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Cringeworthyness of ex partners....

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Only1scoop · 28/07/2014 19:03

Had a few chuckles today ....met girls for lunch....been friends years and remember many of each others exes....

One friend recalled an ex who always used to ask for his pasta to be served 'El dente' even in fine Italian restaurants....he was no foodie and she used to 'cringe in her seat'

One of my exes used to ask for 'lattice fries' ....the L at start of word used to be drawn out....I used to twitch....I hated it so much.... he would ask this in any pub....restaurant.

Another ex of mine used to say he was going for a 'wee wee' and called his stomach his 'tummy'

He didn't last long really....

Just fun.... anyone got any others sayings that spring to mind on the 'cringeworthy meter'

Ex is an ex for a reason

Lllllatice fries anyone Wink

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susansus · 30/07/2014 00:01

Oh god, at the risk of a character assassination here I completely forgot the networking he used to do!

At any opportunity with adults when we were about 17-18. Any family get together, party, function he'd find out the people with good careers or whatever and just like schmooze them. He'd explain that that's what apparently got you places in the adult world how do you fucking know, we're 17 But he used to drink far too much and end up swaying in their faces and talking far too loud.
He's kind of carried this on a bit and now has a really embarrassing personal website/blog for careers advice for engineers which is riddled with lame jokes and spelling mistakes!!

He also used to have hand gestures like David Cameron- you know the horrible bent-almost-backwards-sprayed-out-fingers. Not just when networking but when he was explaining anything.

LuluJakey1 · 30/07/2014 00:05

Once on a skiing holiday, he said to me 'You are actually really fit for someone who carries weight'.
I told him to fuck off. I was 10 1/2 stone and 5ft 7.

roadtorouen · 30/07/2014 00:18

Love this thread, some posts are hilarious.

My ex used to think he was really different and unique because he didn't like football. He used to shout really loudly in pubs about how he hated 'them divs' who watched football all weekend and used to talk in a fake 'geezer' voice to impersonate them. It was so awkward. Ironically, instead of football he was obsessed with cars, so it wasn't much different as he used to constantly go to car shows and events.

Found him on a dating website a month after we broke up. He'd written on his profile (and I quote) "I'm not one of these football geezers just on the look out for one think. Can't stand those divs." Cringe.

deakymom · 30/07/2014 00:19

got excruciatingly drunk grabbed my boobs and squeezed so hard i had bruises lamented how he was too piddled to take advantage when he fell asleep i used the bathroom and found his wedding ring!

i got dressed and left

he had everything stencilled in his house walls doors everything he called it country style i really should have known he wasn't right damm place gave me the creeps he also had mirrors above his bed......

PerpendicularVincenzo · 30/07/2014 00:36

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SecretWitch · 30/07/2014 00:49

I had several dates with a man who wore cowboy boots and Stetson hat. He was from New Jersey and probably had never seen a horse up close. He would get all excited for himself, place my hand on his cock and whisper "Do you like my bulge, babe?"

GilbertBlytheWouldGetIt · 30/07/2014 01:13

Oh God.

The one who used to ask if he could "mount" me.

Frogisatwat · 30/07/2014 06:03

Oh god I have just remembered. .. one ex used to say 'we're docking' when we were about to dtd at the point of penetration That really did make me cringe!

elQuintoConyo · 30/07/2014 07:21

An ex at university used to stand and clap/ rub his hands together and ask, "the beast with two backs - any takers?" to get me in the mood.

Aww, bless.

it worked cos I was a randy mare

rollonthesummer · 30/07/2014 10:44

This has been my favourite thread for ages!! Can't quite get over the poo on the floor though!!

Only1scoop · 30/07/2014 10:52

Pseudospain Grin

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AdamLambsbreath · 30/07/2014 11:07

I'm technically on an MN break but cannot resist this.

I have an ex who was a nice chap at heart. BUT:

-He had an earring in the top of his ear, a little lizard, which STANK. I wondered what the smell was for ages before tracking it down and demanding that he remove it so I could disinfect the bloody thing. He just hadn't made sure to wash that part of his ear and never took it out, so it had yellow crap all round it (gross gross gross)

-He had this waterproof which he never washed. He wore it all the time and it ended up smelling like a tramp's vest. I took matters in my own hands and stuck it in the washing machine. Afterwards I told a mutual friend I'd had to take action, and she said: 'You washed it? Oh THANK GOD.'

-He thought he was funny, not realising most people were humouring him. He did 'impressions', one of which was a German-doctor style voice saying 'Is it a tu-mour?' I have no idea why it was supposed to be amusing. It certainly wasn't when I had to take him aside and ask him to stop doing it to my friend because her mum was having chemo for breast cancer.

My partner after him is now my DH. When now-DH and I met, it was just after I'd broken up with ex and DH was a little concerned about him being around. Not long afterwards they met for the first time, and ex, having known DH for - oooh, ten minutes - did that 'breaking an egg on your head' trick with his hand.

Afterwards I apologised to DH for the embarrassment, and DH said 'No, it's fine. At least now I know I've got nothing to worry about.' Grin

GatoradeMeBitch · 30/07/2014 12:05

My ex, despite being below average by all sexual markers, used to always give me an hours notice to 'prepare myself' for him. Did he think I was doing some special fanny stretches or something?

It would always take him ages to get it up (so really he should have been using the prep time, not me) and when we got going it was so pathetic I used to get visions of myself having sex with a sleepy golden hamster. It always ended the same way, him feebly punching the pillow next to my head and muttering 'No. No. No.' as in 'No, I will not come yet.' Not what I wanted to hear quite frankly. I'm certain he had a totally different idea of our sex life than the reality.

He loved to boast that he only had sex with his ex once 'Because she said if we did that again she'd DIE!' Followed by a satisfied nose snort. I really doubt she meant it in the way he thought! He broke up with her because he found a photo of her ex, a Hells Angel, and kept her up all night shouting at her that she'd knowingly put him in mortal danger by once going out with this man.

Once we stayed at my parents house and as we walked down the stairs he reached behind him and 'tickled' my crotch, complete with loud tickling noises. My brothers were at the bottom of the stairs looking up at us, and I know he did it deliberately. He also had a thing about wanting me to act 'seductively' with him while sharing a sofa with my Dad. And he complained that I must be looking for sexual attention from male family members if I didn't have my hair in a ponytail when I went round. He had REAL issues. Actually he told me an ex of his used to imply he had a thing for his daughter, so I kind of hope he decided to pass that vileness on to another family, rather than the alternative...

There was also an anecdote about how he once had to 'half-rape' a girl but that makes me too queasy.

The cringiness wasn't limited to our sex life either. He loved to talk about private things very very loudly in public, and would threaten to get the opinion of the 'man on the street', literally any random man, if I disagreed with him. He loved to use macho terms like man-handle. 'I had to MANHANDLE the dying dog into the car. MANHANDLE him!'

There's loads more I could say about him which is actually really depressing! He basically wormed his way in when I was very vulnerable, then clung on like a limpet. It took me two years to get him to understand I didn't want him anymore, and then the stalking carried on for more than a decade - not helped by the fact that we have a son he could manipulate.

Oh, and he was hairy. Very, very hairy. This is to the woman on the other thread who says that scientists have proven body hair makes men better in bed. Just - no. Grin

GatoradeMeBitch · 30/07/2014 12:05

OMG I really did go for it. Sorry for the essay. It was good to get it all out though!

AdamLambsbreath · 30/07/2014 12:52
Wink
impatienceisavirtue · 30/07/2014 13:02

Well...Er....wow.

PittTheYounger · 30/07/2014 13:04

Lol at we're docking

AdamLambsbreath · 30/07/2014 13:12

Oh God.

And there was the guy who had a (framed) picture of his ex-girlfriend above his bed in his uni room, and told me how she used to tie him to a bedpost and blow him for three hours before she let him come.

He was at a different, rival university in the same town, and told me that his mates had been unsure if it was OK for him to go out with me but had decided it was because I was 'a looker'.

He also informed me that he had a custard fetish, but thank God he went straight-edge shortly afterwards and stopped calling me so I never had to repel any attempts at introducing Bird's to the bedroom.

I have no idea why I went out with him, apart from that I was 18 and clueless.

SpeakerOut · 30/07/2014 13:13

Brilliant thread Grin

RevoltingPeasant · 30/07/2014 13:42

sex with a sleepy golden hamster

Grin

Although that really is a mental image no one needs.

Applecrumbledore · 30/07/2014 15:39

I had one who after 'completion' STILL INSIDE ME started talking about a TV show we had watched prior to the act - couldn't understand why I was put out at all.

Also used to try to squeeze our sweaty chests together after every sex session to make that horrible whole body fart thing. He found it hilarious!

GatoradeMeBitch · 30/07/2014 15:55

Oh, I remembered something worse. Feeling guilty that our sex life was so shit - with me being 20 and him 40 I assumed I had to be at fault - I tried to spice things up and copied a raunchy line from a Cosmopolitan article into a Valentine's card (or birthday card, they were both in the same week). I still remember it, 'When I think of you I have to cross my legs.' I found it quite eww, why would you have to cross your legs, would things really get that messy? But I thought he'd like it. Actually he looked the very opposite of turned on!

About a week later I went round and the card was on display in his living room! His flatmate must have read it, his parents, maybe even his daughter. He was completely bewildered that I was embarrassed. Cards were for displaying, even with filthy messages in them. Now I suspect he deliberately left it out for his loved ones to read to show off his 'prowess'. When he moved into a rented room he again put the card out on display for his landlady and husband to read. When he was out I tore it up and threw it away and he never mentioned it again. On the off-chance he's reading here, you had zero prowess R. Remember that time you sulked because you thought I faked an orgasm? I faked all of them. I had my first orgasm about a year after we split. Smile

sarahandFuck · 30/07/2014 16:32

An ex of mine used to do impressions from Blackadder, in particular saying the word "etty-quetty" at every opportunity. I wanted to stab him in the eye.

That on it's own probably wouldn't have been enough to break up with him for but he was also tight-fisted (he gave me a jar of humbugs, a set of books worth £1.25 each and a boomerang for our first Christmas together and they were all secondhand as they'd been sat on the shelves of his bedroom since we first met) and he wasn't skint either, just tight. He'd spent several months hinting at wanting a new watch and a Discman player (90's) from me so I should have run a mile then.

He was selfish, attempted to be unfaithful at least three times (and failed as far as I know but only thanks to those three women having better taste than I obviously did) and for some reason he decided that he wanted to model his appearance on Vladimir Lenin, something he still thinks suits him to this day.

Worst of all, and this is the very worst, during a stop off in Thailand on the way to Australia he bought a pair of black silk pyjamas which he insisted on wearing all the time when he was at home because he thought they made him look like James Bond, and a purple silk shirt with big white flowers on it and his mother, father and brother all bought identical shirts which they wore without irony or shame when out together! Everywhere. And I had a similar one from C&A that I had to put in the bin because of the horror of it all! Shock

His mother still wears hers!

When he proposed to me in front of a jewellers window in a packed shopping centre at Christmas the only possible thing to do was say "Oh my God, NO!" and run for my life.

A lovely ex who just wasn't the one used to exclaim "oh my word…oh my giddy aunt" during sex, so that was obviously never going to work out.

And the one who mis-interperated my valentine card as a death-threat and turned out to be using me to make another woman jealous. Which didn't work so he left me for the other woman's sister and ended up being beaten up by her not-quite-ex boyfriend when he got out of prison. Lucky escape with that one. He was short, stupid and very bad in bed but for six insane weeks I did my best to convince myself otherwise.

The valentine card was quite a simple one, it said "Guess who…" on the front and "…loves you?" on the inside. He decided that the 'Guess who' part was a threatening message from someone who had previously threatened to beat him up and he went into hiding for three days which meant he made his mum answer the door and his phone while he stayed in his bedroom

Fortunately at this point I met DH, who is lovely, mostly normal, and doesn't dress like his mother, reference female relatives during sex or assume that Hallmark are agents of the mafia.

sarahandFuck · 30/07/2014 17:31

Ooh! Moved to Classics. Our bad taste in men can live on forever now Grin

ChanelNumber19 · 30/07/2014 18:20

Susunsus, that made me laugh, an xbf was like that too, while I was thinking 'come on we're not in a bistro in the south of france fgs"

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