How can I deal with being misdiagnosed by my psychologist?

[Gymnastxo96]

Back in August of 2025 I did phycological testing at a phycologist that I go to and they said my full IQ was 76 which I don’t understand because I type just fine and have good grammar and could type full sentences. Many people say you sure your IQ is 76 because I type just fine and have good grammer and can communicate well. And my adaptive behavior score was 57 which is pretty low. Why would they misinterpret that too? Why would they misinterpret the results and think I don’t understand medical decisions and they recommend medical guardianship. Why would they misinterpret my results? Now people think I am mentally challenged because of this. Are they wrong for misinterpreting the results to make me worse then I seem? Keep in mind I do have high functioning autism so do you think my autism played a role in how I did in the IQ test or you think I was completely misdiagnosed and it could be something else?

You said it wasn't a serious relationship at the beginning of the thread!

Yeah it might be serious soon. He just didn’t want to be serious with me. We are just taking it slow.

Eh? You just said you were in love with each other!

And right there is the problem. Your response shows your level of understanding and maturity. Where did I say that? Have a relationship. Enjoy it. I never said otherwise. But you should absolutely not be having children based on what I have observed on this thread and I think your mother is completely right to be going for guardianship and ensuring that you continue to use contraception at this point.

Yeah but what if he wants kids? Then what?

I thought you and him werent together because he wont be serious with you?

That hes your BF but wont be serious with you.

I dont think you should be with him. But thats because I think you deserve a BF who wants to be serious with you

Ok but what if he wants kids? And people on here are saying I can’t have kids due to my disability?

Then you split up.
Or he chooses not to have them.

I dont think you need to worry. Its down for your Dr to assess and diagnose if you have it

Realistically, if he wants kids, he will have them with someone else. It'd be a lot of hard work having them with you, even more than normal. Sorry, but it's true. He may not want them, but if he does, I suspect he will leave.

You have said that your boyfriend does not want a serious relationship with you.

You have said this is because he has concerns about your maturity and mental capacity.

Now you have said he loves you.

These things contradict each other. That means they cannot all be true at the same time.

Or it means he is happy to be with you for now but will not want to be with you long term or to start a family with you.

If he wants children, he will find someone who he feels is capable of being a life partner and a parent with.

What makes you think it will be serious soon?

I know you have said repeatedly that you don't see what is wrong with being with a typical man but this is the problem.

Some people have found your responses frustrating on here.

Some people are simplifying their language and their sentences so that you understand.

Everyone is repeating the same answers to your questions because you keep asking the same questions.

Everyone can see from your posts that you are not as capable as you think you are.

Everyone can see that you don't understand but that you can't see that.

And, sadly, everyone can see that you are trying to show that you understand and that you think you understand.

Most people want to be in a relationship with someone of a similar level of intelligence to themselves. To be able to have conversations on a similar level. And to talk to someone who fully understands what they are saying.

Without that, people become frustrated. When people become frustrated they lose respect and don't see their partner as an equal.

You deserve to be with someone who thinks you are amazing. Not someone who is frustrated by you or who isn't serious about you because of your difficulties.

Ok but it’s not fair that you think I can’t have kids because of my disability. I also read online that people with intellectual disabilities can be good parents with support. I’m correct?

No, what I was saying is that if he wants kids, he's more likely to want to minimise the chance of them having cognitive issues. Which obviously can't be guaranteed, but is more likely to happen if he has them with you. So he will look elsewhere.

You having children is a separate issue. A bad idea, but a separate issue. The fact that you can't see that the two things are different is not good.

Think of him having kids as crossing the road. He can either cross safely, hopefully, at the lights, or he can run into traffic and hope he makes it to the other side. What is he going to choose.

You keep saying you could have kids with support but what support would you need? You don’t seem able to answer that question.

Yeah but if my boyfriend loved me he would accept the fact that the kid would have cognitive issues too. Everyone needs to be loved like everyone else. It’s not my fault I was born with a disability. I want to live the best life possible. I want a guy to love me for who I am.

Yeah but if my boyfriend loved me he would accept the fact that the kid would have cognitive issues too. Everyone needs to be loved like everyone else. It’s not my fault I was born with a disability. I want to live the best life possible. I want a guy to love me for who I am.

This is part of the issue, though.

*murasaki *didn't say she thinks you can't have kids.

She said that, if he wants children, he will likely choose to have them with someone else.

What she said isn't fair or unfair.

It was her opinion about what he might think.

And I think most people who have responded to you would agree with her.

Because he doesn't want a serious relationship with you so he wouldn't want children with you.

You didn't understand what she said but you think that you did which is what people mean when they have said that you don't understand what people are saying.

That's a lot for someone to accept. Too much for many people.

And yes, who do you expect to support youz and what do you expect them to do? Your mum, who seems to have worked so hard already for your own good? And deserves a rest.

You won't get people who will do all the work and hand you a clean, happy baby without you doing anything without a LOT of money.

Loving you doesn’t guarantee he’ll accept a child with cognitive issues. Far too many fathers walk away from children without any cognitive issues. You could have a child with profound autism who is non-verbal and in diapers into adulthood. How would you cope if that happened? Autism is genetic so you are quite likely to have an autistic child who will struggle in life because autism is bloody hard to live with even without significant cognitive impairment.

With support I could take parenting classes, take notes and learn skills to understand what my kids in the future really need because I know it’s more than just dressing and feeding them. It’s paying their bills and taking them to doctors appointments and I know my life with change because I won’t be able to do the things I enjoyed to so kids take up a lot of work. I could retain info when I write it down so I could have a doctor explain to me what it’s really like to take care of a baby until adulthood because I know babies aren’t cheap you have to stay up all night with them when they cry in the middle of the night to change their diaper and feed them. I have experience with babies and know how to take care of them.

Thanks, that's exactly what I meant. I was trying to think as if I were him.

Saying that, I'm judging him for leading you on in terms of the relationship. It's working for him at the moment, but I do feel he's leading you on to a future he won't be there for.

Oh yea so you are saying no guy will ever accept me and date me in the long term because I don’t want to tell my family I ended up single the rest of my life because it is too much to put up with me? I don’t want to end up in that situation.

What you have said is correct.

If he loves you, he would fully accept you.

Everyone deserves to beloved.

Its not your fault you have a disability.

You want (and deserve) to live the best life possible.

You want a guy to love you for who you are.

All of that is true and it is also what many people want.

Unfortunately, that doesn't mean this man loves you and it doesn't mean he will want to have children with you just because it is what you want.

Ok but what if another guy wants to have kids with me and accept the fact that they could be born with issues? Even typical people have kids that are severely disabled.