Bit her during labour

[IcantbelieveIjustdidthat]

Bit my sisters hand during DS labour. She won't let me live it down.
I'd had so many drugs and god knows what to numb the pain, wasn't allowed to eat anything as I was high risk for a c-section, was so hungry and I heard someone mention a sausage roll (nobody did apparently) and I thought she was handing it to me to eat. I was very delirious! She is laughing about it now.

I feel so awful but AIBU to think it's not the craziest thing someone has done?

Not me but dh. I preface this by saying I was overdue and being induced, and that he hadn't been with me at my 'sweep' appointment a few days before. It was the first internal he'd witnessed.

I was in a side room a few hours after having the first dose of gel put in. Consultant knocks on the door, introduces himself and pretty much straight away turned me into a human glove puppet as they do.

"Any questions?"
"Nope" says I, pretty much happy to go with the flow and glad things may be getting going soon.
Dh, looking pale and faintly horrified looks him in the eye and says "Yep - why did you bother to knock?" 😂

I gave birth in the old Royal London hospital before all the work was done; the Victorian building. Whilst off my face on gas and air I remembered that the Elephant Man had a home in that building, and told the midwives all about it. They clearly thought I was hallucinating but it’s completely true - I found out later that the film was actually shot in the building.

Later on a consultant with a couple of students came into the room while I was crowning. Apparently I shouted: “Can you GET OUT, this is a birthing room not Kings Cross fucking station!” They left.

Great thread.
I said 'fuck', 'sorry,sorry', when I had my spinal, pre CS.

1st labour - back to back. I grabbed at my DH's Tshirt, also got his nipple. It was bruised for more than a week.
2nd labour I also bit my DH. He was stroking my face, I told him to stop, he didn't so I chomped down, pure reflex. The midwife just looked him in the eye and said, well, she did ask you to stop !
Funnily it was DH that wanted a 3rd

Was chatting to DH about the gas and air, as it was the first time I’d ever had it. The midwife was sat across the room but said she’d never had it before either, so I winched myself out of the birthing pool and thrust the mouth piece towards her while whispering “want a toot? I won’t tell”

@StrangeToSee I got a bit teary eyed about the way your instincts kept kicking in and getting you through 💐

Well all these make me feel better for 'making too much noise in the ward' (they wouldn't believe I was in labour and just gave me paracetamol and told me I couldn't make that much noise on the ward)
Obviously I was in labour
I even felt the need to apologise when I sent my thank you card 🙄

I bet one of the midwives hand when I was pushing

Not as good as thinking it was a sausage roll mind 😂😂

Under the influence of gas and air:
Punched DH hard on the arm and swore at him because he was hurting my hand squeezing it too tightly.
Kept shouting 'I have pooed myself - have a look and see if I have'. I hadn't but must have been convinced I had.
Kept scowling at the midwife and saying 'You are such a bully' 'Isn't she a bully?' 'Bullies shouldn't get away with it' when she told me to push. She was lovely, not a bully at all.
When they said DD was a girl- which we already knew- said 'I would have preferred a Kitkat' and laughed loudly (DS1 had said it when we asked if he would like a baby brother or sister).

@namechangedasscared. Your dh sounds horrible. This is the only post in this thread that is sad.
What a non empathetic man he is. Watching you in pain and making you suffer more.
Really gave me the shivers.

[quote Gretaburley]@namechangedasscared. Your dh sounds horrible. This is the only post in this thread that is sad.
What a non empathetic man he is. Watching you in pain and making you suffer more.
Really gave me the shivers.[/quote]
Thank you! I've always wondered if I was overreacting in how I felt about what happened. You're the only person that's ever said that it really wasn't ok.

I thought you were going to say to deal with the pain but the reality is better 😆. Don't think I'd let you forget that one either 🤣

@Tillow4ever
I'll tell you that every one of the incidents you posted about were NOT OKAY! I hope you've either gotten rid of that callous man or he's had a complete 180° change of personality and treats you with the love and respect you so richly deserve.!

[quote SwtPeasOnEarth]@Tillow4ever
I'll tell you that every one of the incidents you posted about were NOT OKAY! I hope you've either gotten rid of that callous man or he's had a complete 180° change of personality and treats you with the love and respect you so richly deserve.![/quote]
Thank you. I wish to god I had managed to get rid of him, but I’ve been trapped for too many years now - he refused to leave, I couldn’t afford to just walk out with the kids as I’d need to keep paying until the mortgage or I’d lose a huge amount of equity if we lost the house to the bank. My husband refused to sign the papers to let me put the house on the market, as despite 2 independent valuations, he felt the house was worth much more (it’s not) and wouldn’t let me put it up for sale at that price (basically another way to force me to stay). He then said that he’d fight for at least 50/50 custody of the kids - which he knew would hurt me, and the kids would hate (hell, he would hate it too - he’s always yelling at the kids, my youngest asked me the other day if dad was like this before he was born, I said yes, he asked if he was like it before we had any children, I said no thinking that I didn’t want him to think I chose to be with such a horrid person and because he wasn’t this bad pre-kids. My youngest then said so he’s like this because he hates us so much - obviously I tried to reassure him but it’s certainly the impression he gives, so why would he want sole responsibility for the kids 50% of the time?). So I stayed so I would always be around to protect the kids from his words.

My youngest is now nearly 10 - so getting to an age where courts would take all of their opinions into account. I am hoping that will help, but still need to get him to leave or work out how to afford for me to leave.

@Tillow4ever
Oh, Bless you. It sounds as if your youngest is comfortable discussing his feelings about his dad with you, thank goodness.
You ARE in a catch-22 situation, but one day you will be free of this tyrant...hang in there...

@Tillow4ever
That makes me sad. You sound like a fab mum. Please ask for help from woman’s aid or even family? Keep going, you will do it one day soon.

Yes, maybe women's aid will be a big help @Tillow4ever in teaching you how to get your ducks in a row so when the time comes, if it does, you'll be prepared financially as well as emotionally.
Stay safe and keep loving those DC like you are doing already.

Thank you ladies ❤️

I kept saying I had to go home to feed the cat, we didn’t even have a cat but I was very worried that it would be hungry