probably fun to be around. He just sees this as a fling rather than anything serious.

Ditch him, there is someone better suited to you out there. But don’t rush to find him. Enjoy your life first.

People on here dont know you, so cant assess you. They have informed opinions based on how youve acted on this thread and the report you showed (which mumsnet rightly removed to protect you)

But our opinions cant be more than that when we dont know you. But you asked us how you can accept the diagnosis, and that is to trust in the process and ask your mum for help

Your best source of support and advice is your mum and your Dr.

Ok I am understanding more now. What can I do to improve my adaptive behavior score so my mental age would be older? I really want to treat this.

Ask your therapist that question, and discuss it with her / him.

Ok thank you so much! And why would someone on this thread say it wouldn’t be moral for a typical guy to date someone with a mental age of 10-12? Are they wrong for saying that ?

What did they say?

Ok but I will learn those skills to look after myself. I am not mentally challenged. My whole life doctors have diagnosed me with high functioning autism.

My question, which you avoided answering, was: how often do you usually see your boyfriend?