Husband sacked Can anyone help me work out what we can claim?

[felttippens]

I'm completely confused ! We have three children - age 7 11 and 15
I'm self employed but only earnt 4k last year
He now doesn't have a job
We have a mortgage

What do we do???? Xxx

He doesn't give a shiny shit, treading.

So he was either in denial as to the seriousness of the deceit or didn't believe they would actually sack him. Did he actually come clean at the time of his suspension or did it take a while for you to find out the detail ?

Either that or he's stupid/stoned beyond words

He told me the day he was suspended for it (but not when crb was needed )

Off the top of my head if you are working 30 hours you should get around £12k in tax credits as a family

Depending on what he did in the NHS, there's a chance he could move across to teaching, at university level so no CRB issue. He would need to get his head out of his arse though and get on with reskilling.

We CRB checked our academic employees at the RG Uni where I worked.

The real issue is he did not declare the offence on the application.

Ffs! He's such a wanker.

treading this 'man' is not a good person to have in your life right now.

Their main concern wasn't declaring on the crb but declaring in his former job at the time of offence to both his employer and the HPC

The letter states the trust has the right to inform the HPC but doesn't state if they have/will

They have also offered appeal but not sure what his appeal would be

Contact cab for advice but I would also contact your mortgage provider as they may be able to give you a payment holiday. My bro managed to do this when he was made redundant.

Then get him to register with recruitment agencies and they might be able to help find an alternative to working in the NHS.

Hope things work out for you.

Income support is not just for people with kids under five there are other reasons you can get it, parental
Leave is one not sure of the others but worth checking.

I'm at a friends going through papers to start gettin an appeal down on paper and I'm thinking what's the fucking point - leaving him is looking more and more likely x

OP, don't waste your energy on his appeal. From what you've said there's no grounds for it at all.

Focus on getting support for you and your children.

It does sound like there's no future for you and him. The fact he couldn't be arsed to collect the letter from the post office is testament to that.

If he's still smoking weed now he has zero income despite having very little hope of a job on anything like the salary he was on and having 3 children there's no hope really.

Good luck.

Hang on , it is his appeal . If he won't even sit down with you there is little point even if he has the slightest grounds. He may be being dismissed due to this but how good was he at his job anyway if he is so apathetic now?

By all accounts he was amazing in his job- his boss described him as an exemplory employee ?!? Go figure

He won't get jsa fir himself if he was dismissed for gross misconduct. He may be able to claim hardship payments for you depending on your earnings.
You also need to claim child tax credits

Talk to the cab or a similar organisation

It is worth appealing, but only if he takes and follows professional advice and actually gets involved in the appeal himself.

You poor thing, you must feel almost at breaking point with it all.

I think you need to stop thinking about him for a while and think about you and your kids. You cannot make him make good choices for you all , but you can and must stop him dragging you all down in the process.

Think long and hard about whether you can stay together, both short and longer term. For what it's worth, in your situation the drug use would be a deal breaker for me, I could not have anyone using drugs in my kids' home, and especially not my husband. I would ask him to leave temporarily to give you space to work out what YOU want to do next. It is then up to him to work out what he does.

And then I would, as has been said, contact the mortgage company, CAB and benefits advice, whilst also searching for any feasible fulltime job. Call in every favour and contact you might have, and fling yourself on people's mercy with regards to the mortgage company etc. Explain fully the situation you as a mother have been left in by your husband's actions. Escalate higher and higher if you can until you find someone in each company who will listen and help.

I am so sorry he has done this to you. I am quite sure you will get through it, you sound capable, hardworking and strong... but I am so sorry you have to go through it in the meantime. Do keep posting here at each stage, the wealth of knowledge on here is incredible.

Keep going, OP. Keep your head above water. Rooting for you.

Why are you doing all the work here? This speaks volumes to me. He is doing nothing about it because he doesn't give a shit. He is still using drugs.

I'd ask him to leave, tbh, and see what you can do.

Agree expat, he should be getting this sorted for OP; it's the least he can do

It's his job. His actions say he doesn't care about it, his kids, the house they are in/them becoming homeless, the OP.

I have to agree with Expat. He the one you should be sorting out his mess, not you.

While you are worrying about the mortgage, how to pay your bills, feed your family whatever little money he earning through labouring he smoking or pissing it up the wall. I'm sure you could do a lot with £30 per day.

You have two options either get him out and try to get on with you and your children life. Or get dragged down even further. I know which one I would choose.

You have two options either get him out and try to get on with you and your children life. Or get dragged down even further. I know which one I would choose.

Sadly I think this is indeed what it's boiled down to :(