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Anyone with Algerian husband?

294 replies

doublemuvver · 05/03/2011 12:17

Curious to know of others married to Algerians and what, if any, cultural differences/issues you have experienced. We've been married 6 years and have 2 kids (twins). Life is a bit of a rollercoaster sometimes.

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Ziggzagg · 23/10/2018 11:52

It's absolutely fine Bee! That's what we're here for! I know how demanding they can be!! My way or the highway!! Anytime you need tochat or vent is fine👌 I'm here!!

headstone · 08/11/2018 14:04

Beemybaby my husbands the same . I’m meant to take on the role of his mother and of course I don’t match up apparently. I really don’t understand the culture that expects the wife to become the new mum.

Ziggzagg · 18/11/2018 17:02

How are you Bee? I was thinking about you today... We are definitely going in January now. Just one thing after another delaying us.

I hope you're finding it better now! Keep your head up!

BeeMyBaby · 20/11/2018 07:05

I've had many discussions with DH and he seems to have chilled out with the motherly comparisons so I've just been left to get on with life which is much less stressful.
I think January will be a lovely time to visit as it's really cooling down now and is around 20c during the day, so much more pleasant, a lot less flies. Plus they don't tend to have parties in the winter (weddings all happen in spring/summer it seems) so I'm sure your family are really really looking forward to your visit now!

Ziggzagg · 20/11/2018 08:59

Ahh that's good!

Yes we've booked a week in a hotel near Annaba so we are not with his family all the time! Hopefully it will just be nice and mild weather wise. And of course I love a good party Wink

BeeMyBaby · 27/12/2018 17:33

Ziggzagg how long till your trip now? I was thinking if you are going to be sightseeing at all then it might be an idea to get a shewee as public toilets here are absolutely horrendous

Helprequire · 03/01/2019 07:28

Happy new year all.. just found this tread of conversation unsure if it's still live.. but I am in need of some advice..

After 14 years of marriage to an Algerian man am ready to call it a day. I need support to file the divorce papers in Algeria but unable to locate this form or the necessary papers. Can't ask my DH as he is worthless, his mates are no good. So I need help to locate an Algerian lawyer who I can trust to help me through this process. The Algerian consulate are not really helpful and trying to contact the British Embassy is difficult no one answers the phone. Pretty please can anyone help I need out before my mental health gets affected anymore. Thank you in Advance.

BeeMyBaby · 03/01/2019 11:31

Is there no way to dissolve the marriage in the uk if you are living in the uk, even if you originally married in Algeria? I say this as Algeria is still so reliant on paperwork and physically handing it in yourself that it might be difficult to do so whilst abroad. It would probably have to be a lawyer located in the Wilaya you originally married in. Do you know what it entails at all?

Ziggzagg · 17/01/2019 17:56

Hi @BeeMyBaby Grin hope you're well and all settled in now!

We have booked flights for the 10.02 me and DS have our visas! Only dozy DH had bloody 8 weeks left on his passport so we've had to renewConfused

I've booked my time off work, I'm going with or without DHGrin

BeeMyBaby · 26/01/2019 07:04

Hopefully it's the uk passport that has expired as that tends to only take a week at this time to get a new one. Make sure you take plenty of warm clothes for nightime as it will probably still be quite cold.

Ziggzagg · 26/01/2019 13:51

No it's his Algerian passport, he doesn't have a UK one Confused

BeeMyBaby · 26/01/2019 16:52

Sad maybe they have sped up now it's biometric, they used to take a long time as they had to be sent to Algeria or something peculiar where everything tends to be very slow. He should keep phoning the consulate to check where it's at.

Ziggzagg · 26/01/2019 18:40

🙈🙈 oh don't say that!! We tracked it and it said it's in Algiers SadSad looks like I'm going on my own Wink

BeeMyBaby · 26/01/2019 19:50

You still have a couple of weeks at least, I think the issue I am probably remembering was when biometrics was new to Algeria. Im sure I am scaring you for nothing!

Ziggzagg · 27/01/2019 00:28

Fingers crossed 🤞🏼

Ziggzagg · 31/01/2019 21:26

It's ready Grinwe're going yay!!!

BeeMyBaby · 31/01/2019 21:31

Yay! In the nick of time! Only 10 days before you fly...

Ziggzagg · 09/02/2019 07:15

We're off today! I'm quite excited now! Weather looking not too bad eitherGrin

BeeMyBaby · 09/02/2019 16:12

Waiting to hear about your observations about Algeria! It's very different from the U.K.!

Ziggzagg · 14/02/2019 19:40

Counting the days until I can go home!! People are lovely, but my lack of Arabic is draining me!! We're staying in DHs parents house so everything is multiplied by about a million!! Will deffo need a hotel booking next time!!

BeeMyBaby · 18/02/2019 07:48

Sometimes hotels there are not that nice/clean and you'd be paying a lot of money to get something British standards, at least your in laws probably keep everything very clean. Plus staying at a hotel would mean you miss out on the point of the trip which is spending lots of time with your inlaws. However, there was quite a few times that I was 'busy' with work and just let my DH take the children to visit on his own due to similar issues Blush.

Mamoca · 27/02/2019 19:58

Hi everyone. First time here. I have an Algerian husband. We are married 7 years now. I thought women are not allowed to seek a divorce at all. I have just read it above.
And my question about everyone saying the wife cannot bring the children back from Algeria. So what do I need if I want to come back with my children without him? An authorization letter from him? I can't imagine, I didn't know this.

BeeMyBaby · 27/02/2019 20:23

They've actually changed the law in Algeria recently and you don't need an authorisation letter anymore from your husband, I think maybe your family book is enough. You'd have to look into it more. It used to be a letter from the police before I think. Anyway like all laws in Algeria it might change suddenly do best to check when you are entering through the airport, what documents you would require to leave with your children but without your husband accompanying you.

Mamoca · 27/02/2019 21:23

Thank you. I have actually never seen that so famous family book. Have you?
My husband wants to move back to Algeria, but I don't want to. I am afraid one day when we go there to visit he might want to send me back in the Uk without my kids. I am not sure if he could definitely do that, but sometimes I have a feeling he would play me out. :(

BeeMyBaby · 27/02/2019 23:00

Yes I have seen our family book of course, there is space for many wives for DH, haha.
There are a few cases of men absconding with the children and Algerian officials know where they are and meet with them but don't make the husband give them back and other countries have very little say in the matter. I guess you just have to trust that you didn't marry a complete bastard and that he loves you and would rather stay in whatever country you are in.