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Husband sacked Can anyone help me work out what we can claim?

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felttippens · 08/06/2014 11:27

I'm completely confused ! We have three children - age 7 11 and 15
I'm self employed but only earnt 4k last year
He now doesn't have a job
We have a mortgage

What do we do???? Xxx

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Waltermittythesequel · 08/06/2014 19:08

So hang on;

He has a record for possession and he never told them about it?

Then took the promotion without declaring it (was he specifically asked?)

Now it's come up and he's been sacked for not telling them is that it?

After a six month suspension? So was there a chance that he wouldn't have been sacked? Was there a reason they decided to go ahead and sack him after the suspension?

Is there a chance of appeal?

slartybartfast · 08/06/2014 19:09

ring tax credits,
ring your council
ring your mortgage people.
ring credit cards.

and get him to job centre.

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felttippens · 08/06/2014 19:13

He got caught with a small amount of cocaine 5 years ago whilst on a 'lads' boozy trip to Blackpool - he got 'a slap on the wrist' and let straight back out, don't think he ever thought of it again, I didn't know about it

He was already in his job, didn't feared this to his employers at the time.

He applied for and got the promotion which involved crb - he didn't declare (reckons he had no idea it was recorded)

It then comes back on crb, he is already working in new post for 6 weeks and gets suspended

There have been various hearings and at the most recent he was told the outcome was dismissal for not declaring it to employer at the time

We're still waiting for paper work to confirm it all and give options but yes if there's opportunity to appeal he will be - whether or not it's relevant I was very Ill with severe depression at the time so he was probably v stressed with that ( there was a period of time he had to have compassionate leave to take care of me and the kids due to the state I was in )

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felttippens · 08/06/2014 19:15

He has worked for last few days labouring for a mate but earning barely anything (and is a fellow smoker so terrible influence ) how he thinks we'll pay mortgage and bills I don't know

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TheBogQueen · 08/06/2014 19:16

You are going to have to start looking for a ft job ASAP. Having done financial security for the children is the main goal now.

Your husband obviously at a low ebb at the moment - you know he needs to start thinking about future career, can he talk to an advisor?

Waltermittythesequel · 08/06/2014 19:17

Under those circumstances the dismissal seems extremely harsh.

If he was unaware that he had a record, I mean. Though how that happened I have no idea!

He needs to get down to CAB as do you.

Sending you support Flowers

slartybartfast · 08/06/2014 19:18

what a night mare
but there can be a resolution.

TheBogQueen · 08/06/2014 19:19

Sorry x-post with just about everyone!

slartybartfast · 08/06/2014 19:19

i thought these things were only on CRB for 5 years?

Waltermittythesequel · 08/06/2014 19:20

I do still think though, that you need to consider the ramifications of staying with him.

He smokes and drinks all day while you're worrying about to keep a roof over your heads?

You would be entitled to more benefits if you were on your own, to top up your income or while you look for something full time.

Meanwhile he's gone back to 'smoking' with his mates. Is he 15?

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felttippens · 08/06/2014 19:20

It seems very stupid that he didn't think it went on record, he has been very naive

I am shocked it came to this he had a lot of support from his boss/ head of department and even interviewed for his own job as per nhs cuts during the suspension as was successful

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felttippens · 08/06/2014 19:21

Slarty - it was either just within the time or with enhanced crb it never 'expires'

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HermioneWeasley · 08/06/2014 19:22

Ignore anyone on this thread saying he can't/shouldn't have been dismissed for that. It's a perfectly legitimate reason for dismissal.

I'm afraid I can't comment on what you can claim, but didn't want anyone taking you down a rabbit warren of suing the employer.

Do you want to stay married to him? Can you downsize where you live to somewhere cheaper?

notapizzaeater · 08/06/2014 19:22

Has he spoken with his union for support ? Can he appeal the decision ?

Ratbagcatbag · 08/06/2014 19:23

You also need to be careful, if you work full time he will be responsible for the children, which in itself is worrying given he's back to smoking and drinking, however if he carries on and you decide to leave he could end up as resident parent.

slartybartfast · 08/06/2014 19:23

so he knows for future jobs on a crb he will have to declare his caution.
bad way of finding out.
but you can move on.

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felttippens · 08/06/2014 19:23

Drinking is less of a problem although he is drinking more than usual - drink isn't his issue it's the smoke

I've recently had massive ultimatum about it not being used anywhere near kids or house so now he is smoking away from home but still stoned

Stoned as we speak with a mate in our garden while I hole up in my room

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slartybartfast · 08/06/2014 19:25

He is suffering of course.
look at Turn to Us. get your paper work in order. start tomorrow with everything you can claim for

careeristbitchnigel · 08/06/2014 19:25

OP, was he cautioned ? Depending on his role i thought you only had to declare convictions, not cautions although as it's class As it may be policy as it's NHS.

Can he appeal ? We are in a similar position, we are police and DH is currently suspended with several others in a case which is politically sensitive for the force. Dh has not done anything wrong but as the senior officer at scene he is being held accountable for the twattish actions of someome not even on his team Angry. I really feel for you, it's terrifying. Is he in unison ? Did he get a barrister for the disciplinary panel ?

Waltermittythesequel · 08/06/2014 19:25

Ignore anyone on this thread saying he can't/shouldn't have been dismissed for that

Who has said that?!

he could end up as resident parent

I don't think so.

Responsible, employed parent -v- deadbeat with drug and alcohol problem?

slartybartfast · 08/06/2014 19:25

how long ago was he sacked btw?

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felttippens · 08/06/2014 19:25

Slarty it's not as simple as that as to do his job he has to be on professional register which he is no longer part of so literally can't even apply for similar jobs he has to start again

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sixlive · 08/06/2014 19:25

So he has been suspended for 6 months and in that time hasn't he applied for any jobs?

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felttippens · 08/06/2014 19:26

I've been looking at rentals today but nothing as cheap as where we live now , mortgage is pretty cheap due to extended the mortgage terms back up to 35 years recently

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felttippens · 08/06/2014 19:26

Ratbagcatbag? Really???

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