How can I deal with being misdiagnosed by my psychologist?

[Gymnastxo96]

Back in August of 2025 I did phycological testing at a phycologist that I go to and they said my full IQ was 76 which I don’t understand because I type just fine and have good grammar and could type full sentences. Many people say you sure your IQ is 76 because I type just fine and have good grammer and can communicate well. And my adaptive behavior score was 57 which is pretty low. Why would they misinterpret that too? Why would they misinterpret the results and think I don’t understand medical decisions and they recommend medical guardianship. Why would they misinterpret my results? Now people think I am mentally challenged because of this. Are they wrong for misinterpreting the results to make me worse then I seem? Keep in mind I do have high functioning autism so do you think my autism played a role in how I did in the IQ test or you think I was completely misdiagnosed and it could be something else?

Definitely possible.

Ok it’s possible to be both. So how can I fix my cognitive impairment so people could think I can have kids?

Bless you, you remind me so much of my daughter (which is a good thing). You can’t fix it unfortunately, that’s just the way you are made but it doesn’t have to be a bad thing. It makes you who you are ☺️

@Gymnastxo96 as you've already been told repeatedly and failed to take on board, you CAN'T 'fix' a cognitive impairment

You can't fix the impairment. You can speak to therapists about strategies to become more independent, working from where you are at. They may or may not work.

You can’t fix it. You demonstrating repeatedly that you don’t understand what posters are saying. You wants to say the doctors are wrong but nobody here can say if they are wrong or not.

I have posted two links specific to New York that are helpful but you would need to talk this over with somebody who can advocate for you and who understands the process. From what you are repeatedly posting here it is clear that you do not have the capacity to have that guardianship overturned.

You replies are selected and focused on what you want to hear. You’ve been asked several times what support you receive from your mum and what help you’d need with a baby but you choose not to answer. People are trying to help you but it’s very difficult.

Yeah I will talk to therapists on how to be more independent. It may work you never know.

It’s always possible to learn new skills.

Yeah I will talk to therapist and ask them for support on how to be more independent it may help you never know.

It is. Whether they stick, or she knows when to use them is another thing. But it's always worth learning new things anyway.

Do you have much experience with children, OP? Is caring for a child something you really truly want, or just something you think you 'should' do to have a "normal life?" Because having a normal life doesn't have to mean having kids.
Why don't you start by doing an activity with kids -- could you volunteer with Girl Scouts or at a school? Does anyone you know have a baby? You and your mom could go together to help them out. It might help to see what it's really like to feed a baby, change a diaper, and things like that. Having a baby is hard work and very challenging, but there are other ways to care for children if it is truly important to you.

Yeah I definitely do have experience with children.

How do you expect to interact successfully with professionals, such as health care professionals and teachers involved in the care of your potential child, when you seemingly can’t answer questions directed to you, unless it’s one you want to answer? It’s like pulling teeth. You have a very narrow perception of the issues here and think they are easily fixed. You aren’t taking on board what posters are saying even when it’s repeated. If you are wanting everyone to say “Sure, go ahead, have a baby, you’ll be fine!” then you are going to be disappointed. Sadly, you are not able to understand what posters are saying and why.

Can you expand on that?
Have you worked in a nursery?

Guardianship is not considered lightly and other options should be explored first according to this government article for New York
https://ww2.nycourts.gov/guardianship/index.shtml

In order to appoint a guardian, the court must find that a person is:

• Unable to meet some or all of their personal and/or financial needs; and is
• Incapable of making reasonable decisions; and is
• At risk of harm because they do not recognize that they need help.

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Yes, I've been looking at that, too, as I'm not familiar with US statutes.

To have bipolar 2 you need at least one recognised period of mania.

Signs of mania are usually erratic sleep patterns, risk taking behaviour, increased sexualised behaviour, financial irresponsibility.. but if you have had those behaviours theyre also things you might do because of your other conditions and ability to assess risk.

And the report, MN thankfully redacted showed torrettes

But I wouldnt worry about it if your Dr hasnt confirmed a diagnosis or talked to you about what it means. None of us can diagnose you. You are best getting info from your mum, Dr and any support worker you have

I'm wondering if you're seeking reassurance from this thread @Gymnastxo96 because your mom has taken the steps she has.
You don't agree with what she has done, nor with the assessments you've had.

I'm truly sorry that you're so upset and disappointed. None of us on here knows you in real life but we've tried to be honest to you, based on your posts here.

Even the Dr's dont know the full cause of autism or IQ level - theres a variety of factors. That said what caused it doesnt change the reality.

I know you said you babysat at 14. But to babysit you need to temporarily meet a babies physical needs - feed it, burp it, change it, cuddle it, play with it and let it sleep but parenting.. you need to be able to organise domestic tasks unprompted, you need to function on less (sometimes a lot less sleep) you need to meet the babies emotional and communicative needs. You need to teach them risk management and support their educational development as they grow.

Children need to learn skills you sadly lack yourself.

I honestly think you need to talk to your Dr and mum and any social worker because if there is a possibility you can some day have this you will only do it if you ask the people who love you and are responsible for your support to help you deal with your assessment and what that means for you.

Having a cognitive impairment isn't fixable, as PP have said. Alhough in spite of this, in the same way as my impairment from a concussion I had a decade ago has improved, your cognitive skills are absolutely able to continue to get better if you are able to find ways to work around them.

Of course, this doesn't necessarily mean it will enable you to be a parent, or live totally independently and not rely on your mom. But it gives you a great chance of being able to boost skills and support yourself better.

Ok so I might unlikely be bipolar because it may overlap with my disability? I have all the symptoms of hypomania. And for Tourette’s I just have the blinking tic I don’t know if I have other tics that possible?

I cant say, even your Dr's arent sure because of the overlap and theyve assessed you. Your redacted report did say tourettes but didnt say bipolar if that helps.

However regardless of whether its bipolar or your current diagnoses hypermania will impact your decision making. Even someone with an average or above average cognitive ability will struggle in a hypermania stage to look after themselves nevermind anyone else.

I'm reading though your posts since my original response and I think it's very clear to everyone here that there are cognitive difficulties here. I think your psychologist was correct in his assessment. It isn't something which you can study for to improve and is unlikely to improve much at age 30. I can see that you are struggling to grasp what people are trying to gently explain. They are building this assessment of your capability based on your responses on your post. They are gauging your maturity and understanding and many are coming from places of experience. Parenting is not just looking after a baby. Honestly the baby is the same easiest bit- they only get more complex. I have worked in circles where I have had dealings with cognitively impaired parents. One thing was striking. The parents loved their children in almost all of the cases. Deeply so. But in 9/10 cases it just wasn't enough and the children had to be removed by social services or a relative had to take over guardianship for their own safety as even with support they just couldn't cope.

Ok I am understanding and have to cope with the fact that I am cognitive impaired. Some people say I can’t have kids due to it and what can I do with my boyfriend that loves me so much and I love him that I can’t have kids due to the disability? Me and him should not be together then due to it?

Ok yeah I think you are right!! I have also been doing some research and found out that a cognitive impairment can increase risk of Bipolar 2. Is this true? I’m pretty sure I have Bipolar as well.