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d'ya every wonder how life carried on and on and on.....

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Kelly1978 · 27/11/2006 11:47

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Too much waffling, you know who you are

I jsut wanted to psot to say good luck hm, hope you can hold out, but it really sounds like things are moving. Jsut think you could be cuddled upw ith your baby by tomorrow morning!

Glad to hear dt2 is better, fg.

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FrumpytheGrumpyreindeer · 07/12/2006 18:18

Kelly, what a wonderful image to think of your DS1 like that, bet that made you proud!!! You are doing it fine girl!!!

Overrun, I think the name fits like a glove and I picture you lying on your back under the christmas tree smooching a handsome someone while the party continues in the distance...... I'm just a romantic at heart.......

Ding Dong! (in my best Leslie Phillips voice) You do that hip wiggle beautifully my dear. I did nip in on Nigella as I folded laundry last night. She does everything so well that its hard to watch and hard no to. I love the way she makes love to the camera as she works. Did you ever see the French & Saunders (was it them?) sketch of her?? Had my pants wringing for weeks.

My DTs are just soooo much work right now. They hav hairfy fits if everything is not exactly the same......and then DD1 joins in. After a stressful school pick up they all arrived home and fought about who would get the pink coathanger for their coat [throw my hands up in disgust emoticon]. I really don't know what to do. Keeping everything fair is exhausting but not keeping it by the book is unbearable.

FrumpytheGrumpyreindeer · 07/12/2006 18:20

meiko, largegin just had a largegin I'm guessing.....not every day is a laugh here so just chip in with anything at anytime and we always answer xx.

FrumpytheGrumpyreindeer · 07/12/2006 18:22

this is meiko's thread

FrostyTheSnowMarsLady · 07/12/2006 20:08

Welcome to our world Meiko!

Loving the name Overrunderthemistletoe. I too have visions of you snogging away! Sigh...........

Off to salsa shortly. Need a bit of boogy back in my life. Here's the lemon drizzle cake. Now to pop the other one over to the NJ Labour thread!

leogaela · 07/12/2006 20:26

Shh, don't tell theGrumpyreindeer that I'm here without my tinsel !

HM, I had to laugh at your dt pooing in his bed! I can't imagine it was very funny for you though!

Kelly, the pampering sounds wonderful and its great to hear your ds is doing so well!

Mars, thankyou! I will email you within the next couple of weeks. Its very reasuring to know you are around.

After a couple of days feeling stressed today I felt great again and ds has been the most wonderful little angel this evening . He has come home from nursery with a huge swollen ear though, maybe he was the one that got bitten this time instead of the one doing the biting !

Overrunderthemistletoe · 07/12/2006 20:40

ha ha, about the snogging, dh and i are so shattered atm, that we haven't even got the energy to chat let alone anything else. Thats why I am off to bed for some much needed kip, glad you all like the name though.
kelly, your little Joseph sounds fab. My ds1 is a shepherd this year. Looking forward to seeing him, but it will all be in Welsh, so i will be clueless as usual
Frumpy - your twins sound like my twins, but the that probably applies to twins every where, the little blighters.
Dt1 is sporting a nasty gash by his eye, courtesy of dt2 in the great war of the afternoon snacks.

meiko · 07/12/2006 20:46

hello throcken.... I have twin boys - 13 weeks and a girl - 20 months - just put them all to bed. waiting for the screams to start from my DD who after 20 months of perfect sleeping has decided to object very much to the fact that she doesn't sleep in our room yet the twins do. still waiting for life to settle somewhat after what can only be described as the complete chaos that has been our life for the last 3 months. struggling to cope with the whole twin plus toddler thing. sometimes think triplets would be easier tho i'm sure there are plenty of triplet mum's out there who would beg to differ. anyway nice to see you all smiling on here.

leogaela · 07/12/2006 20:57

How about LeomincepiesandbrandybutterGaela? Something i miss about christmas living over here mmmm!

Meiko, how much help do you have with your 3?

I'm also trying to work out how the evenings are going to work without disrupting ds's routine too much. Between 6 & 8 we (me, ds, dh) will have to eat, get ds ready for bed, put ds to bed (this can take time feed twins, read ds story, get twins ready for bed, put twins to bed (if we are really lucky I guess!)! Its going to have to be a militarily planned routine to fit it all in!

meiko · 07/12/2006 21:02

leogaela - well we have soemthin going that is resembling some sort of ordered chaos but i wouldn't say its a routine as such. try to keep the 45mins before bed the same every night to encourage twins to learn difference between day and night. it seems to be working - giving them all bath then their milk then straight in to bed they seem to be learning and are going off to sleep without a problem. DD joins in with it all and is happy unitl the moment i leave her room and then the tears start. for now i have chosen just to leave her crying. i don[t want her to become dependant on me sitting eith her to get to sleep. maybe this is the wrong tact but i'm not sure

meiko · 07/12/2006 21:04

also. i have help from my mum one day a week. other than that i try as much as possible to get a friend to pop in and help me in the mornings a couple of days. i need to get someone to help me if i go shopping. there are many times a day i wish i could click my fingers and someone else be there just to hold one of them for five mins or something. its hen they all cry and demand something at once that its hardest

largevirginbirthandtonic · 07/12/2006 22:06

It does get better Meiko, promise. I had twins first and then had dd 20 mths later, so the other way round to you. I did struggle with them to start with, i used to put the hoover on as the dts were afraid of it and it used to send the baby to sleep. I wore holes in the carpet once......

It cant be all bad though im expecting #6 in may...

FrostyTheSnowMarsLady · 08/12/2006 01:49

Meiko... if I can find it (I can't remember if I've lent it out) I have a fantastic book called Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems by Richard Ferber. It's fantastic. Sorted my DTs out in a week. Looking forward to chatting to you here.

LG&T.... how lovely! We want a photo in member's profiles please!

ThrockenAroundTheChristmasTree · 08/12/2006 07:42

meiko - respect to anyone who baths newborn twins and a toddler every night - something I never even attempted .

Shopping online and having it delivered was something I did do a lot of in the early days - in fact we rarely took ours to the shops until they were much older - now at nearly 4 and 5.5 they find it a real treat to go to the supermarket .

My life seems to be 50% petty arguements about who gets to sit in which car seat, who was playing with which tractor (or more often which trailer), and like "important" things. The other 50% is good - either having a good time with them - or standing back and watching them playing together nicely and making us proud. Hopefully soon the balance will push a bit more to the good times and I can return to being a relatively sane human being rather than someone who loses her temper way too easily

FrostyTheSnowMarsLady · 08/12/2006 08:56

LG&T.... ENJOY YOUR BALL!!!!!!!!!!!

I won't be here to see you model your fabby dress but wanted to say I'm thinking of you and am not at all jealous So you go and have a really good time.

meiko · 08/12/2006 09:39

frosty....that would be great but don't go to any trouble - just if its to hand.
after last night i have decided that a house witth thicker walls would make life so much better.at least we wouldn't all have to be awake at same time. however to consider moving at moment i think would send me over the edge!!

Overrunderthemistletoe · 08/12/2006 10:59

Hi Meiko, my ds1 was 20 months when dts came along, so have some idea of how you feel. Its all a bit of a blur now, but it does pass. Sorry thats the best I can do
A mother who had triplets actually said to me at the time, I think my lot is easier as at least they are all at the same stage. Who knows, all I know is that its bloody difficult, but ultimately worth it.

FrumpytheGrumpyreindeer · 08/12/2006 13:19

Leo, my routine at first was along the lines of late afternoon feed for the babies (4pm?), dinner for DD1 (4.30pm ish), baths for all 3 about 6pm (I often did DD1 and a baby together with the other baby lying beside us or in one of the many, many things I mentioned on the other thread (door hang thing, baby walker, baby swing, playgym).

Then I'd let DD watch CBeebies on my bed while I gave the wee ones their bedtime feed and pop them down (in a quiet, dark room from early on). From very early on I tried to avoid letting the wee ones sleep after 4pm (hard) so that I was sure they would fall asleep at least long enough to do a bedtime story and cuddle for DD1. It didn't always work. Some nights I would read to DD1 and ignore the crying because she had to have her turn too. Then I'd go back to whoever was crying.

Sometime after that, I'd clear up and eat dinner . Remember, all babies are different.

Meiko, I second the recommendation of Solve Your Childs Sleep Problem, Dr Richard Ferber. Its a great book. You don't need to have a problem as such, it is just a good book to learn about sleep patterns and new ways of seeing things.

I remember one horrid night in the middle of winter when the DTs were 5 months.....I was always on my own overnight (DP works away) and DT2 had a nasty chest infection and some noise in his lungs, DT1 and DD1 had hideous colds and I had flu symptoms. They were all up all night for days and I just went from room to room, feeling like I couldn't feel much more grim. Then, at 4am this night, the DTs were both crying and DD1 got up and I was alone and tearing my hair out. I got them all back to bed and at half past 4 in the morning phoned my mum crying just to hear someone's voice tell me I was doing my best and it was ok to lie in bed a while and ignore them to see if they would fall asleep again.

This is a long, long, long way of saying that it can be very tough but that as each stage arrives another takes over and you kind of do 2 steps forward, 1 step back each time.

Meiko, when everyone needs you at once, its awful because its just the time you need someone too. I tried to give the oldest priority at times like that, she was the one who knew things had been different and who got put to the end of the queue so many times. I would talk quietly to her so she would focus on me and learn to ignore the noise. I'd let her sit on the worktop as I cooked/did dishes so she could be right beside me even though I couldn't stop to cuddle her or play.

I also got hideously frustrated and shouted and cried. But its life. This thread (the first incarnation) saved me when I was at my lowest. It really, really, helped to share it with others.

FGS can I not just pop in and say hi , must keep practising, must keep practising........

p.s. Leo, I'm liking the name, now GET YOUR CLOTHES ON!!!

p.p.s. largegin, go on, dazzle us!! Hope its a good night.

FrumpytheGrumpyreindeer · 08/12/2006 13:25

meiko this was the first thread

You won't have time to read it all but if you dip into bits it might help.

wewishyouamerrychristmouse · 08/12/2006 13:26

Hi Meiko, welcome, don't tell anyone but I am a bit of a lurker. (CM has quick glance round to check no one has caught her out.) I am not yet in your boat but hopefully will be by May 07. DD will be 2 1/2 by then.

LGT have a wonderful time at the ball I am sure you will look like a princess.

Hope you are all well and Christmas is getting to be fun and not just hard work. We are getting the tree at the weekend and will be trimming up then as well. Getting quite giddy about it now.

By the way I love all the festive names, you are getting me all Christmassy.

dingdonglapinroseonhigh · 08/12/2006 13:26

my god frumpy that was a long one

dingdonglapinroseonhigh · 08/12/2006 13:33

I saw you mousey, I'm lurking too, so many things to do I don't dare start posting, but am sick of cleaning, tidying, wrapping presents, washing...I have put fairy lights along the stairs though, so am starting to feel a bit festive. We have decided no tree til after the DTs birthday which is next thurs so that's next weekend's job

LVG&T am so I would love to be off to a ball tonight, can't remember the last time I got all dressed up like that cue the violins...

Meiko I haven't really got any advice about the toddler/twin routine I'm afraid as I had my twins and stopped there! Good luck anyway, sounds like you're doing really well

HM how's it going (apart from the DTs new habit, which mine never developed and are out of nappies now, have I escaped?) you sound as though you've got it all sorted

hello everyone else, I'm sure I'll pop back later when I should be making a birthday cake or something

FrumpytheGrumpyreindeer · 08/12/2006 13:47

Why thank you, Ding Dong [frgin]

tracykb · 08/12/2006 14:30

I'm here . SO sorry I haven't been on for a while, but have been v. busy and by the time I've caught up on the other posts, I haven't got time to post .

Apologies for being under-dressed. Have racked my brains but cannot think of a Christmas name! Have always been a bit bah humbug about the whole festive season possibly because it's my birthday on 23rd and it always gets forgotten! So now I'm totally lacking in inspiration

Kelly - loved the thought of your little joseph. I have DD1's first Xmas concert next Friday and first ballet performance the next day...will be buying a big box of mansize tissues!!

Meiko - have replied on your other thread, but just to echo what others have said...it is hard, but it DOES get better.

Largegin - have a wonderful time at the ball.

FG - my DTs and DD1 seem to be in the same mood as yours...one minute they're playing beautifully together, the next they're screaming in pain, because one's bitten the other and then been scratched in retaliation. Oh Joy .

We had a couple of weeks where everyone was healthy and now DT2 has a bad chesty cold.

One good thing...DD1 suddenly announced 2 nights ago that she wanted to wear knickers to bed. Couldn't say no as it was her decision and she is old enough. We put a potty in her room and held our breath expecting a night of wet beds. Didn't hear a thing and when we went in in the morning, she'd already been in the potty. Was sooo pleased with her. Now all we have to do is get her doing her no 2's in the loo and we're sorted (till we start potty-training the DTs!).

Like FG - not capable of short posts.

HarktheHarrogateMumisSinging · 08/12/2006 14:51

hi all - itsgoing well thanks lapinrose, the midwives discharged me today and I actually feel great! Maybe I'm just on a high after having Maddy but I just feel really happy and that alls well with the world, especially withChristmas coming up!

leomincepiesandbrandybutter · 08/12/2006 15:28

Ok, ok, I'm all tinselled up and brought a long some more fairy lights to put on the tree. I have had to lose my tail though as its just too long to fit in here!
I think christmas is just so different here that it doesn't feel like christmas, i find it difficult to even think of christmassy things!

FG, it sounds like you had things really well organised and under control when the twins were tiny! Lots of good ideas, I always like the ideas you have to keep your dd not feeling left out.

A ball? What's that? I don't think i have ever been posh enough to go to a ball or even be invited to one ! Enjoy!

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