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To Have Murderous Thoughts About Colleague?

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Mansplanation · 08/08/2018 20:34

I’m leaving my job and my replacement was hired, so I’m handing over.

Today he’s been reviewing my work over the last few months to get familiar with the accounts and when I asked how he was getting on, his reply was ‘it’s all quite good actually! I’m really surprised!’ Hmm

Later in the day, he commented that ‘you’re actually quite good at your job aren’t you?’

Then ‘well done, this looks like you planned it this way’

He also proceeded to explain my job to me in great detail. Over. And over. And over again. All the while, asking very very basic questions and eventually I said ‘yep, that’s very standard, have you not seen that before?’ To call him out on it and he replied ‘yeah I have, I just wanted to see if you knew why it’s done that way’

I DID FUCKING PLAN IT THAT WAY, IM VERY GOOD AT MY JOB AND YOU ARE REPLACING ME BECAUSE IM MOVING TO A MUCH, MUCH MORE SENIOR ROLE YOU INTOLLERABLE, MANSPLAINING SHART GOBLIN Angry

Somebody PLEASE lend me their willpower because I’m one ‘well done’ away from stapling a gold star to his fucking forehead.

I need to bite my tongue so I can leave and get to my new job but I’m really bloody struggling Sad

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BoomBoomsCousin · 12/08/2018 22:18

Was Winnie trying to be caustic about the way MN is known for finding excuses for people's behavior and suggesting the OP should be more accommodating because the offending behaviour is probably due to autism, depression, anxiety, etc.?

It's all I can think of.

VforVienetta · 12/08/2018 23:27

Nope, they simply stated that he was autistic. Baffled as to why!

VforVienetta · 12/08/2018 23:29

PSB i was, but am admittedly a bit short-fused as this stage of the summer holidays...

BoomBoomsCousin · 13/08/2018 02:12

That’s how sarcasm often works Vfor. Which isn’t to say I know what the poster was thinking, or that it was a good comment. I’m just pointing out there are other interpretations.

ICantBelieveIDidThis · 13/08/2018 02:42

I was hired for a technical role shortly after a guy.

He could memorise the SOPs chapter and verse, but failed miserably at putting it all into practice.

If instructions said 30ml, he poured in a random amount using a cylinder far too large to be accurate.

And then ask if that would do. 🤔

Tell him the canteen closed at 1.30pm and he was there at 1.40pm shouting abuse at the staff as the last shutter rolled down on the serving hatch.

We two were rotating round all the processes within our department, so that as he learned a process and got signed off, he would be moved and I would follow.

He didn't get past the first processes.

I was trained in some of the processes, but he held me up.

He was fired for incompetence after long and intensive sessions with a woman who had stayed long after her hours to help him sort out mess after mess.

He mansplained to her over and over again, before bollocksing it all up over and over again.

After being warned of his impending dismissal, things got really awkward after he claimed racial discrimination.

By the organisation and by the woman who went out of her way to help.

He left eventually, but I was only half trained after a year and was made redundant partly because I didn't have all the processes under my belt.

Mansplainer did appear to have major social issues, lacked any commonsense and his behaviour did fit with an autism or asd description.

My guy sounds almost exactly like your guy OP.

Good luck. You and your employer dodged a very big bullet there.

PerfectlySymmetricalButtocks · 13/08/2018 06:14

He could be autistic. He could just be an arsehole. 😂

whyamievenamazeddotcom · 13/08/2018 08:14

Was literally thinking the same thing perhaps he is feeling uncertain and needs validating....even so sounds v patronising

SlowDown76mph · 13/08/2018 08:56

Why all the eagerness for 'explanatory' excuses for his behaviour? It walks like a duck, talks like a duck, looks like a duck.

I'm autistic too and get fed-up with this default 'explanation', whether used as a sarcastic riposte or not (excusing the excuser?!)

Sometimes an arse is exactly what someone is, no more, no less!

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Mansplanation · 13/08/2018 09:31

He’s not autistic, he’s a knob.

A knob who thinks it’s acceptable to log in to the accounts on Friday night at 11pm and add a shit ton of budget, so everything has over spent over the weekend Angry

Luckily the system records which login was used etc. I asked IT to revoke his accesses when he left last week but apparently that’s too much to bloody ask Angry

Now I have to explain to clients why they’re 60% overspent on target and in one case, nearly £70k out of pocket Angry

At least if I get sacked I can start my new job. Silver linings and all that.

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SilverHairedCat · 13/08/2018 09:52

@Mansplanation that sounds illegal, and like it's time for the company to be calling in the police to investigate for fraud, and some lawyers to sue him for his actions after he'd been summarily dismissed.

Karigan198 · 13/08/2018 09:56

It is illegal. It comes under the computer misuse offences. You should report him.

IncrediblySturdyPyjamas · 13/08/2018 09:58

You definitely need to call the police now.

BlackAmericanoNoSugar · 13/08/2018 10:00

Shock What does your manager say? (She sounds ace and effective. Is she available to give advice to random people on their life choices? Wink )

BringOnTheScience · 13/08/2018 10:02

Holy crap!! This is way beyond being a mansplaining arsehole! Hope that management have called the police - and given IT a bollocking too.

PerfectlyPosed · 13/08/2018 10:04

Oh my god!

VelociraptorRex · 13/08/2018 10:05

WOW. That's taking it to a whole new unbelievable level! As others have said that's got to be illegal, you've notified IT and HR are aware he's left so it's not your fault, think some heads might be rolling in IT though!

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Mansplanation · 13/08/2018 10:06

So far manager has said ‘bollocks’ a lot and a few other choice variations.

We’re utterly fucked. Utterly, completely and royally fucked.

Contacting suppliers now to inform them the spend was unauthorised and to tell them not to bill the client until we’ve investigated. It’s been swept well out of my hands and gone up the chain of command like a rocket. I’m not even sure my manager will have a say in what happens next, it had landed with the M.D. by 9am.

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BlackAmericanoNoSugar · 13/08/2018 10:08

I hope there is someone physically standing in the IT dept and not leaving until his access has been revoked.

Yumyumpigs · 13/08/2018 10:09

Fuck sake. He's the knob that keeps giving isn't he. Totally call the police.

I'd also copy your request to IT to HR. That's gross negligence

VelociraptorRex · 13/08/2018 10:11

^ what @Yumyumpigs said - get digital and hard copies of your emails about this, the shit shouldn't land on you but it does tend to roll downhill.

BlackAmericanoNoSugar · 13/08/2018 10:12

I'm guessing that he's not going to be suing you for unfair dismissal then.

drspouse · 13/08/2018 10:12

Oh my. At least if the authorisation was over the weekend hopefully the suppliers won't have done anything yet.

Talcott2007 · 13/08/2018 10:18

He did what?!?!? OMG that's insane - deliberate and utterly malicious - This has to be taken to the Police surely!? If the fall out from this is going to roll down to anyone with will be whoever didn't do their job in IT!

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Mansplanation · 13/08/2018 10:20

The suppliers I’m talking about are automated, hard to explain without giving the industry away but essentially, you add budget to the platforms and it’s spent automatically. The money is gone. My last hope is we can get a refund but fuck knows.

We use an external IT company to manage our accesses etc, I have an email response to my email assuring me they were on it and it would be done ‘right away’. I’ve printed it, saved it to a USB and my manager is CC’d on the original email too.

There’s lots of meeting room action, I’m guessing it’s going to be a long day Sad

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CholloDeNombre · 13/08/2018 10:21

He ran his own business into the ground, didn't he? The one thing he's good at....