d'y ever wonder when u will feel human again?

[Meeely2]

hows that girls?

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Meeeley - I'm so sorry!

LG&T - happy belated!!!

Took a week off to spend time with DH's family. Loved seeing my four nephews and BIL/SIL, but a bit too much time with FIL/SIL. So nice to be back at work and online.

Aw girls, so sorry I have been absent!!!! Only time to skim but DP will go for takeaway later and I will come back......love to those that really need it xxxxx

I LOVE online shopping!! Why have I not been using it all my life?

estar, you need to rest up. Do it. Find ways to cut corners. I find it hard to take my own advice but I'm good at lecturing

Meeely, I haven't yet read your thread but I wanted to give you some gut instinct answers.......

1. this thread isn't about twins/triplets or quads etc, its about anything by mothers of twins/triplets/quads etc....

2. if your DH is using any substance/support/indulgence without involving you, then thats a concern. If he was eating Double Deckers in the wardrobe and hiding the wrappers, that would be the same concern, the 'substance' is unimportant (ish)

My DP is home, I'm not finished, I will be back. xxxxxxxx

Fg so lovely to have you back, what kind of takeaway?

I had fish n chips earlier as the kids have been housebound most of the day, well except for a nightmare trip to the opticians. Beau yelled, Hugo refused to do anything he was asked by the very nice optician, Phin set up a colouring station next to the receptionist, Jonah nearly wet his pants and Sam dropped every toy he picked up on to the very nice wooden floor and Jake annoyed them all just for good measure, joy.

So i took them for a stoll in to the village for chish n fips, i have felt sick since i ate them! Dagnammit all....

well, lg&t, if it's any consolation, I had a cr*p day too. My kids seem to realise that I'm stressed atm and are trying to do everything they possibly can to make my life miserable. [angry Even my angel turned into a devil today.

meely, if you really want to swap husbands with me then he comes with 3 adorable () kids, and you will have to be prepared to go to New Zealand with him...

Estar, sounds to me like Braxton hicks, rest up...that's my advice...how many weeks pg are you? Btw, it's really weird you moving to morcambe, i used to live in lancaster!

Mommalove, I used the Pump In Style, and it was good.

I also used a Medela pump-in-style it looks like a backpack and is easy to carry, and is a hospital grade pump. It works great and we actually wore out the motor on the pump and they sent us a replacement motor without any hesitation (just keep your reciept because they'll want to know when and where you purchased it). hope this helps

Best one out there.... Almeda Lactaline Dual. Trust me!

anyone around today?

Meeely, I am en route to the shower........got a sec for you, all ok?

all fine, just tired - looking forward to weekend without DH and some quality time with my DT's and my sis....

i had a look through your thread. My earlier post won't have helped much. It sounds like there are deeper issues than the cocaine, its a by-product. Ask yourself:

1. if he was lying in hospital in a coma following a serious illness or car crash how would you feel?

2. if you were lying in hospital dying, who would you want holding your hand? And who would you want raising your children?

3. type out the best case scenario and the worst case scenario for your relationship, look at the difference. With work, is the best case in the ball park?

Hang on. Everything changes. xxxx

i think the cocaine is my excuse if i'm honest. But when you asked the question if he was in hosp in a coma i would be there instantly (here we go, downtrodden doormat wife syndrome) I do love him.

If I was in hosp, i would want him there. when we had the dt's i stayed in hosp for 2 weeks so i could be near them, he came every night and we would 'feed' the dt's, snuggle for a bit then go back to my room and watch the tele in my bed for a bit and it was nice.

when i am in my cynical 'i hate him' mode i think we were only that close then because of the boys. now they are way past critical and life has settled down he has bored of me again.

What frustrates me the most is the EFFORT he puts into putting me down, making snide remarks, being miserable. if he put the same effort into being there for his family, being there for me and helping me through my councelling (although pretty sure i don't need it, i just need rid of him), we might have a fighting chance.

oh god i don't know..............

Oh Meely >

I know only too well the downtrodden wife syndrome, i stayed for years and thought i was stuck, destined to be with him beacause of some major family traumas. Convinced myself it was the right thing to do as he had at 'some' points in our relationship been wonderful. It took me falling in love with another (from afar) to shake me up and realise that i didnt have to live like it and could make the change. It was incredibly hard ( i had 5 children and not working)

It has been hard but the man i loved from afar is now my husband and we have a yummy little boy It is worth it you just have to be brave.

In a vain attempt to get back in touch with the twins crowd on here (I just can't keep up !) - can I ask anyone who hasn't done it previously to add themselves to the rollcall thread.

There seem to be a lot of expectant twin mums too - maybe they need a thread of their own - we can all poke our noses in occasionally and give them the benefit of our wisdom .

just had a LARGE dressing down on my other thread - coming here to lick my wounds

Just ignore whoever it was >

Will go and have a look.

Good idea Throck, will register. Feel like im back in school

I have started an expecting twins thread too - for those who are going through the joy of a twin pregnancy

Mommalove - was that to me ? if so - then noooo - I just thought it would be nice for you pregnant ladies to have your very own thread where you can talk to each other - I hadn't seen one but noticed quite a few twin comments on the antenatal threads. I just felt that when you are pregnant it is almost impossible to imagine actually having twins for real - especially when you are dealing with all the stuff a twin pregnancy can throw up.

evening all

Hello Meeeley! How are you this fine evening (well, still afternoon in my part of the world )?

near ready for bed! Dt;s took an hour to drop off and i am preparing myself for a weekend without dh, so will be on call 24x7