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D'y ever wonder where the time goes....

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bubby64 · 20/02/2012 16:15

...When juggling kids, family, home, school and work?
I know, I know, feeble effort, but I really don't know where my year has gone! Its towards the end of February now, past half term for most of us, and I don't even seem to have blinked!
We were celebrating DH's birthday today, and I'm sure he had his last one only a couple of months ago, or thats how it seems to me.
As for the years since my 2 were born, well, they seem to have gone in a blink of an eye.

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shabbapinkfrog · 20/05/2012 08:22

Morning girls xx

Trips sending my love xxx

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bubby64 · 20/05/2012 21:14

Hi Trips- hope you have got some rest today. Your brothers will just have to manage with your mum this week, you have got your hands more than full, and they HAVE to pull their weight! Sending you my love and strength.xxxx
Oooggs - we have got tickets for the free evening torch event at Ipswich, the kids school were asked if they wanted to be on the torch route, but as there was not guarentee of what time the torch would come, where they would be and how long they would have to wait, as well as paying for the coaches, the school consulted the parents and the majority agreed it really would not be worth it for a 5 minute glimpse of the torch bearer.
Visited my mum today, I mentioned my dad, who passed away 25yrs ago, and she couldnt remember her own husband - she went a total blank, and asked who he was. I was just so shocked and upset that this dreadful disease has wiped out such a major person in her life.Sad

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shabbapinkfrog · 21/05/2012 06:46

Morning girls xx

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bubby64 · 21/05/2012 11:35

Morning to you too Shabbs, and to everyone else who can manage to pop inSmile

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oooggs · 21/05/2012 13:44

Estar there really aren't any words left to say, thinking of you all x Sad

shabbapinkfrog · 21/05/2012 13:49

The status I have been dreading putting on here...

It is finished. Daniel passed from darkness into light this morning. No more fighting, no more seizures. Just Jesus.

shabbapinkfrog · 21/05/2012 13:51

You are right oooggs...there are no words are there? Now begins the 'swimming through the treacle' for his family. Thinking about all the family xxx

HarrogateMum · 21/05/2012 14:22

Hello Shabs. Had to come on after I just read Estar's update. I'm sat here with tears rolling down my cheeks, so so sad. Do you happen to have an address for her, I would like to send a card, I know she will get so many but I have to. She was such a wonderfully inspiring, warm-hearted lady when I met her.

shabbapinkfrog · 21/05/2012 15:00

I have only got the hospital address BUT I have her friend on my FB and I will ask her. Keep thinking about Daniels twin and his little brother who gave the bone marrow to him. Too sad for words xx

HarrogateMum · 21/05/2012 17:07

Thank you I really appreciate it. Wish there was something I could say or do that would help but no words seem to work....

shabbapinkfrog · 21/05/2012 18:12

Have just talked to Estars friend. She has suggested that any Mumsnetters who want to send cards/letters should post them to me.....she is going to collect any from Facebook friends....then we will send them in a package. Of course she doesn't know me from Adam so I can understand why she said that. She says she wants to protect their privacy and doesn't feel she wants to give out their address. Think its probably the best way around it. If anybody on here hasn't got my address please just private message and I will send it to you.

Sad day....sad day indeed Sad

ChopstheScarletduck · 21/05/2012 19:05

:(

Will inbox you Shabs. Only moticed this a little while ago, and I can't imagine what they are going through. :( I've never had the chance to meet estar personally, but she seems an amazing person, and I hope their faith helps them get through the difficult times ahead.

HarrogateMum · 21/05/2012 19:50

Will send something to you Shabs. What a week it has been, a good friend lost her mum just over a week ago, the former husband of my best friend lost his second wife to cancer, and now this....

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oooggs · 21/05/2012 21:49

ok I am going to put this as I hope you will understand and I keep thinking about it. Shabs help me out here please. I have also tried to put this into words many times today so please forgive me if I don't get it totally right.

I can't stop thinking about Estar, DH and their dcs but especially Daniels twin. I keep looking at our dts. Lots of questions I wouldn't be able to answer, I am not a twin, but bonds are so special from the very begining.

Now I am twittering, sorry Sad even when things are kind of expected it doesn't make it easier

shabbapinkfrog · 21/05/2012 22:21

Oooggs you have hit the nail on the head my friend. My 'survivor' Danny says that even if I had never told him about Gareth he would have always known there was something 'different and wrong'. I keep going back, in my mind, to those first few hours and days after the loss of a child....its truly revolting - there is no other word for it. For a few seconds you 'forget' (of course you dont but I hope you know what I mean) and then suddenly it hits you so hard in the face. Its horrible.

All day I have been imagining (and I am NOT religious) my two lads waiting for Daniel - I know they would help if they could...I keep imagining them (and Trips Matthew) waiting and holding him close when he gets to them.

I feel ever so slightly emotionally ill tonight. xxx

triplets · 21/05/2012 23:02

Oh my...............I hope the light is shining on that special boy and indeed taken away the darkness he has lived in for some time. I like Shabs know how it will be, when the phones stop ringing to ask how you are, when life just carries on whilst you feel yours is over. When you go back into the supermarket and no longer need to buy his favourite yogurt..........sheer pain and heartbreak...............poor poor family xx

I feel almost bad now writing how my day has been, here I am upset and worried sick about someone who has had a very long life...........84 years. Mum came out of hospital last Frid as you know, Sat night she falls off of her chair and 999 come to her rescue. This morning at 6.40am my phone wakes me up, it was my sil to say my brother was at Mums, she has phoned him at 6.30am to say she had fallen again and this time cut her leg. Her bad leg. He called an ambulance as the cut was quite deep, she was taken back to Canterbury hospital and had 6 stitches put in and sent home. He picked me up on the way back with her, she was sat in a pool of pee in the car. I spent up until 7pm there today, cleaned her up, fed her etc. The district nurse came to look at her leg and was surprised to see how bad she looked and be sent home from hospital. The care worker came at 5pm and was shocked. Mum cannot now get up to get to the loo, she cannot get into the next room to go to bed. My brother is sleeping down there tonight as we know she isn`t safe. Tomorrow I have to call her new gp and get an assessment, call Social Services etc. She was supposed to have a new special mattress delivered today, I phoned and the comp said the request from the hospital only reached them this morning, too late for todays delivery, we get it on Frid!!!She needs to go into a convalescent home, see how she is there and we all need the break, I have never felt so tired. I got home at 7.15pm, feeling bad that I had left dk all day and he had to cook for the kids. He is still pretty weak after his lung op last Weds, came in to find he had cooked tagliatelli and chicken and had poured me a glass of wine! Have the phone by my side and am dreading it ringing in the night...............poor Mum
poor Estar and Richard xx

shabbapinkfrog · 21/05/2012 23:10

Its so hard when our parents are not well isin't it Trips? You kind of think they will live forever and never be ill. Life is such a pile of poo.

I caught sight of Estars FB status when I was playing some daft game on FB. I just caught her words in the corner of my eye and I didn't want to read it...really didn't want to. Sad ....the people who avoid you in the street because they dont know what to say....finding a favourite toy in an unexpected place....thinking that either your heart or head will burst...wouldn't go back to those early days of grief for a trillion pounds. Then there is the older grief....you know the one Trips...the one that suddenly jumps up and bites hard when you think you are doing so well. x

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bubby64 · 21/05/2012 23:58

I have just seen the sad news and am sitting here in tears. I only had my 2 girls for in the world for a few minutes and my heart broke, I can't imagine what it must have been like for you, Shabbs, and also you Trips, and now Ester and Richard, having your boys for time for them to make such an impact on the world, and then to leave such an un-fillable vacuum. J asked me the other day why I was crying, how could I say I was crying for his little sisters and for a child I have never met.
I was also crying for the much loved mum who I am losing bit by bit each week. I know that I am wishing her life away, but I I hate what is happening to her. Like you Trips, I am worried about what is going to happen to her, she has carers 4 times a day at the moment, but I know she is going to need more help very soon.
I am just rambling here, because everything seems to be going wrong in so many of our lives.

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bubby64 · 22/05/2012 00:25

I have just seen the sad news and am sitting here in tears. I only had my 2 girls for in the world for a few minutes and my heart broke, I can't imagine what it must have been like for you, Shabbs, and also you Trips, and now Ester and Richard, having your boys for time for them to make such an impact on the world, and then to leave such an un-fillable vacuum. J asked me the other day why I was crying, how could I say I was crying for his little sisters and for a child I have never met.
I was also crying for the much loved mum who I am losing bit by bit each week. I know that I am wishing her life away, but I I hate what is happening to her. Like you Trips, I am worried about what is going to happen to her, she has carers 4 times a day at the moment, but I know she is going to need more help very soon.
I am just rambling here, because everything seems to be going wrong in so many of our lives.

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triplets · 22/05/2012 06:22

Morning girls...........yes life is a pile of poo, but it is the only one we have. Today I am going to try and block out everything that is making my mind stir crazy. So back to normal...............ha ha.

Breakfast is served!!

shabbapinkfrog · 22/05/2012 06:49

Morning girls xx

Lovely spread Trips Grin xx

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bubby64 · 22/05/2012 13:07

I love smoked salmon- thanks Trips xx

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bubby64 · 22/05/2012 13:09

Don't know why last nights MSG went on twice, something to do with iPod I presume..,,

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shabbapinkfrog · 22/05/2012 13:46

Lew just went home with his Mummy....he has his cap on to prevent the sun from even touching his white, white skin Grin Have never noticed this before BUT he ran on in front of his Mummy. It was my Matthew running down the path...of course, I know it wasn't him, but he has the same clumsy run, and the skipping, even the way he moves his arms. Has shocked me so much that I feel sick. I wanted to follow them round to the bus stop to keep watching him.