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To Have Murderous Thoughts About Colleague?

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Mansplanation · 08/08/2018 20:34

I’m leaving my job and my replacement was hired, so I’m handing over.

Today he’s been reviewing my work over the last few months to get familiar with the accounts and when I asked how he was getting on, his reply was ‘it’s all quite good actually! I’m really surprised!’ Hmm

Later in the day, he commented that ‘you’re actually quite good at your job aren’t you?’

Then ‘well done, this looks like you planned it this way’

He also proceeded to explain my job to me in great detail. Over. And over. And over again. All the while, asking very very basic questions and eventually I said ‘yep, that’s very standard, have you not seen that before?’ To call him out on it and he replied ‘yeah I have, I just wanted to see if you knew why it’s done that way’

I DID FUCKING PLAN IT THAT WAY, IM VERY GOOD AT MY JOB AND YOU ARE REPLACING ME BECAUSE IM MOVING TO A MUCH, MUCH MORE SENIOR ROLE YOU INTOLLERABLE, MANSPLAINING SHART GOBLIN Angry

Somebody PLEASE lend me their willpower because I’m one ‘well done’ away from stapling a gold star to his fucking forehead.

I need to bite my tongue so I can leave and get to my new job but I’m really bloody struggling Sad

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buckingfrolicks · 13/08/2018 10:30

Your company prof indemnity insurance may kick in ?

Your org must have his address. Surely he wouldn't be this stupid? Omg the vanity of some men.

If anyone it'll be your poor manager who takes the rap for this. What a week she has ahead of her.

IncrediblySturdyPyjamas · 13/08/2018 10:33

This is why you suspect any access BEFORE you tell them.

And why people are escorted out of buildings, and keys put on the desk before the meeting.

If I ever leave roles that need keys, I always give them in with my notice, as I would never want to be accused of anything untoward.

There are some very odd people out there, walking the streets, pretending to be totally fine.

SilverHairedCat · 13/08/2018 10:35

Sounds like the external IT company will be for the high jump, not you. Also, they will have insurance for this kind of thing.

This should not be your problem to fix.

BlackAmericanoNoSugar · 13/08/2018 10:38

To be fair, even if the OP had sent the email to suspend access BEFORE he was sacked, the IT agency would still have sent the same reply. So everybody would think it had been done when it hadn't. The outcome would have been the same.

What an arse. He's put so many jobs and livelihoods at risk, any one of the companies could potentially have severe financial difficulty as a result of this, suppliers, clients, IT agency and your company.

IncrediblySturdyPyjamas · 13/08/2018 10:44

To be fair, even if the OP had sent the email to suspend access BEFORE he was sacked, the IT agency would still have sent the same reply. So everybody would think it had been done when it hadn't. The outcome would have been the same.

No, you wait until it has been suspended, not until an email has been sent.

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Mansplanation · 13/08/2018 11:14

Nightmare.

He’s personally liable surely?

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SilverHairedCat · 13/08/2018 11:21

Liability will be a big fat "it depends". The reality is, it's a criminal act, therefore the chances of the money being recovered from him are slim to none.

purits · 13/08/2018 12:19

Sounds like the external IT company will be for the high jump, not you. Also, they will have insurance for this kind of thing.

I think that the external IT can argue a case against a company that issues access to employees before they have done proper due diligence.

VforVienetta · 13/08/2018 12:37

Bloody hell, this has all escalated rather unexpectedly.
Thank goodness you have proof of your IT request.

Side note; no idea why Winnie’s post was deleted, i didn’t report it, but assumptions about sarcasm are daft. It was just a four word post.
Paraphrasing a PP, a duck is a duck, an autistic duck is still primarily a duck. And now it turns out it’s a criminally arseholey duck.

Lottapianos · 13/08/2018 12:51

Oh my gosh OP, that's horrendous. He sounds totally deranged!

Well done on saving and printing that email. Poor you and your poor manager too

alphasox · 13/08/2018 13:36

Wow. Did not see it taking that sort of nasty turn! Was enjoying it til now but he’s a real piece of work! Oh my goodness.

BrynhildurWhitemane · 13/08/2018 13:46

Hope the MD is sensible enough to take it to the police. Poor you and your manager, OP.

TinyTickler · 13/08/2018 15:24

I mean he's committed fraud. So yeah, police.

Chrys71 · 13/08/2018 15:49

He fancies you. Simple's. Halo

SilverHairedCat · 13/08/2018 15:59

@purits good point, I hadn't considered that.

Ozbird36 · 13/08/2018 16:25

Every remark he has made is a massive put-down, calculated to make you feel inferior. Roughly translated, he's telling you how surprised he is that, as a female, you actually have a brain. The guy is shallow, insecure and sexist. Best way to tackle him is to talk yourself up, and tell him about your amazing promotion. That will piss him off more effectively than anything else!

Dinosharks · 13/08/2018 16:47

@ozbird36 you might want to read the rest of the thread things have moved on a fair bit - we are onto sackings and possible police involvement

Waffles80 · 13/08/2018 16:48

@Ozbird36 have you RTFT?!? Hmm

Anonnymouse54321 · 13/08/2018 16:57

"He fancies you. Simple's. halo"

And fucking idiotic and pointless post of the day award goes to.......

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Mansplanation · 13/08/2018 18:00

What a bloody day Sad

I’ve managed to pull a refund out of my arse. No idea how I’ve managed it but the suppliers are fully refunding our weekend spend from 11pm onwards and re-crediting the accounts in the next 24 hours. Luckily we’re tier 1 spenders so have a good relationship. I owe one particular rep a shit ton of favours though.

Manager has tried contacting SG throughout the day, no reply obvs. MD is apparently checking where we stand with our legal advice people and I don’t think I’ll get an update on that any further.

SG has removed us from his LinkedIn profile and has set his status to ‘looking for new opportunities’ Hmm

I’m exhausted and I’ve been pulled in so many directions today I don’t know whether my head is still on the right way around.

It’s out of my hands now and as far as I can tell, I’m not in any trouble and neither is my manager. It’s being treated as ‘what a total shart goblin, who does that??’ Rather than ‘fuck why didn’t you spot this over the weekend/ know everything about him before he was hired’ etc, so I think everyone except HR guy is out of the woods.

HR guy has skipped some process during hiring so remains to be seen if his head will roll Sad I hope not, he’s good.

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holidaylady · 13/08/2018 18:36

Wow well done OP sounds like the best result for you

BrynhildurWhitemane · 13/08/2018 18:42

OP, sounds like a better result than you hoped for. I do hope SG ends up facing the police, he deserves to.

MyNameIsJane · 13/08/2018 19:19

I hope they do got to the police.

MyNameIsJane · 13/08/2018 19:21

Also, could you imagine what else he could have done if only he was as capable as he claimed to be?!

VelociraptorRex · 13/08/2018 19:42

Well done OP, sounds like quite a day, time to relax now? Wine