Anyone with Algerian husband?

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Curious to know of others married to Algerians and what, if any, cultural differences/issues you have experienced. We've been married 6 years and have 2 kids (twins). Life is a bit of a rollercoaster sometimes.

Does anyone else's DH occasionally get interviewed by police on their return from Algeria for possible terrorism? He was interviewed about 7 years ago and again today. I wasn't sure if it's just something they do to all Algerians or just because he visits about 3 times a year?

Hi, not sure if anyone can help me, I'm a 20 year old British girl with an Algerian boyfriend (although he has lived in the U.K. since he was a baby) I am born Christian/atheist & he is Muslim. we have an amazing realationship however we are worried about the future & weather to continue our relationship due to the difference between our religion & culture. There is so much to take into consideration that we have almost ended our relationship over it, but our love always keeps us together. Has anyone got any advice to get over these hurdles (such as bringing up a child Muslim, alcohol, marriage, English tradition such as Christmas, difference in opinions, etc.)

Would love to hear everyone's advice

Thanks😊

Why are any of the above points hurdles?
Either you have agreed to just live your lives as you currently do or one of you is prepared to compromise the way you live and the culture you practise.
I think you need to think carefully about what you want out of life and how you may want potential children raised.
Irrespective of faith or culture, many adults choose to raise their children with the values and traditions they were raised with.

I was married to an Algerian for 15 years and travelled many times there, I must say i never had issues going out my ex had no problem with me going out shopping or sightseeing without him, I found the people very friendly and always had invitations for dinner or weddings.. I enjoyed the life and quite happily took on their culture....what i didnt like i would ignore without being disrespectful and could laugh about.... I feel its not that you cant go out but i feel the men are just protective of their wives in a foreign country...

My Algerian DH and I have been married almost a year after being in and out of a relationship for 8 years! Im going to meet his family in April near Annaba and Im really neevous! Im trying to get loads of tips on what to wear, presents to take etc any help would be great! He keeps telling me not to worry but thats the worst thing you can say to me

@worldCitizen... Very good question.. I was married for 15 years before i left.. The country i loved the culture wasnt a problem, but had someone gave me an insight into the Algerian mentality and possibly future issues.. That would of been valuable..would it of stopped me that i cant say... I must say while we were married i had a great relationship with his family.. And like other people i have experienced them going into my belongings... But i felt as they saw me as British and supposedly better off than there were... I saw it as curiosity... But at the same time quite rude...

@dmn1983 I would recommend taking chocolates as gifts (something like celebrations), my in laws love these and they wouldn't normally buy them for themselves. I got my mil the Masha electric potato masher as they have a dish that consists of loads of mash potato (with chicken) which has to be very softly mashed (they stick it through a potato ricer) and normally takes ages to make, maybe find out from your DH if that would be of interest. I suppose gifts depend on how well off his family are, if they lived in a main city like Algiers and were well off then they could probably buy most stuff there... otherwise nice hair care products for the women in his family?

Ah thats great thanks!! If I asked him it would be bloody primark pyjamas! I want to get something a bit original! What did you wear there im panicking most about that! Im covered in tattoos so obviously want to cover them but he keeps showing me these dresses that look like potato sacks! Haha any advice would be great!

@dmn1983 up to you what you wear, again it depends where about he is from, in Algiers the women wear hijab but afaik in the villages the women don't wear hijabs and a midi skirt would be acceptable. Jeans are always fine I reckon but perhaps not skinny ones... I don't wear low cut tops and I wear long sleeves when I go out, DH likes it when I wear maxi dresses but I tend to trip so don't bother unless it's summer. Basically just wear whatever you are comfortable in but make it a bit conservative.
Your dh's suggestion is not that bad, a lot of the clothes they sell there are made from man made materials and my in laws appreciate proper cotton (I've had requests for primark high cotton content socks before).

@mrslaichaoui I saw your post on aibu, what are his reasons for waiting?

Please can anyone help me I've been dating a guy from Algiers and things have become more serious as we want to get married and have a family only thing what seems to be the problem is that I do want to convert and don't know what to do please can someone help

Only convert if you really believe and feel it in your heart. Do not convert for your partner. He is permitted to marry a Christian or Jewish women as well as another Muslim.
I would suggest your local mosque would be a good starting point if you are interested in exploring Islam. Give them a call.

I've heard stuff on here and I'm worrying a little is there any way of getting married than decide to convert later on?

Surely you have discussed this with your partner? I'm a Christian my DH is Muslim, he has never asked me to convert and I've told him I wouldn't! How long have you been together? Have you met?

Like dddd my Dh is also Muslim and me Christian. He is not Algerian but Egyptian.We will be celebrating our 20th anniversary in September and not once has he asked me to convert and neither has his family.
Like I said previously a Muslim man can also marry a Christian or Jewish women and he must allow you to practice your religion freely.

He's coming to see me for the first time this year we've been together a yr and a few months. I want to marry him in the uk but he's telling me that his country won't allow it because I'm not muslim or converted to one I feel sometimes like im getting pushed

I'm asking as I'm not part of any religion

I would be very careful if I were you! I've known DH for 8 years, married for 18 months. A Muslim is permitted to marry a Christian, Jew or another Muslim. Not an unbeliever iyswim? So if you have told him you are not religious he may have reservations. Given the fact you have never met face to face or spent any considerable amount of time together I would be wary of making marriage plans with this man until you know him better and his intentions. Like I say I have known my DH for a long time before we married and know him inside out. Just be careful and don't rush into something you may regret later on!

I spoken and told him I need time to know him and more about his culture and he said he will help me but also said if I never convert he will leave me. We both love each other and buy each other but this obsticle keeps coming up

I'm worried because I love and care about him so much and afraid of losing him.

If you have never met the guy and already he is giving ultimatums like that I would cut my losses tbh.
Sorry to be harsh but it doesn't sound good.

I really second what @pinkmagic1 is saying! Cut your losses and find someone who won't demand you make this change! You sound incredibly naive to think that this relationship will work out considering what you have told us!

Thankyou for your help.