How can I deal with being misdiagnosed by my psychologist?

[Gymnastxo96]

Back in August of 2025 I did phycological testing at a phycologist that I go to and they said my full IQ was 76 which I don’t understand because I type just fine and have good grammar and could type full sentences. Many people say you sure your IQ is 76 because I type just fine and have good grammer and can communicate well. And my adaptive behavior score was 57 which is pretty low. Why would they misinterpret that too? Why would they misinterpret the results and think I don’t understand medical decisions and they recommend medical guardianship. Why would they misinterpret my results? Now people think I am mentally challenged because of this. Are they wrong for misinterpreting the results to make me worse then I seem? Keep in mind I do have high functioning autism so do you think my autism played a role in how I did in the IQ test or you think I was completely misdiagnosed and it could be something else?

I think what you either don't have the ability to understand or don't want to accept is that your mental age cannot actually change. It is just the way your brain is. You may be able to find ways to adapt your behaviour to live with the restrictions your mental age puts on you, but you can't change it. There is no way for you to make your needs just disappear. They are a part of who you are. You might be able to learn things to help you cope, but they will always be there.

You say you want to live a 'normal' life. Can you tell us you think is involved in living a normal life?

To me it means that I don't need special skills, written notes, or 'support' to live my life every day. I don't need support to raise my children, I don't need support with my daily activities or to perform my job. I am able to make the decisions I need to make and don't require support in making the right decisions or someone to make them for me. It doesn't sound as if you are able to do that.

You say you want children but will wait until your mom and therapist say it's ok. What if they never do? Will you be able to accept that? Because accepting our limitations is a big part of living a 'normal life'.

Ok but I will learn those skills to look after myself. I am not mentally challenged. My whole life doctors have diagnosed me with high functioning autism.

A normal life for me is dating, and having children and being treated like a normal person not someone mentally challenged. How do I adapt my behavior to live with my mental age?

So what you're describing isnt "normal". Dating and babies are just things you aspire to have. Many people dont have those things and theres nothing wrong or abnormal if you dont have them.

As for being treated like a "normal person". You are intellectually challenged and autistic and it would be unfair to you to pretend otherwise and treat you like a neurotypical person.

You need to think less about how you change and have a baby and more about how you accept what your Dr said and what they and your mum say are next steps

Your mum and your doctor are not prejudiced. They are the only people whose opinions matter because they are the only ones who know you and are responsible for your care.

That isn't prejudice. That is love and professional responsibility.

Again, you don't understand what has been said to you. And that is partly why the decisions that have been made around your care have been made.

Talk to your mum.

Ok but most people say that I’m not that impaired because I can write full sentences and able to communicate my ideas. So therefore I am not mentally challenged. I don’t know why you think differently.

Most people say that I'm not that impaired because I can write full sentences and able to communicate my ideas and able to have a conversation and reply to this thread. So therefore I am not mentally challenged. Why do you think differently? I want to know why.

Because you keep repeating yourself, don't answer questions that are asked, and fail to take in anything that is said and analyse it.

You can have a great life, full of friends, happiness, a job, a home, and yes a partner, with support, but children are not a good idea.

@Gymnastxo96 there is a lot more to communicating as an adult than just being able to write full sentences. Please, please, stop, take a step back and read responses carefully, and find a way to get off the trail of thought you are on. Constantly constantly questioning.. we have explained why your mum and doctors arent prejudiced. They know you.

I have a 17 year old son. Take sex and legality out of it. If he was to bring home a 12 year old girlfriend, I would not be happy at all and I expect her parents even less so. His motives would be questioned, she is vulnerable to being exploited by him. Do you see why they would question?

This is exactly what your mum and doctors would see with your relationships. Regardless of how old you technically are, mentally you aren’t mature, as this thread has shown. So your mum has to try to keep you safe much as she would a young teen.

I dont think you are getting anything from this thread apart from pushing and pushing to try to hide your limitations and pretend to be something you aren’t. Even if this were possible it’s not healthy or safe for you.
have you shown any of this thread to your mum?

Yeah but it’s legal since I am an adult and people in my town have no problem with me dating a typical guy. They aren’t taking advantage of me and I deserve to be in a relationship. I have feelings too!

It's because you're going around in circles and not able to retain what you've just been told. Like, for example, you've been told that you're IQ is unchangeable and fixed, and your response is, "Yes, I understand that, how can I improve it?" Over and over again.

Impaired is a spectrum. Like visually impaired can mean needs glasses or legally blind. If you look at my earlier posts I agreed with you, that "high functioning" is a (outdated) medical term and I could see why you meet that criteria.

Your adaptive behaviour score in particular shows you are impaired.

But it doesnt change the fact dating and babies isnt "normal" or abnormal. Its just something you want to do. Which is great. But whether you can manage a baby or not is something you need to explore with you mum and your Dr

@Gymnastxo96 a big thing you need to be with babies and children is adaptable. As the old saying goes, they don't come with a guidebook and are all different. Things can go wrong in seconds and you have to be able to respond and take action. You need to have the capacity to think on your feet and adapt quickly to be a successful parent.

Your replies on this thread, which are repetitive, answer a question with a question and say the same thing over and over again all indicate this is a problem for you. I think from the draft you edited upthread you are doing a lot of copy and pasting and are having problems grasping what people are saying.

This does not make you a bad person, at all, or someone who should never have a relationship, or be as independent as possible. What it does mean is that it is very clear to at least your own mother that you would really, really struggle to parent and that would not be fair on your child, or her, if she has to take over. Please, as has been suggested over and over again, ask someone you trust to explain that report and have an honest conversation with you about what it means.

I just want to know how I can improve my adaptive behavior score. I know that I can’t improve my IQ.

Ok how can I fix the imparement of my adaptive behavior score? That is what I am most concerned about.

Without seeing your test scores it’s not possible to know if there are any areas that you could improve with the right support. However, I think it’s unlikely to be able to improve your score significantly.

Apart from the baby and boyfriend issues are you happy with your life? Do you have hobbies? Friends? It’s great you are working and enjoy your job.

Do you date men who work at the grocery store with you?

Do you date any of the customers?

I've asked this several times and you're just ignoring the question.

You can improve that to a degree but its usually easier in young children adapting as they develop. There may be known techniques based on your current score and abilities your Dr will be able to recommend the right resources for you

It would seem to me as if you don't have to 'adapt' your behaviour to live with your mental age, you just live your life being aware of your limitations. Maybe it's more that you need to accept the limits of your abilities and live with them rather than trying to 'change' something that cannot be changed.

Accepting your mental age may mean that you accept that it is best for the child that you not have children. We cannot have everything that we want no matter what our abilities are. Sometimes we have to say 'no' to our deepest desires because although we want something we must consider the effect on other people. In your case that would be the child and possibly your mom if she has to 'take over' raising the child. And don't say that won't happen because it's a real possibility.

As far as a 'normal life' that can mean different things too. Many people never marry or have children because that is the right thing for them and they lead perfectly normal lives. So you need to think about what is truly right for you, not just what you want.

I think that if you learn to accept your limitations and to live with them you'll find that people will treat you like the unique person you are.

As people have been saying since the start of your thread, you need to ask your mum, your doctor and your therapist.

There are ways of improving it but the improvement is slow and it won't mean your functioning improves drastically.

It requires very skilled and specific interventions. No one here us going to be able to answer that for you.

OP, having a relationship isn't easy for anyone.

Please don't think that everyone else just falls early into a relationship and lives happily ever after.

It would help if you’d answer about what your mum helps you with. Then we might be able to help you see where you might be able to become more independent. For example if your mum does the laundry, you could perhaps learn those skills. Or if she takes you to work perhaps you could look at getting the bus or subway instead once you have the skills. We know you can cook and bake which is great. Do you do that on your own or with your mum? You could ask your mum to teach you how to do things or at least things either her that you don’t usually do. Going with her to the bank, planning the meals for the week. That kind of thing.

I believe that the OP imagines that if she improves her intellectual capabilities enough, the court will rescind the guardianship and she'll be able to have her IUD removed.
And within a few weeks, she'll become pregnant............

This is why she's asking, over and over again, how she can improve those scores.

We might as well not have said anything else at all. The thread is almost at capacity and no progress has been made whatsoever.

I think the problem is that OP has no insight into her own difficulties. So she thinks they don't really exist.

I tried to date and hook up with my co workers and they didn’t want to get with me because of my intellectual disability so I didn’t You don’t blame them right?