'd'ya ever wonder how many times you will be asked if they are twins?'

[MarsLady]

C'mon girls. Got bored of waiting and started the new thread!

chopster - I am with you! I have started running with one of my neighbours, last SUnday morning we did 2 miles and on Wednesday night we did 2.5! We are going again tonight and I think will try for about 2.5 again as where we live is surrounded by hills so you have to go up hills to get anywhere - AAAGGGHHHH

ooh well done hm! I'd like to go out running but can't face the idea of hills yet! Once I get fitter, I'm going to give it a go. I'm doing the walk/run training thing at the gym.

Where is everyone? Overrun, OOgs, Chopster, Mars, Triplets, TK, leo, harrogate, Mommalove and all you others heloooooo!

It was ds#3 birthday yesterday, i have a pic of his spidy cake on my profile. His party was today, cant believe he is 5, too fast they grow up

What are you all doing?

Hi everyone,

please forgive my sporadic posting on here, I'm not getting much internet time at the mo. Babies are coming tomorrow and just wanted to ask ...

what's the hardest thing about having twins?

I know that's quite a negative question, but I'd like to prepare myself mentally for the worst iykwim. I know dd is going to find it hard and we in turn are going to find that hard to deal with (she's 2.9) and the lack of sleep etc. Just whanted to know if there's anything I haven't thought of that's going to hit me like a brick wall...?

Thanks!

bibi if you email me lovelymarslady at aol dot com I have something to email you that might help you with the caesarean birth.

Are you still there Bibi?

Dont worry it really is not that bad. If you and your DH keep nice and calm and relaxed about everything it will help. The lack of sleep is the worst thing, so accept all offers of help so you can rest. Forget the housework and shopping, order online and eat ready meals. Drink plenty if you are planning to breastfeed, especially in hospital it's always so dry in there. Have plenty of bottles of water (little ones) by your bed so you can just grab them as you sit.

We are all here waiting for news Good luck, it is so exciting. Twins are very special and so are you for having them.

Where the buggery bollocks is everyone?

Bibi, if you're still there, good luck for tomorrow. As LG&T says, lack of sleep is the worst thing, so her advice about accepting all offers of help is the way to go. I heard about someone once who had a list of chores up in the kitchen and any visitors had to do at least one chore before they got to sit down and have a squeeze with a baby! I know when my 2 were born, what I really wanted was for someone else to do all the running around so that I could have time with my babies, but I ended up running around after everyone else, letting them cuddle them once they were fed. Another tip was to have a box of special toys/books close by to where you normally sit to feed the babies so that your DD can sit with you and you can either read her a story or help her play whilst you feed them. Hope all goes well - looking forward to hearing your news.

Sorry I've not been around lately. It's not been the best of weeks. OH finally decided to close down his business a couple of weeks ago and is going through the painful process of trying to find a job. We also discovered he'd been the victim of identity fraud last week, which was the last thing we needed. I was trying to get everything ready for DD1's first big birthday party yesterday and DT1 woke up with chicken pox on Thursday morning, closely followed by DT2 on Friday afternoon. I had to go to the supermarket though and tried to get DT1 (whose spots were only just coming out) to keep her hood on, but, being a sensible girl, she refused as we were indoors and 'it not raining inside mummy'. Then she proceeded to sing out 'I got chicken pox, I got chicken pox' all the way round tescos . Fortunately, her speech isn't that clear yet, but I did get a few funny looks .

DT2 has the most spots but the ones on DT1's bottom have caused the most pain...poor little thing has been asking me to change her nappy. I did have another brief attempt at potty-training, but they're really not ready...they stand next to the potty and wee on the floor .

Anyway, DD1'sp party was great - she had a lovely time and was very spoilt by all her friends. I must have a proud mummy moment as well - got her report from pre-school on Friday and she has done so well. She had a 'stay and play' session at her new school last week as well...I was quite nervous for her, but she took it in her stride and is looking forward to everything except the uniform, which as it isn't pink, is not going down well .

Sorry this is long and rambly. Hope everyone else is well. How is Beau LG&T? Hope you are getting some sleep.

Hi all,
Still around, usual as you must all know end of term madness! Sports day, healthy fitness week, (fear I was a bad example), lots of late nights and far too much alcohol! Just been to a boozy bbq as my youngest brother has been down for 4 days from Durham, so I had my gorgeous 4yr old niece here last night for her first ever sleep over with Rebecca, they were sooooooooo sweet together and she was so good. Cried saying goodbye to her tonight, only get to see her once a year, love her dearly. This week will be bedlam again, got my friend coming on Thurs from France and am helping her do the catering for her 60th bash next Sat! Then school ends on the 25th, and we fly to San Fran on the 26th! What will I do without you all for a month? Still taking the odd diazapam, trying to cope without it if I can, heard the waiting list for counselling is at least 4 months, had an appt to see a cardiologist, re Matthew on the 26th July, the day I fly.......so probably wont get an appt now until Sept/Oct, just want to get that one out of the way. My Ent appt about the tinnitus was the 29th Aug, they have cancelled that until the 12th Dec! Had such a bad day last Mon, it was Matthews birthday, his 28th, died at 14, 14 yrs later hes 28 seems so awful. I tried so hard al day to be normal, but as usual not a card in the post, not a phone call from anyone, I just couldnt hack it any longer and by 8pm found myself on the kitchen floor crying those gtrest sobs, like when he died, just couldnt stop it. Felt so terrible in front of the children, Beecaa put her arm around me and kept saying poor Mama, the boys just went off quietly. Its been a very long time since I have cried like that, maybe its what I needed, I dont know, its been a struggle the last couple of months, so maybe the counselling is long overdue. Its hard I know for the rest of my family, but we have been through this before, just a card, something to put on the fireplace by his picture to mark his birthday, I have nothing, except we go to the cemetery with our card and flowers but I just feel sooooooooo angry there, its not enough, never will be enough. The contrast I have when its my trios day, 66 cards between them, endless presents etc, and I know its not their fault but oh it is so hard at times to juggle my two lives. So sorry I havent been around, thats me, still here! Hope you all are ok, xxx

Must start to preview message, awful mistakes, I can spell...........onest!

Oh triplets poor you honey, im so sorry. I have no idea how you manage, i cant begin too. Lots of love and HAPPY BIRTHDAY'S for Matthew. I hope the holiday is fab, im very The kids must be so excited, a plane ride with all 3 Im not brave enough for a bus ride with all of mine

TK Beau is just adorable, i'm distrught that he is 7 weeks old already. It is going way too fast, time for another soon.....Well not quite yet. I'm sleeping quite well, he feeds late (about 11-12) and again early (3-5) so i get a few hours in between. Hugo has started sleeping through so that helps enourmously. It has only taken 2 and a half years!

Must go to bed! Good luck for tomorrow BIBI, will be thinking of you.

The dreaded pox, i have avoided it for a couple of years. The 3 oldest got it all 2 weeks apart. It was hell, i was in for 6 weeks! They were all under 3 too and it was the summer! DS #3 has had i too but was very poorly so i have stayed away with ds'4 and now i have ds#5 he is too little so i will be avoiding it for a while longer! Good luck with it, the calamine aquous cream is fab, cooling and not staining or runny. Seek it out

Well have spoken to them three times in the last thirteen years, it was only the first year that I got a card and for the anniversary of the day he died. They I know have not forgotten, esp my Mum, but when its my Dads birthday I send Mum a card to say how much I love him and am thinking of her, same on his a/v and will next week as its their wedding a/v. I did end up last Mon phoning my brother and spilled it all out to him, he said he feels that they just dont know really what to do, feel that a card would upset me more, but I told them years ago that I need the card, just need to know he is not forgotten, want to have something to put up on my shelf, its all so empty, like he was never here. It hurts, and even my family I feel do not realy understand that it can stil be so painful after 13 years. It just never goes away, I live with it daily, I feel there are two mes, two lives trying to be one. So awfully tired at times of the weight of sadness that no matter what I do I can never shake off. Yes I have been given a new life with my very special three, love them so much, yet live in fear that something may happen to them too, need to move on for all our sakes but so want to hang on to my other life, when I was happy. Am also worried atm as Matthews cat is looking very thin and old, she was just one when he died, now 14, she is my biggest link I have here in the house, so afraid of losing her, she is so special to me. Yet in my heart I know I have to make more effort for Thomas,Rebecca and James, don`t want them to think back that Mummy was always crying for Matthew. I think I have coped quite well, but being 55 with a 9yr old trio, panic attacks and still missing my lovely fist born boy is so very hard. I am lucky though in that I have good friends, mainly thru school, mostly all young enough to be my daughters, but they have been more suportive than they know, and they make me feel young!

Have a wonderful day Bibi, if there was a day I could replay it would be the day my trio were born, such a special, happy day, I loved every minute of it, well perhaps not the catheter bit!

Monday again, Noooo! At least this is the last week of the summer term. Another hectic week coming up here.

Bibi, prob too late for you now, but it's jsut the relentlessness of it to begin with, but thankfully it doesn't last long. I'd love to have a day back with my two as newborns, all of us snuggling up in bed.

Wishing a belated happy birthday to Matthew.
Have you taken his cat to the vets yet? It may be something easily treatable.

hello

Meely here, mum to twins, I do actually WORK in the day so cannot read this thread from start to finish, but i will say hi and promise to catch up soon.

Meely
xx

hi meeely!

quick gir ls, get the lemon drizzle and cushions, this is a mate of mine, so u have to be extra nice to her.

I am off home shortly, and its a 'hubby home' night so won't be online, but will be around tomorrow day/night so will introduce myself better then.

Hello meely, nive to have you with us.

Have been thinking about Bibi today, how exciting for her

Mars.... i had Beau weighed again today, in 2 weeks he has put on 6oz and in the 2 weeks prior he put on 7oz in 2 weeks. The hv said "so what are your plans.....top up with expressed milk in the evening?" huh?

All the others were weight stackers on a and i never even thought about it. I have nothing to worry about do i?

triplets.........

Thinking of you bibi.

Hey Meely.... send hubby out and talk to us instead lol

I've been wondering about bibi too, hoping she is all snuggled up with them by now.