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Emmsys angels xxx support for mummies of lost angels part 4 xxxxx

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littlebellsmum · 13/03/2009 20:44

Less sadness, more joy but always lots of lovely people who understand

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GracieGirl · 14/03/2009 16:42

Another new thread. I hope everyone finds their way to the new one.

Kate - Do you need more Mini Eggs? Or what was that thing you were eating the other day- digestive biscuits dipped in butter???

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littlebellsmum · 14/03/2009 20:42

I hope so too but if we keep it nice and active, then hopefully the others will find it. Wasn't clever enough to manage to link the two threads.
How are you today GG? And do you have any mini eggs to spare, I'd love some!. Maybe I'll go back on Slimmining world next week...

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ScorpiowithabigS · 14/03/2009 20:43

One of my friends has announced a pg - due same week as my lost one. So odd to hear. Its her first too and totally not on the cards from outsiders point of view. She is just over 12 weeks and so chuffed, but i cried. She was going to public announce tonight (girly night planned but mimi ill so im in) so im so happy i wasnt out! She didnt know about me.

Thankyou all for 'letting' me pop in and out

GracieGirl · 15/03/2009 11:17

Scorpio you pop in and out as often as you like, that's what we're here for. .

LittleBellsMum - I think there is a national shortage of Mini Eggs, all gone! Off to the shops to buy more later, I'm on nights again and can't do night shifts without chocolate!

Where is everyone else?????

ScorpiowithabigS · 15/03/2009 11:53

Thankyou I feel ok after a sleep, getting happy for her, and she will look after her bean so that's good, iyswim

I'm 5 weeks after mc now, and no period.

barbie1 · 15/03/2009 12:05

hello girlies, this is the first emmsys thread that i havent started! it made me smile for two reasons, the first being that i have finally moved on (and feel quite happy on my new thread) and secondly is that the thread is still going strong and is a great support to others..keep up the good work and remember if you need us pop over to the other thread and yell, one of us will be there for you xxx

anniecam38 · 15/03/2009 12:27

Hi everyone, im still around, still having bad days but thankfully my good days are outweighing the bad. I should have been having my 20 week scan about now, instead im waiting and hoping that im going to get a BFP this month.
One mistake that im not going to do when i get pregnant again is tell our DS too early, we told him last time when i was 12 weeks on our way to the scan-the one which discovered our LO had no heartbeat. When i was mc-ing he asked why i was crying and i told him our baby was poorly and had gone to heaven, he didnt ask too many questions so we thought he would just forget about it, he is only 3, but yesterday we had to go to the eye hospital with him as the cat had scratched his eye (thankfully no great harm done), and i noticed the Dr looked like the one who had done my scan, when we got back in the waiting room my DS piped up at the top of his voice in a packed waiting room 'mammy,our baby was poorly and was bleeding and she,s gone to Heaven to be with Granda Charlie hasnt she, that Dr told us', i felt so sad as his little face was full of concern, i dont know where he got the bit about the bleeding from because i wouldnt let him come into the toilet when i went, he must have heard me and DH talking. I just really really want a brother or sister for him so much now.

I hope everyone is as well as can be, roll on Spring-new beginnings and all that. X

kate030284 · 15/03/2009 18:05

hi all ive made it to thread 4 lol

hope everyone is well im doing ok up and down but eating loads yes it is also mini eggs .
finaly stopped bleeding yeah !!!!! nearly 3 weeks and its 5 days post ERPC

hope to speak soon

big hugs xxxx

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littlebellsmum · 15/03/2009 20:34

Evening ladies
Scorpio - your af might be just round the corner. It's 5 weeks and 4 days since my mc ( I'm not counting , just had to check), and I think my af has just started.
Which is a bit of a bummer really as I was starting to think, (ok hope), that I might be pregnant again already... It had been so long and we weren't doing anything to prevent pregnancy ...

And I was even going so far as to think did I really want to be pregnant - I am lucky enough to have 2 dc's who are 4 and 5 and just great and am a bit worried about starting again with nappies, no sleep etc and how a lo would rock the boat iyswim.

It was just such a knee jerk reaction when I mc'd - I just wanted to be pregnant again. But actually, I think I just wanted to be pregnant again with the baby I'd lost, rather than a new one. Having said that I was starting to think a november due date would be quite nice and I'm surrounded by newborns at the moment - 4 people I know have had babies since I mc'd and I've seen them all to bloody often

Anyway, I've now got the rest of a bottle of wine to finish, have had a nice bath and am probably going to go to bed to be all maudlin. And I was feeling so much better - as we have all said, it hits you when you least expect

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MummyLovesSadie · 16/03/2009 21:09

Knock knock... oooh a nice new cave, glad I stumbled upon it as the old one was a bit empty with just me & an empty vodka bottle!

Annie for your ds, they are just so small and innocent but they pick up on everything.

We have started ttc again as even though I've not had proper af (just three days of pathetic bleeding 3 weeks post mc) I think I might be about to ov. Also been temping again & that indicates that I'm in pre-ov phase.

Queue over-thinking...

anniecam38 · 16/03/2009 21:45

MLS-Its hard not to over think when all you want is to become pregnant, i am more than guilty of that.
I ov,d at the weekend and i so hope i get my BFP, i know i will be devestated if i dont. My DH really annoyed me by saying 'well if it doesnt happen this month it doesnt matter, theres always next month or the month after'-helloooo-it does matter though, my every waking moment consists of me wishing to be pregnant and stay pregnant for 9 months.

MummyLovesSadie · 16/03/2009 22:03

Annie tell me about it!!!! If they knew how much we actually spend thinking about getting pregnant/staying pregnant/ov dates/due dates/temps/cervical position/cervical mucous/cycles etc etc etc, then I'm sure we would all be abandoned & the menfolk would go off to an island to all live together without our mental-ness to drive them insane!

GracieGirl · 17/03/2009 07:53

MLS you are probably right, that's why we have Mumsnet, so we can get it out of our system on here, then pretend to be normal the rest of the time!

kate030284 · 17/03/2009 09:25

yeah i agree mumnet has been great to me aswell as my friends and lots of chocolate lol
hope you all ok
xxx

ScorpiowithabigS · 17/03/2009 10:18

Hi everyone, just letting oyu all know my period turned up today, so last cycle was pretty much normal for me at 36 days. It's very crampy though. Kind of sad, kind of not.

Also this next month ttc isa no-goer as DH is away in Thailand when im fertile.

Jacanne · 17/03/2009 10:26

Hi, I'm 8 weeks pregnant and pretty sure that I am miscarrying. I started to get a brownish discharge when I wipe - same thing that happened in my first pregnancy. I'm off to the EPU this afternoon. I'm feeling really sad and a bit angry - we've been trying for this one for well over a year - I'm 39 and I don't think I'll get another chance. I know I am lucky because I have 2 healthy, beautiful daughters but I did so want a third. Please keep your fingers crossed for me.

ScorpiowithabigS · 17/03/2009 12:34

Jacanne - love to you, and hoping you get a good result today.

GracieGirl · 17/03/2009 13:51

Jacanne - my fingers and toes are crossed. I really hope you don't get bad news today. Let us know how you get on today, we're all here if you need anything.

Jacanne · 17/03/2009 16:21

Thank you so much. I'm happy to say that it was good news - baby was there, measuring right for dates and had a strong little heart beat. They can't explain the bleeding. So I am happy but will be happier when the bleeding stops. I can't believe that the baby was okay - I'd convinced myself that it would all be the same as last time.

BionicEar · 17/03/2009 16:52

Hi Jacanne - glad baby ok despite your fears. guess you won't rest until bleeding stop - but recall some peep I know bleeding whilst pg and have produced healthy babies - so try to focus on positive.

Rest of gang - hope you're all ok and having a fairly ok day. I'm feeling more brighter and not as weepy/moody as I was!

Enjoyed the sunshine today and did some "tidying up" in garden which was quite theraputic!

GracieGirl · 17/03/2009 17:39

Jacanne thats wonderful news!!

Just finished my run of night shifts, not sure whether to have breakfast or dinner now, I might solve the dilemma by eating Mini Eggs instead which work well at any time of the day!!

Well done Bionic do you want to come and tidy up my garden too??

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littlebellsmum · 17/03/2009 20:35

Good evening ladies - MLS good to see that you found us .
Kate,Annie, Gracie, Bionic and Scorpio - good to hear from you all

And good to hear that so many are moving on to ttc!!

Jacanne - great to hear your news. In this little cave, it only ever seems to be bad news and so, good news is a really relief. I'm sure you would have another chance at 39 - well, I have to say that, I'm 39 and I really want another chance!!

Scorpio - feel pretty similar over AF, but over all pretty sad

Having a rubbish week at work which really isn't helping - I'd much rather in in my garden like Bionic!
Take care all and share those mini eggs!!!

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kate030284 · 17/03/2009 21:11

hi all

yeah some good news thats really great jacanne.

my dp is really struggling im not quite sure how to help him hes off work at mo as keeps crying . dp work was not helpful at all when i mc(after scan he had to go to meeting i had to go home alone) and wen i was in hospital. his boss was horrible to him . i think its all come to a head and this was a release .

Jacanne · 17/03/2009 21:30

Thank you again - I really hope you all have good news soon!

BionicEar · 18/03/2009 11:56

Kate - just wanted to say hope DP work improve in being supportive. I think it does hit men as well, and people forget that.

It's good he's now able to express it.

My DH isn't really dealing with it too good either, but keeps bottling it up now, on top of his worries about jobs, as his current job will end in July.

I've had a little bit of a weepy morning, but plan to get out and about this arrvo with my LO when I get her from nursery. Ah these ruddy hormones eh?!

GracieGirl - not sure you would have wanted me in your garden - was hacking away at the dead plants rather madly! Still cheaper than therapy eh?!