To Have Murderous Thoughts About Colleague?

[Mansplanation]

I’m leaving my job and my replacement was hired, so I’m handing over.

Today he’s been reviewing my work over the last few months to get familiar with the accounts and when I asked how he was getting on, his reply was ‘it’s all quite good actually! I’m really surprised!’

Later in the day, he commented that ‘you’re actually quite good at your job aren’t you?’

Then ‘well done, this looks like you planned it this way’

He also proceeded to explain my job to me in great detail. Over. And over. And over again. All the while, asking very very basic questions and eventually I said ‘yep, that’s very standard, have you not seen that before?’ To call him out on it and he replied ‘yeah I have, I just wanted to see if you knew why it’s done that way’

I DID FUCKING PLAN IT THAT WAY, IM VERY GOOD AT MY JOB AND YOU ARE REPLACING ME BECAUSE IM MOVING TO A MUCH, MUCH MORE SENIOR ROLE YOU INTOLLERABLE, MANSPLAINING SHART GOBLIN

Somebody PLEASE lend me their willpower because I’m one ‘well done’ away from stapling a gold star to his fucking forehead.

I need to bite my tongue so I can leave and get to my new job but I’m really bloody struggling

Or maybe yesterday

I hate him. Please hurt him for me. Post pics.

Have just rtft. Am having a justicegasm.

Thank you @Mansplanation. You've made my year.

I would say something like, "I lasted as long as I did in this job by not being so condescending, you should try it" if it gets his back up, so what? He obviously doesn't care about getting yours up and you are leaving anyway x

shag him... lmfao..(funny in my head)

Wow! Now we need the solicitor’s version. 😂

‘So YOU are going to replace me in this position after I get promoted? I’m really surprised!’

Honestly, do your clueless junior colleague a favour and explain to him that his comments are completely unacceptable. If he goes on like this with someone less patient and polite than you, he may end up in serious trouble.

Late to the thread posters

Read it in full, it’s worth it.

We had a guy like this come and work at our place as a consultant - he was so patronising and wound all the women (and some of the men) right up. However - these things have a way of taking care of themselves - yes, you can want to murder him - but fuck him - he’s not your problem. Just rise above it, someone else on the team will almost certainly slap him down.

Dolly read the thread, he’s been offloaded already.

Please read the full thread everyone but if you can't here's the synopsis: He has been let go already after not just winding up OP but her colleges, then shushing his manager (female), before refusing to accept she was in a position to tell him he was not suitable for the role, and HR had to deal with him (a male). He left saying he is getting his solicitor despite still being on probation.

justicegasm.

Thank you for this seriously superb word. I have been quietly giggling about it all evening.

I know I need to RTFT but I have got as far as

‘Oh! that’s where I’ve been going wrong! See, I’ve been going into client meetings, ranting in tongues for 20 minutes without taking a breath and then explained the whole thing again through the medium of interpretive dance’

And I can't. Stop. Laughing.

Mansplanation: nobody has said this, but it sounds as though your current manager is an absolute gem. Yes she made a mistake in hiring the SG, but some people are better at getting a job than at doing the job. As soon as that became apparent in SGs case, she took full accountability, apologised to you, and articulated the intent to protect your plans to move on even though I think you are going to a different company. She also took steps to address the problem quickly and decisively. Not everybody would do that - unfortunately, most managers would probably go into CYA mode instead.

So long as you can do this at a time and in a manner that will not jeopardise your own move, that could well merit giving her that praise, or better yet, telling her boss and/or perhaps the HR person just how professionally and ethically your boss handled this situation once the mistake became apparent.

At worst, you will reciprocate her good turn for you in protecting your move onwards and upwards. At best, you will help your boss's own career progression and that will come back to you as "good karma" at some point in the future.

By page 12 I thought you may as well pick out your office Secret Santa today! Lol. So glad it turned out this well for you.

Shart Goblin

My manager lives in the same town as me so I met up with her for a dog walk and a chat this afternoon. It was lovely. We’ve got to go through the hiring process again (through an agent this time!) but we’ve talked about the need for a good fit for the office as well as someone with technical knowledge.

Looking back on SG’s interview, we haven’t been able to pick out any moments that would have indicated any of this stuff would happen which is alarming. He was able to start immediately and we needed a long handover so manager and HR decided they’d check references etc in his first week. HR guy started doing that on Monday and found some things apparently that made his contract null and void anyway. Obviously my manager can’t tell me what they found and I didn’t ask, but knowing my industry, the only 2 things that would cause that are a bankruptcy or a criminal record.

Disappointing that his mansplaining dick swinging wasn’t what got him sacked, but I guess the outcome is the same either way.

I agree with those saying my manager is awesome, she is. She’s been a joy to work with for 5 years and posesses a vast, seemingly bottomless supply of integrity. I should have left my job 2 years ago really but didn’t because I wanted to work with her longer.

Bet he can't wait to manslain hi way through the meeting with the solicitor.

Oh to be a fly on his mansplaining wall when he has that conversation and the truth comes out....

Great update OP - having a good manager makes such a difference. I am about to potentially move roles internally and hoping my manager will mentor me and then rehire me at a more senior level in 3 years.
Wonder if mansplaining shart goblin updated LinkedIn???? Surely if it is bankruptcy/criminal record any employer will find that out???
Enjoy your last few weeks and Good luck in the new job.

winnie why on earth would you say that?
Unless you know something the rest of us don't, the OP hasn't written anything to suggest that SG might be on the spectrum, and no you can't state it as fact from a few posts on the internet.

Fucking offensive to actual autistic people by the way, to automatically ascribe atrocious behaviour to ASD.

If anything, I wondered if SG could possibly by a narcissist, he seemed to have such belief in himself and look down on others.

I agree @VforVienetta

I don't think he's autistic, but I think he knew he was way out of his depth, so in order to fish for information on how to do his job, he used a form of bragging and patronising in order to form knowledge of how the job is done. The bragging, patronising and misogynistic behaviour was to cover his lack of knowledge and allowed him to save face while he got 'trained' in how to do the job.

I missed winnie's comment, I'm autistic, should I be offended?