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Anyone with Algerian husband?

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doublemuvver · 05/03/2011 12:17

Curious to know of others married to Algerians and what, if any, cultural differences/issues you have experienced. We've been married 6 years and have 2 kids (twins). Life is a bit of a rollercoaster sometimes.

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carlyroo · 24/06/2017 18:02

do you need to be married to Algerian to travel as he told me you have as we have 3 children out of wed ! said we can't go over for visit as not married

pinkspeckle · 27/06/2017 21:02

Think that might have more to do with what his family might think! I've never heard that before!

carlyroo · 27/06/2017 23:51

I thought it was a bit odd, he did say it's because he shouldn't of done everything 1st before marriage as against beliefs, worried at same time going there as safety but also kept on back a few years he wanted boys circumcised ! I said a big NO my eldest 13 and 2nd is 8 just worried about that situation over there moving he might take them somewhere for it to be done ! always got that q thing at the back of my mind.

pinkspeckle · 28/06/2017 00:03

Not trying to scare you but if you take the DC's to Algeria you need dad's permission to take them back out of the country as they will be classed as citizens over there! You know your partner best but that's what I worry about most!

Is partner Muslim? Can you not just get married at your local mosque if it's that important to him xx

carlyroo · 29/06/2017 22:28

I've been with him 15 years so it will be fine it's probably me over thinking he asked a few times I've said no and told him never to ask again and he haven't but even the boys told him no with out me interfering as my boys choice so I think he would respect that thou ! my almost 13 year old is now wanting to go algeria 1st time to see where his dad grew up to ECT as before never interested so think I need to pick up the courage and go just a week or 2 ! was thinking local mosque but I don't like attention or to say anything in service I have no confidence in that sort of thing.

BeeMyBaby · 30/06/2017 15:29

If you are staying in a hotel you will need separate rooms if you are not legally married, and they will check your passport for proof. Other than that no you do not need to be married to enter Algeria, but as already stated you will need your partners permission to get the children out of Algeria. I wouldn't worry about circumcision, you can just lie, no one is going to check! With regards to family, you can also lie about marriage, most people will just assume you are married unless you correct them.

carlyroo · 30/06/2017 21:32

ok thankyou for all the info ! big help and feel alot calmer.

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Sunshine0660 · 03/01/2018 22:49

Hello ladies ... i have never posted anything in discussions like this but browsing here and reading all through i decided to give a go . All of u are writing how nice your husband are how nice they tried you and so and so . My question is different my husband is really treading me nice like princes never missing anything we are together for almost 2 years but we are only maried under islamic law which means we still dont have a legal marriage cuz im scaried of that . My problem is with the trust im scaried to get to that step cuz he doesnt have paper and i think the only thing he wants to marrie me for is just because of that . He is so nice but my heart is just like frozen and so scaried im just 25 now if i marrie the guy and after 5 years he got what he wants whats gonna happen to me . I need to start my life all over again ?! How can i find out if its only because of that how can i be sure all this is not just a teater to get what he wants ? Is there anyone or anything that can guarantee that this men actually love me for who i am and he doesnt want only papers from me ? Please help me somehow to find the right way ... im so scaried to trust him about that...

BeeMyBaby · 19/01/2018 15:22

I suppose the doubt takes a long time to go, does he talk about wanting children with you?

ziggzagg · 19/01/2018 20:33

It would be the same with an English guy I suppose. Worrying about what could happen in 5/10 years is normal with any relationship regardless of nationality. Me and DH are pretty much in the same situation, married for 2 years in Mosque, planning our legal wedding and just had DS in December. Sometimes I wonder if he is just with me for a visa but it is only fleeting. I know he loves me and our son and would be with me regardless. We knew each other for 7 years before we got together, on and off relationship. I suppose you just have to trust your instincts, if it works out great, if not you move on to bigger, better things.

Kokokiki · 12/02/2018 23:18

hello, am new at mumsnet....i couldnt reply cause i dont know how the website works ...i saw your post and joined mumsnet just to reply... well am an Algerian mother and i advise you to be so careful as 98℅ of Algerian men marries Europeans just for documents and european passeport , no matter how long it takes , they are so patient about that, and they could leave with a European maximum 9 or 10 years and they divorce them and bring a wife from Algeria , be so careful my sister ,i dont know you but i just wanted to help you as this happened to my friend last week, he left her after he got his permission to stay, and they dont only do that to Europeans , they do it to Algerian women who lives abroad as i know many cases of an Algerian women living in France and end up by being left as they think that Algerian women who lives abroad got european mentality ....am an Algerian woman living in the uk married to a british pakistani and i d recommend to get married with an Algerian with documents ...this way you garantee that he wants you for who you are and not for what you got...cheersSmile .

BeeMyBaby · 26/06/2018 15:29

Sooooo... anyone ever thought about moving to Algeria? Anyone ever gone through with it?

Ziggzagg · 27/06/2018 17:12

Ive thought about it but we've settled on halfway between and are planning to move to Spain in around 5/6 yearsGrin

BeeMyBaby · 27/06/2018 21:59

Do you both speak Spanish? Do you have children?

Ziggzagg · 28/06/2018 00:18

I speak Spanish and yes we have 1 DS together and I have a daughter who will be 18/19 by then.

Prettyplease1 · 30/06/2018 21:23

Hi can I get advise please I've met a Algerian online we've been speaking for about 3 months he wants me to go visit him but I'm a bit scared travelling alone he says he loves Me but I'm reluctant to believe him and think he wants access to the UK as he talking about coming to stay with me and marriage and everything I'm 53 he's 35 any advise please

Ziggzagg · 30/06/2018 21:53

Honestly sounds a bit dodgy, I would just move on if I were you! It's too much, too soon and that's a massive age gap. Please be careful whatever you decide. There are decent men out there and I wouldn't like to tar all Algerian men (especially my DH because he's lovely) but this one sounds dodgy xx

Ziggzagg · 07/07/2018 01:20

Excited for my first holiday to Algeria in September!!

Anyone been September time? How hot is it? What did you wear? I've just ordered lots of maxi dresses and was thinking to get a few linen/light cotton shirts to wear over!

First time in-laws will be seeing DS, they're such lovely people I can wait to see them with him!

And of course we will be having a family party to celebrate mine and DHs wedding (got legally married in April but had Nikkah in April 16)!

Any advice for a first time traveler? What would you advise to do/places to visit?

BeeMyBaby · 07/07/2018 08:13

Make sure you wear a t shirt under the maxi dress as boobage is Hmm there. Don't do anything more than hold hands in public with your DH. And the French gardens in Algiers is lovely but avoid the mini zoo there as it's cruel due to incredibly small enclosures. Also be prepared for lots of random people touching your DS as they are very friendly there to children. It will have loads of mosquitos still so I would take anthisan.

BeeMyBaby · 07/07/2018 08:16

Just realised you stated you were going to get shirts for the dresses so please ignore my comment!

BeeMyBaby · 07/07/2018 08:24

I also just realised I presumed you would be staying in Algiers, where abouts will you be?

Ziggzagg · 07/07/2018 09:23

Thanks @BeeMyBaby! We're in Ouenza,, near to the Tunisia border but will be going to Algiers and Annaba for a few days.

Ah my maxi dresses are quite high necked anyway I just thought to cover my arms up!

BeeMyBaby · 07/07/2018 19:33

I've never been near that area. I'm sure you'll have a lovely time. How old is your DS now?

Ziggzagg · 07/07/2018 20:07

He's nearly 7 months, I'm just panicking about the heat over there! FIL said it was 42 degrees yesterday! Hopefully it's much cooler when we go!