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To be traumatised by my own undercarriage?!

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NameChangeLifeChange · 15/08/2022 09:24

As I was wiping this morning it felt a bit sensitive down below which is unusual so I thought I’d have a look and see what’s going on.

WELL

I haven’t looked at my vulva since my second DC was born three years ago and dear god I will never look again. My poor vulva which, let’s be honest wouldn’t have won a beauty contest before but was perfectly serviceable and ‘normal’ looking’, looks like it’s been blended. Or put through a washing machine. I don’t think there is anything ‘wrong’ with it (infection, prolapse etc) but it looks awful. The labia are fine but inside there’s like a squishy circle (?!) that’s all flappy and messy with protruding skin. I actually almost felt tearful and hugely embarrassed that DH has seen it in all its messy glory.

Is this normal?! I’ve had two vaginal births. I don’t have any pain, might get some caneston in case of thrush but I don’t think there’s a medical issue it’s just a hideous mess. I had a smear recently and kind practice nurse didn’t say anything and I assume she would of I’d have had an abundance of genital warts/prolapse.

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CookPassBabtridge · 05/11/2022 10:52

hereyougoagain · 22/08/2022 12:16

This thread is absolutely brilliant, I feel like I’ve been to a women only stand-up show, and I don’t think any stand-up made me laugh so hard and so much! Thank you everyone!

Also thankful that it’s been educational! I also did the mistake of looking at my vagina when heavily pregnant and being shocked that it was purple (later found out it’s normal for it to be blue/purple in pregnancy) and generally looked like it was turned inside out 😩.

A few years on at least it feels normal, and I’m not looking 😬

I also read that it’s the pregnancy itself and all the engorgement and pressure rather than a straightforward vaginal birth and breastfeeding that change our undercarriage and breasts, so, say, having a C-section and not breastfeeding for most doesn’t mean that you preserve your virginal forms 😁

Maybe the appearance slightly but not the looseness, stretching, tears and prolapses. Don't undermine women who have gone through birth and suffered these. Women with c-sections do not go through this and it is the better choice if you want to avoid all that.

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