Anyone with Algerian husband?

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Curious to know of others married to Algerians and what, if any, cultural differences/issues you have experienced. We've been married 6 years and have 2 kids (twins). Life is a bit of a rollercoaster sometimes.

He can say, for example: "you don't need kids, you have a cat"

Hello. I'm with my Algerian partner for nearly 3 years. Have a 1 year old boy 🥰Known each other for 5-6 years. Used to work together. Living in London. Been to Bejaia earlier in the summer absolutely loved it! Wouldn't live there but it's a nice cultural shock 😁 luckily his family was very comforting.
Hope this thread is still alive!

Hi @MyBoyMyTreasure 👋

I have known DH for 12 years now, married for 4 with a 2 year old son. He's currently visiting his family in Algeria, this is the first time I haven't been there with him as I have to work

I discovered this discussion last night I started to read from the beginning. I'm really sorry for what some algerian men did
I'm Algerian and married to an Algerian men for 11 years now we have 3 children. Overall I'm happy some up and down as other couple but not related to the fact that he is Algerian. I think we Algerian are short tempered hot blood lol but big heart ❤️.
I can tell you that myself I have the culture of going out and spending time in coffee places instead of spending time with the family thanks godine don't do that in the UK too busy with work.
Men are macho you need to cook for them clean even if you both work still you have to do it,but there is no such thing as holding hand is not allowed when I go there if I'm more Muslim that some of them so westernised. I'm happy to answer any questions if anyone need to aks.

@Hamouchi thanks for joining the thread,sister. Sorry but what's wrong with Alg men and changing nappies ? He rarely changes my LO nappy and when we were in Alg not at all :( and expects big dinners cooked like in his mums home here in the West. I told him I haven't got always time to make dinner, if there is pizza for dinner sometimes he's moaning...I told him straight once is not his mum's home here, she almost kills herself with cooking when there. I always jump to help her cause she is old and ill. ..men are macho, I noticed women need to be more clever in order to handle Alg men

You made me laugh.,look an Algerian man will never change nappies only if your not home or extreme emergency when I was in beginning of pregnancy I could not cope with any smell if I change my daughter nappies I will throw so my hubby has to do it but all the time moaning 👹👹.ouhhh and not even expect him to do it when he is in algeria or his family is around they will say look how his wife is controlling him🤣🤣🤣🐕they will say he is a toutou means dogy 🤣🤣🤣
Concerning the food my is OK he like to eat a good couscous from time to time but he always ask me to do anything easy for me. It's true that we spend most of our time cooking and it annoys me and now with a baby I have to prepare quick things

Hi. I'm dating an Algerian man. I'm divorced and have 4 children from a previous marriage. He is single with no children. He seems in a rush to marry me. I have a home and a decent financial situation. He has nothing but a small apartment. He sends ALL of his money back home to his parents and brother. My feelings are that he is using me as a stepping stone to living a good life while he is here in the US. I love him very much and I'm looking for someone to grow old with BUT I get the sense that he will leave me when the time is right for him. I do not want my husband to leave me to visit another country without me. I wonder if he has a wife/kids in Algeria as he is super careful not to have children here. He is not investing anything here... not even trying to get a good job. He says he is happy to work as minimum as possible just to get by. He will leave me one day. I know it. =( Anyone else experience this with Algerian men?

Not much but living conditions are such that just living to get by in US may be fantastic living compared to working your socks off in Algeria. Is he a practicing Muslim as that might explain wanting to get married asap. Have you met his family online?

Hello lovely ladies. I would like to ask your opinions. I've just met an algerian man in UK. I'm 41 middle of a divorce he is 38. He told me honestly he doesn't have papers on the first date. We've been dating for a while now, and I told him I can't give him papers as my divorce will even take a year, so if he only wants that than it's better to find someone else. He seems really respectful, romantic and caring. At fist he was rushing the relationship, but by now he understands me after a shit marriage don't want to jump into anything again and now he slowed down. Do you guys think he is only after the papers or I can trust him. I'm scared if I let myself love him, he will not stay with me anyway.

I would be wary of any man without papers wanting to pursue a romantic relationship and rushing things regardless of nationality. I do know however two cases of men without papers this where the marriage has worked out. In both cases they shared the same religion and a similar cultural background but different nationalities. I do know another case where the woman was pretty much dumped when the papers arrived. You may be emotionally vulnerable following a divorce and some men prey on that.

SandraKokok20
Be rather aware of that.you might cannot get rid of him.
I can only tell my experience. First they are nice and caring, once you divorced he will turn the situation on you to pressure you to get married. He will maybe blackmail you saying you will be the reason if he get deported. After the marriage he slowly will take control over you. Like why are you going out so much, you better just stay at home and serve him! That's what happened to me, in over a decade slowly slipped into depression not even realising that it was all his influence. First we just moved house where he wanted to, took me away from my friends and my brother, than we had kids, no helping with them at all. Took us out twice a year to the seaside or a cinema, apart from.that he expected us to be just home all the time. Than he wanted to move back to Algeria. Didn't understand why he needed the papers if eventually he wanted to move back. Well, we are still here, middle of separation.
Very hard to get rid of him, and that's a big trap if he makes you miserable.
But if he doesn't make you miserable just leave you after he got his papers cleared -which takes years- than you are not good again. They believe they are possess you once you are married. There will be no respect of what you wanin life, you have to follow him, like it ornnot. Same for your future children!
I might see this very cloudy, just because of my own experience, but I heard way too many similar stories as mine.
My only advice is: RUN!
Change your phone number if you have to, just don't let him win!
You have an advantage of not being in love with him! Think clear! You can find better!
His paper probably is not yours, you don't have to save him! You don't own him anything!
Wishing you all the best!

Thank you for your answer. It's just weird for me, that someone would wait for me 1 year to divorce, so he can get what he want. In my opinion he could find someone younger to get it done quicker. So I'm in between what my logic tells me. If he want to use me, why telling me he doesn't have papers. And wait that much for me to even divorce. Pls tell me if a way to test his feelings and the men himself.

Thank you Mamoca. I'm running from the same marriage u just said. My husband was from Ghana, and narcissistic. I know what u r talking about. I told to this algerian guy, what if I dont want to marry him, what if I dont want to give him the papers. He said ok he still want me. I told him I don't want to marry again. He said ok anyway he only need the papers to go see his mom. I told him I don't want to go to his country also. So I don't know where to put this guy....he is putting a lot of effort into our relationship, I also have a daughter from the Ghanaian husband I'm still married to. I just started the divorce process, so it will take around q year.

SandraKoko20 so happy for you to leave that marriage!
I think for the Algerian it's just comfortable, you are there already and he might think he can manipulate you. It's pretty hard to find somebody else. Or he thinks that if he gets you pregnant you will marry him. I don't know.
There's one thing popped into my mind. I had a very good friend who once asked me this: (and I don't mean to be rude)
He said,once you stepped into a poop why would you want to step into it second time again?
I don't think Africans are for us. X

Hahaha than good luck making me pregnant as I have IUD. He knows that :D well I have one year to figure out what are his intentions until my marriage with my ex will be done. Thank you guys

How do you manage if he hangs on to his money?

Hope you can find a lady solicitor. If not, you might get ripped off!

100% necessary to put padlocks on all doors and even cupboards if they have access. It's not being nosy or stealing - it's being caring and sharing!

Hi. Not married yet, but in Algeria and locked in was the worsed part.